There is a famous saying that “No love is greater than a mom’s love and no care is greater than a dad’s care.” It is one of the best moments of life when you make your parents smile. But with age, many things change and that is the law of life. At a certain age, you may feel that your parents are not understanding you and vice-versa. Maybe you don’t feel like calling them or returning home just to avoid any banter with them. Not only teenagers but adults also face this challenge at some point in their life. Career change, lack of relaxation, health issues, insurance premium, loans, EMI, dreams, aspirations, etc. – there are too many factors that cause a bump in this beautiful relationship.
With a few simple ways, you can mitigate this problem from your life. Read below:
Treat them as Fellow Adults and not Parents
A lot of teenagers and some grown-ups complain that their parents don’t treat them like an adult. You have to understand that your age difference would always remain the same with them and thus you would always remain a kid to them. But, you have to help them let you grow up. Treat them like your fellow friends or acquaintances and things would get better. If you start practicing this, they would finally understand that you have grown up.
Nothing can beat the tonic of laughter when it comes to feeling easy in any relationship. Make a habit of sharing nice jokes, reading out a funny e-mail, or narrating a meme would be suggested. There would always be some amount of stress in life (both you and your parents) and humor helps to alleviate that. Remember that if you can laugh together, you are definitely doing ok!
Share Your Problems
There cannot be anyone else in this world who can understand you better than your parents. Even when they know that you are wrong, they would try to support you because of the unconditional love they have for you. This logic would also apply here when you feel that they don’t understand you. Don’t keep silent or keep sulking in a corner, instead, share whatever is bothering you. With due respect to them, narrate which are the problems that are bothering you. If your mom or dad calls you in the daytime which hampers your professional performance, you must share that challenge with them.
Seek Opinion Only When You Require
Sometimes, you ask your parents “what to do” in certain situations. Well, that is a way of seeking their permission or letting them know that you are still not capable of taking your own decisions. From selecting the color of the car to buying the living room furniture – you are capable enough as an adult to go choose what suits your taste! Parents would always want the best things for their child and in case they are providing a piece of advice, smile and look at it but always keep the final decision to yourself without any guilt.
Solve Your Personal & Financial Crisis on Your Own
As a grown-up adult, you should be fully responsible for yourself. Yes, of course, you need your parents for an emotional support but seeking help from them to solve your personal or financial crisis would not be a great idea. Somewhere, you would also be proud of yourself to deal with your own challenges. This would boost your confidence and your parents would also be proud of you.
Look out for Common Interests
The common interest can be anything like traveling, biking, hiking, fishing, reading, movie-watching, shopping, baking, dancing, singing, etc. Always look out for shared interests to spend some more quality time with them. When you share a common interest in some kind of activity, you naturally come closer to them. If your parents love to visit historical places, go with them, because who knows you may end up loving history too. Similarly, you can introduce your parents to Netflix and you never know, you would end up spending all the weekends watching Prime Videos together!
Always be Grateful
To sustain any kind of relationship, gratitude plays an essential role. You may not like a certain habit of your parents but you simply ignore the fact that they are the reasons behind your life. So, don’t miss any small to big opportunity to appreciate their efforts as a parent. When you thank more for the good things, better things materialize.
Communication in a relationship is like the oxygen. Without proper communication, the relationship dies and thus, use these very simple methods in your daily life and improve your relationship with your parents.