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In an era where looks matter the most. One just doesn’t have to be physically appealing to make impressions but it’s sort of running up to a way of living & earning. Stuck in such generation are those who are trying constantly to escape issues like depression, anxiety, panic disorder and more such mental disorders due to ample reasons. Reasons that begins with personal issues to endless reasons. There isn’t a particular cause for deteriorating mental health. People focus on staying healthy & fit by going to the gym, exercising, eating healthy, to enhance their physical appearance. What we don’t realize is mental health is as important as physical health! After reading this blog, you’ll have 5 easy & effecting ways to keep your mental health fit.

1. Practice Self-Reflection
Practice Self-Reflection
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Out of all the things that affect our mental health, not knowing ourselves affect us the most. Once a person knows themselves. They’ll know how to tackle the problems that the world throws at them. Every day take out at least 15 minutes of your day to self-reflect. By self-reflect, talk to yourself because no one is judging you. Spend some time alone, let out your emotions, and cry if you wish to. Self-reflection helps in learning about our fundamental nature, purpose & essence. Stand in front of the mirror and assess what you see in the reflection. Assessing a reflection is helpful in learning what you perceive.

2. Know Yourself
Know Yourself
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Identify your weaknesses & strengths. Try and gather information about yourself, such as how do you react to certain things, how do you work & grasp things while learning. When you know your weaknesses, you can work on them. Set up some goals for yourself to overcome those weaknesses. Knowing your strength you’d know where to work and how much you can work without overexerting your brain. Individuals need to know their strong & weak points in order to attain what they actually need while moving further in life.

3. Work Out or Brain Muscles
Work Out or Brain Muscles
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As much as working out is important for physical health. It is equally important for mental health as well. While we’re working out our body muscles, this process delivers oxygen to our brain which further helps in improving memory, reasoning abilities & reaction times. Working out brain muscles also mean work your brain out too. For this, you can watch game shows, quiz shows. While you watch and get entertained try answering the question to exercise general knowledge.

4. Find a Hobby
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Diverting our mental energy toward learning something new, you can stay mentally fit & active as well. Learning something new or developing a liking for something new gives they ‘Grey Matter’ a workout and builds neural pathways in the brain. For those who will wonder what grey matter is, it’s a part of CNS (Central nervous system) Go out, start reading if you like reading. Find new books of your interest. With finding a new hobby for yourself you can cover the previous point as well. While you learn a new hobby you can work out as well. Look out for a hobby like dancing, swimming, aerobics, opting for your favorite sports.

5. Love Life
Love Life
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Out of everything that you may do this one works the best and for the best! Coming from my personal experience, unless you love and appreciate what you have been blessed with you won’t make much far. We have been blessed this life, wake up every morning rather than checking Instagram, WhatsApp or any other social platforms, appreciate the fact you woke up. We forget to appreciate life, the process of living life while busy making money and running after things that won’t add to our life experiences. Meet your friends, spend time with your family & friends, fall in love, meet and make new friends, join a club, have a random conversation and get to know people you come across. There’s so much more to life than what we think or what we run after.

Mental health is important, an essential part of our lives revolve around how we perceive things and react to them. Efforts taken to stay physically fit has to be equal to efforts taken to keep your mental health fit.

First time going out on a date with the person you love can be pretty daunting and when you’re planning you want everything to be perfect. In this process of making things perfect, we forget about the person that’s going with us. Boys and girls take notes, prior to planning your first date get to know your partner well. That is the key to any date that you’re planning. If you know the person’s interest it becomes easy & smooth to execute the idea of a date! Here to help you are a few ideas that might help you impress your love. Thank me later. Make it work like a pro!

Take a walk!
Take a walk!
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Yes, it’s that simple. Sometimes it’s the little things and simpler ones too. Not every time a grand gesture has to be a part of a date. Walking for a while holding hands can be so romantic!

A Museum Tour!
A Museum Tour!
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Visiting a tour can help you two understand each other’s perspective in life-based on art & history. Small talks can make you learn so much about the person you have no idea!

Play Games!
Play Games!
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Getting your partner to play games with you can be really helpful. Playing games (indoor games preferably) can bring out their competitive & fun side of their personality. This can include going out for skating or even bowling. Bowling can be goofy & ice-breaking because of the technique, shoes & music (wink wink)

Treat for a Bookworm!
Treat for a Bookworm!
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If your partner’s a bookworm and loves books more than anything a date to any library, book reading sessions, or a book lounge/café would be perfect! In fact, you guys plan a picnic and spend time reading books to each other or quietly reading to yourselves but together (just like in movies)

Go Hiking!
Go Hiking!
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Well, this one is possible if you have places to go hiking in your zone. Because going out to travel on your very first date might just get awkward. A perfect idea to get to know their spontaneity & fitness skills (wink)

Let’s Karaoke!
Let’s Karaoke!
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Karaoke is one fun way for a date! But the first date? Try it! It might turn out the most memorable one. Singing unknown lyrics at the top of your voice and enjoying music together can be so fun, romantic & relieving. A good time to experience their vulnerability!

Drive-in movie!
Drive-in movie!
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Going out for a movie is generally not ideal for the first date. But a drive-in movie gives you privacy and time to chat about your favorite scenes!

Jumping Jacks @ Trampoline Park!

The trampoline can add thrill & fun to your date. It’s a good idea for you to not be serious and just be yourselves.

Dine Together!

This has to top all date ideas. Dining together is always an easy & safest choice. So you might want to give this a chance.

Tasting Wine Together!

Go to a vineyard or someplace where you can taste different wines.

The ‘Kitchen’ Date

You two can cook something together. Cooking can be fun too.

Go *Anything* at the Beach!

Beach is always the most romantic option. And a date on the beach can be perfect. Get to know each other at the beach either walking, having a meal or adventure water sports. If you have access to the beach, utilize the fact!

Now you have plenty of ideas so you better make the most of it. Do tell us how your date went if you opt for an option mentioned in the blog or if you did something completely out-of-this-world!

Chocolates are love. And even tastier when it’s paired with a soft crunch of cookies. Chocolate cookies are ultimate snacks for evening tea, morning coffee, or after your mid-day meal. Basically, you can have chocolate cookies anytime because they’re so delicious. Every good thing has to come to an end. Cookies don’t have to. For that let’s learn how to make this scrumptious crunchy chocolate cookies.

Ingredients
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Ingredients (What you’ll need to make them)-
  • Butter – 1 Full Cup
  • Eggs- 2
  • White Sugar- 1 & ½ Cups
  • Vanilla Extract- 2 Teaspoons
  • All Purpose Flour- 2 Cups
  • Salt- ¼ Teaspoon
  • Cocoa Powder- 2/3 Cup
  • Baking Soda- ¾ Teaspoon
  • Chocolate Chips- 2 Cups
Directions-

Keeping it super simple and easy to understand to make these. Follow these steps-

  • Before you start the baking, preheat the oven to have the required temperature for the dough to be baked. Preheat at 175-200 degrees C
  • Once you’ve set the oven to preheat. On the other side, take a large bowl for the batter. For that add the butter (make sure it’s softened), white sugar, eggs, vanilla extract and mix it well till it’s blended and fluffy in texture.
  • Take another bowl and add flour, cocoa powder, baking soda, and salt. Mix it well too.
  • Now that you have two different bowls of one batter and other powdered mixture. Combine both well by pouring the batter into the bowl with flour and all. Mix it well until blended. Make sure there are no lumps.
  • Next, you take an oven tray and spread a greased cookie sheet. Drop the mixture with the help of teaspoon size spoons.
  • Once you’re done with the dropping process. Leave spaces between as when they bake, obviously they increase in their size.
  • Put the oven tray inside the pre-heated oven and bake this for 8-10 minutes.
  • Take them out and carefully put them on the wire racks to cool all of them down.
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  • After it’s done, enjoy these scrumptious-crunchy-chocolaty cookies with your favorite beverage. Store them in an air-tight container to enjoy it for a few more days.

Feeling like there are butterflies fluttering in your stomach? You most probably are in love! Being in love & feeling lust for someone are two completely different things, but the “signs from the universe” come naturally the same! In this blog, you’ll get to relate to the occurrence of feelings when you’re falling in love, or majorly crushing on someone. Having said that, I’d also like to add that every individual feels different, well obviously. Considering that fact, not everyone would agree to these but hands down, love can make us go crazy. Let’s figure this out…

All Things KJo

All Things KJo
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Apparently according to Karan Johar from Indian Cinema love feels incredibly beautiful. You might hear violins in the background when you see ‘Your’ person talking (That’s one sign of hallucination and not love). A satin-silky cloth will fly all over your face making you feel the presence of that person so magical (Magical like a unicorn? Who are you falling in love with, human right?) Love does feel easy, right and natural but it’s not love until after all the petty arguments, and those silly fights you want to still be there with that person. I’d suggest you look over those signs that are similar to Bollywood. Once you feel the “want” for that person after hardships? That’s LOVE!

You’re In A Romantic Sit-com

You’re In A Romantic Sit-com
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Initially, when we’re connecting with that person we tend to stay connected all the damn time. Over the phone, thanks to the evolution of technology for video calls, texting, DM’ing over Instagram, sending snaps on Snapchat for streaks, sharing memes, all these nuances of love makes you sleepless and lose your appetite and happy at heart. To be honest, love doesn’t have to feel that way. Staying connected and dedicated is good. Communication is helpful. What’s the point if love can distract you from your own good? I believe love brings out the best in people. Losing sleep can make you insomniac, losing appetite can make you weak, and what if the right person stays connected with you and you two actually focus on the future while you enjoy the present? Romantic but meaningful. Love doesn’t have to be crazy enough to make you go crazy. Make the most of it while you fall for each other. Just when you feel the need to make the other person feel good about themselves in order to nurture and flourish, you’re in love!

Why Don’t You Be You & I’ll Be Me

(Heading reference- Let it go by James Bay)

Why Don't You Be You & I'll Be Me
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Beauty lies within. And in the eyes of the beholder. Let the other person look at how beautiful your heart is. The most beautiful & happiest part of being in love is when you can be yourself. How about your woman dresses up just how she likes it, lets her hair down, enjoys the music like she’s in a music video, dances like nobody’s watching not even you, blurts out anything that strikes her head? Similarly, how about your man being crazy about his favorite sports, wants to have his friends over his place with a crate of beer, leaves the wet towel on the floor, and doesn’t stay organized & tidy? All these silly things that make you, you, and if a person can love them about you is definitely love! Let them be comfortable around you and if they are, that’s a clear sign of love.

Little Things Aren’t Little

Little Things Aren’t Little
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The urge to share those little things that make us happy is real. Having someone to share your happiness is a blessing. It makes things so much better. Rightly said, every good thing gets better when you’re in love. Things that make us smile gets better and furthermore special when you share the joy. Sorrows feel like a burden. It seems little when we want to share every little thing because when you’re in love little things aren’t little. They matter and how. When you have someone to share your sorrows, doubts, and pain, the shoulder feels lighter. It’s crazy how a person can make every little thing better when in love. As stated before these things could be anything that brings your happiness and something that causes pain, this one person by your side subdues the pain and elevates your happiness in a magical way. Going shopping, running errands together, working together, or even doing the daily chores with him/her- all these little moments suddenly becomes romantic and makes you happy, you’re in love.

Here you have the universal signs that you’re in love. Go ahead and confess your love that you feel and make it even better because sharing makes it magically extra happy.

Fashion is a tough nut to crack, especially in winters. This winter, we round up some weird fashion fails that can make you say ‘what the…?’ One needs to understand that winter can look fashionable yet comfortable. Why is ‘Skin show’ a fashion statement, specifically in winters? If you ever find out an answer to this, do hit us up in the comment section below!

Here are some wackiest fashion trends of winter:

Ripped Jeans

Ripped Jeans
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There are things that can make you doubt their existence. Ripped jeans are one of them. They look cool in summers but in winters? What’s even their purpose? We see girls walking around in thigh/knee high boots, sweaters and ripped jeans! Such fashion statements can make you go bonkers. There’s still some winter breeze going through the tiny distressed holes, sister! You may want to take care of that.

Crop Sweatshirts/Sweaters

Crop Sweatshirts/Sweaters
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Next on our list is yet another brainstorming fashion trend, crop sweater or sweatshirts. When we hear the word sweater, all we could think of is a comfy, cozy & warm clothing item. But fashion has evolved. And this evolving fashion goes over our head.  A lot of women find them cute or let’s say ‘dope’. Last time when we checked, the purpose of sweaters were to keep us warm during the cold weather. Sweater and sweatshirts being cropped can still be considered when the weather is mildly cold. We still won’t take them into consideration. SMH

Cold Shoulders

Cold Shoulders
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Talking about crop sweaters and sweatshirts, we cannot skip cold shoulder sweaters. While this looks super cool and airy in summers, it looks equally discomforting in winters. Why would someone wear a sweater but with two big holes on either of the shoulders? The sight of it gives me chills, reminds me how cold it is! Well agreed, it can still be worn in mildly cold weather like in fall. But to take it further in winters…it’s just sheer stupidity.

Netted Sweaters

Netted Sweaters
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With cold shoulders, crop sweaters, there’s another one that just cannot serve the purpose it is supposed to go with its name! Netted sweaters- still a better option if you wear something underneath, something warm and layer it with something, still looks comfortable. But it still makes me doubt its existence!

Finger Cut Gloves

Finger Cut Gloves
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Saved the best for the last, finger cut gloves! Gloves are supposed to keep our hands warm and we get it, with the evolving lives that requires interaction with technology. Technology like mobile phones, laptops, biometric and etc. The option is either you wear it or you don’t wear it. Leaving your fingertips, just the tips exposed to cold, they get numb! Raising the question, why? I’d suggest you wear it while you travel and once you’re inside your office/school/college/homes, you can easily work with warm-enough hands! It does make sense right? Fingerless gloves do serve a purpose but it still makes us doubt the purpose of warming our hands while the fingertips are peeping out of them!

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Fashion is evolving. And how! This blog pretty much talks about some silly stuff that many of you might not relate to. “Fashion” is about comfort and feeling good. What’s the point if you are not comfortable because it is quite visible that when you wear such pieces, you’ll shiver and shrink! Why keep your health at stake because of making a statement or impressing anyone? Confidence is the key to make any fashion trend to stand out and make an impact! If you’re not confident enough to pull it, it definitely is going down. Winter clothing can be classy and fashionable too. Try trench coats, high waist jeans, knee high boots, and a lot more. Want to know few basic that can make you look fashionable and stylish even in winters? I’d get back with another blog with few basics to style and be equally fashionable but comfortable and confident! Self-confidence is the best outfit, so style it and rock it! Alas, it’s your choice. Maybe they’re comfortable, just not to us!

Girls, Bollywood inspired lehngas are our dream dress! We all daydream about Sabyasachi and Manish Malhotra’s designer pieces. And yet we know, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea to afford the same. But “shaadi karungi toh Kareena wala lehnga pehen ke karungi nahi toh dulhe ko bolo tata-bye bye ho jaye”, as quoted by Alia Bhatt in Humpty Sharma Ki Dulhaniya, we all want it to happen. As easy as it may sound to hush away the ladka wallas just for a lehenga, it’s not. Growing up watching Karan Johar’s grand weddings set up, we somewhere have pictured ourselves wearing the heavy, embroidered, and embedded with stones blinding us with their shine lehngas. Hands down, it’s our DREAM to walk down to our handsome grooms wearing that. Alas, it’s all in a dream, we know it. Now if we’re done with the nostalgia, let’s come back to the reality. And coming back to the reality here’s a happy news for you, we bring you the ultimate gem for all you beautiful brides-to-be!

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As much as we know what we want for our D-Day, we know Chandni Chowk is the hub for some really gorgeous looking ethnic designs also because of the affordable prices this place offers. Adding to your excitement, this treasure is loaded with lehngas that are breath-taking.

How to reach to Navya Collection Chandani Chowk Delhi?

To reach Navya Collection, we suggest you take the metro considering the fact that the place is flooding with humans at any given time of the day! You’ll eventually experience this once you start exploring the place. FYI, Do not travel by road to get there on weekends, you may get stuck there for life (Over exaggerating is our thing!) De-board the metro at Chandni Chowk Metro station and start walking towards jalebiwala or take a rickshaw to Dariba Kalan. Once you reach spot Nav Nidhi shop and right adjacent to it you’ll find Navya Collection.

Navya Collection, Chandni Chowk

Navya Collection
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This store offers you bridal, non-bridal, girlish, party gowns lehngas with the price range starting from Rs.750 to according to your liking. Here comes the star of the show, you can also find BOLLYWOOD DESIGNER REPLICAS. The quality of these replicas is nothing to compromise for. This hidden gem brings you replicas of Sabyasachi, Manish Malhotra, and few higher-end designers.  For what it’s worth, we loved the collection. Their 2018 premium & exclusive collection has some really magnificent designs that are actually to die for. In such an affordable range, this deal is a steal.

Furthermore, if you lack knowledge of quality and design, you need not to worry. The staff of the store guides you through your experience. They’ll let you know the make and the elements that you’ll be enticed to buy the attire! Rather than spending all your money on the designer lehngas and gowns, invest in such replicas or in their original designs because they’re worth it! Navya Collection is a lifestyle or fashion bloggers’ favorite if they’re residing in Delhi. You’ll find a bunch of videos to witness their magic while you sip your tea. But we urge to go and see for yourself as it offers you with the best of their collection of different colors & designs. So now that you know the secret to your #weddinglookgoals, slay and steal some hearts this shaadi season.

 

In the century where everyone is health conscious and a weight watcher here’s yet another diet that skyrocketed lately. The Keto Diet- as interesting the name sounds, the diet has a lot of different interesting aspects to it. But foremost unlike any other diet, this one has a lot of science going on throughout. A diet that is super low on carbohydrates, which makes it difficult for all the vegetarians in India as all those protein elements have got some sort of carb. We’ll get to vegetarians for keto diet further in the blog. There’s some serious threshold if you want to execute the Keto Diet. This has to be the most effective fat burning diet!

Some studies show that one should stay below 50g of carbs but with experienced people’s take, they prefer staying below 20g of carbs. While you’re on a Keto Diet you need to account every single thing. Keto diet has to include everything home-made and strictly no junk or fast food. And ideally, you must cook for your own meal because then you need to keep a track of the proteins & carbs (needs to be under 20g). Keys to a successful keto diet is when you focus on two points:

  • Stay below 20g of carbs
  • Avoid a teeny tiny trace of sugar!

(Anything with slightly high sugar component shouldn’t be consumed!)

The Science of Keto

The Science of Keto
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Our body’s favorite source of energy is through carbs. And keto diet is all about Ketosis and Low-carb. Having said that & going with the rumors that keto is a low carb diet, well sorry to burst your bubble, there’s a difference between the two. Firstly let’s understand what Ketosis is,

Ketosis is a normal metabolic process where the body does not have enough glucose for energy, it starts burning the stored fat in the body. This results in a build-up of acids called Ketones. So basically,

No Carbs → No Glucose

Body starts draining glucose from glycogen as fat in your body and turns it into Ketones (the fat cut down element).

Keto Diet is an ultra-low-carb diet, which causes the production of ketones. Ketones are produced when the body runs out of sugars (carbs). Now you know the science behind the diet and why it actually works! So if now someone comes up to you and say “But how does your brain work?” You’ll have the answer; the blood glucose is saved for the brain, and the body converts fatty acids into ketones. These can cross the blood-brain barrier to fuel the brain. The muscles do not use ketones – instead, they can directly metabolize fatty acids. Ketones are the fuel source just as glucose that is gained from carbs and 1g of Ketone is better than 1g of glucose!!!

Not all is magic and fun about this diet, with all the pros comes one major downfall that is ‘THE KETO FLU’.

THE KETO FLU

THE KETO FLU
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It is not as scary as it may sound, just like any other flu, the keto flu is a collection of symptoms experienced by some people when they first start the keto diet. It is experienced initially when you start the diet, which is draining muscles off the glycogen. But here’s the solution, if you work-out you may not experience this as severe as others who don’t. But not to scare you off, this doesn’t last for more than 4-5 days. When you work-out glycogen runs fast so that the ketosis happens fast and this reduces the duration of the “Flu”.

Symptoms of “THE KETO FLU”:

Symptoms of “THE KETO FLU”
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  • Stomach aches or pains
  • Dizziness or confusion
  • Nausea
  • Irritability
  • Diarrhea or constipation
  • Muscle cramping or soreness
  • Lack of concentration or focus

People go through these symptoms as their body is adapting to a new diet which consists super low carb.

“Must and Must not” of the Keto Diet

Must and Must not of the Keto Diet
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The food items listed below can be included in your meals. You should them majorly on these.

Food that you can have and shouldn’t include are:

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  1. Fats: Butter & cream, cheese but unprocessed like Cheddar, blue, mozzarella, goat or cream cheese. You may include nuts but must be taken in very low amount as it also has carbs, seeds(healthy snack like chia seeds, flax seeds, pumpkin seeds)
  2. Healthy Oils: You can cook your meal or add these oils to your meal olive oil, avocado & coconut oil.
  3. Flesh: Meat, fatty fish, eggs (preferably omega-3 whole eggs)
  4. Low carb veggies: Vegetables will prevent constipation after all the fat & meat intake and keep you healthy. Make sure you include these in your meals, spinach, cabbage, lettuce, broccoli, and zucchini.
  5. Breaking the hoax, peanut butter is not exactly healthy for a ketogenic diet. If you’re strictly following the diet, you must know that peanut butter has 14g of net carbs which is why it is recommended either not to consume or if taken, then you need to maintain the serving size.
  6. Also, you must avoid dairy products of the fat content in them.

Pros of Keto

Pros of Keto
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The high amount of fat in keto diet minimizes the carb craving. Here are a few pros listed below that you attain if you execute this diet.

  1. This diet supports weight loss.
  2. Because it suppresses appetite which eases the efforts of losing the weight.
  3. Lowers cholesterol
  4. This also helps in controlling blood pressure.
  5. Enhances mood, mental focus, sleep.
  6. Improves cognitive function.
  7. Regulates hormonal balance which means this diet can help women with PCOS/PCOD or people with thyroid issues.
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This was pretty much what you must know before you begin your keto diet. Remember, no diet would help you enough if you aren’t working out or being a tad bit active. Coming to an end, I’d like to inform you that I am no health expert, these are bits and pieces acquired from the internet and a few from personal experience. Hope you achieve the set health goal. It’s definitely worth a try! Good luck!

It’s difficult for someone to deal with anxiety and it gets even more difficult when someone else has to suffer the consequences. Dating someone with anxiety can be awfully horrible. You cannot help to whom you fall for, but you can choose to fight and stick by each other. Anxiety is like the third person that wriggles in between you & your partner making it difficult for the relationship to thrive.  This person constantly sows doubt & confusion. There isn’t anyone out there training you with how to deal with the problems but with understanding anxiety in general can make you connect and love in a new way.

WHAT IS ANXIETY?

Anxiety disorders causes nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. These disorders alter how a person processes emotions and behave, also causing physical symptoms. Mild anxiety might be vague and unsettling, while severe anxiety may seriously affect day-to-day living.

Anxiety is a normal and an unpleasant part of life. One where an individual feels worried about the fears. When it comes to relationships, the anxiety is generally about the other person’s behavior & wellness. Certain questions that an anxious person might over think about are:

  1. What is he doesn’t love me as much as I love him?
  2. What if he’s lying to me? What if he’s lying to me?
  3. What if he’s hiding something from me? What if he’s hiding something from me?
  4. What if he’s cheating on me?
  5. What if he likes someone else better? What if he likes someone else better?
  6. What if my anxiety ruins our relationship? (Anxiety about Anxiety)
  7. What if we break up?
  8. What if he doesn’t text me back?
  9. What if I’m always the first one to reach out?
  10. What if he leaves me?

A lot of you wouldn’t agree because these seems like normal questions that one might think. But trust me when we say its anxiety, this gets pretty deep and intense with each thought. Few of the individuals show extreme caring nature which to an extent is their concern but after that it’s their fear taking over.

If you’re dating someone with anxiety, these are the thoughts that runs through your partner’s brain. And they most likely spend time worrying and ruminating about anything and everything that can possibly go wrong with the relationship.

ANIXETY & IT’S CONSEQUENCES

ANIXETY & IT’S CONSEQUENCES
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You might get stressed & agitated with the constant nagging, doubts and confusion but it’s much more than that for that one person. Anxiety is real mental health issue and nothing made up. It is normal, everyone has it but it’s an issue when it’s severe. One cannot imagine about how anxiety can be debilitating illness for one to function a normal life. Situations can make them experience fight or flight reactions and stress about their partner cheating and leaving. An individual suffering with anxiety disorder can over think about the pettiest of things and consequences that can be life threatening. Anxiety doesn’t have a fix cure to it. One’s who have it wish they didn’t have it. They oftentimes feel like a burden on people that they are connected with. There are anxiety-motivated behavior that people experience:

  1. Anger and irritability
  2. Being Controlling
  3. No focus and being distracted
  4. Avoidant or passive aggressive behavior
  5. Perfectionism

5 Tips That Can Help You Deal with Your Partner’s Anxiety

  1. Trying Couple Therapy with Your Partner
Trying Couple Therapy with Your Partner
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When you truly care for someone and you want to encourage them to battle with their stress, trying couples therapy can be a huge help. You can gently guide your partner to see a therapist for it doesn’t harm anyone. The therapist can work on their anxiety as there might be reasons from the relationship as well. Therapy not necessarily has to be for your partner. Couples therapy offers you tasks and issues that you both work on together, making you understand the condition with your partner and for them it makes them stress a little less.

  1. Creating a balance
Creating a balance
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We often go back and forth assessing over what needs our attention the most; our partner’s attention, ourselves, or the need of the relationship. It’s fulfilling when we fill these needs respectively and accordingly. But when our partner is suffering from something that isn’t going away, we don’t have to ignore our own needs because then with time it gets greater. Balancing the needs accordingly is what is required. You need to work on your own needs that require immediate attention and then your partners. It’s rightly said, set your priorities right! (Not in a negative way)

  1. Be supportive
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With that constant fear of losing you, comes the immense need of affirmation that you’ll be there or you’re there. Showing that you care and supporting your partner with the suffering can not only make a difference to them but on the relationship. All they need is for you to be around them. With today’s technology, you can still be around even when you’re not.

  1. Stay Positive!
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Focusing on the positive parts of the relationship can be the biggest attributes of the relationship. Doesn’t matter how your partner is feeling, you don’t have to focus solely on the suffering. That is the time when you need to remind yourself the many reasons why you care for them in the first place.

  1. TALK!
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There’s nothing that a conversation cannot resolve. Talking to them about their fears can make them feel that they’re heard. There’s someone to listen, there’s someone to hold on to. Talking is the first and the foremost way of taking the fears out the mind. And in fact it might make it easy for you to understand what you’re partner’s going through. There are chances that the conversation may not go well but that is when you need to focus on the words and not the gestures & actions. Communication is the key to any relationship. For you, you might be busy but for them, they feel disconnected!

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Anxiety doesn’t have to put your relationship in jeopardy. By using the right coping strategies, you can have a healthy relationship and stop anxiety from causing too much stress.

Mensuration, Chums, Down Time, ‘That time of the month’ etc. is really a tough time for the fairer sex. Your body is going through a phenomenal time and the hormones are all messed up. From resting to putting hot water bottles on the stomach, you have literally tried everything to ease the pain. However, when nothing works, FOOD helps! Food is the only comforting thing in the whole wide world. Period. Yes, during periods too. What is your go-to comfort food while your ovaries squeeze your life out of your body? These are our go-to comfort food items.

While we women bleed for 5 days straight or more, we NEED nutrients to survive. And with nutrients, I don’t mean carbs, protein, and blah blah. Who cares what nutrients the meal has or the number of calories? Spending stressful nights thinking about the stains and spots, and crying rivers over the menstrual cramps, and let’s just please agree that it’s the most dreadful thing ever.

And then amidst all the pain & sorrow comes FOOD *lovestruck emoji*. Comfort food is a staple for anyone who craves a hearty meal & little taste. Well, for women it’s the antidote for PMS! Comfort food that you need to function all along with bloating & cramps. Here are 5 comfort food that every woman needs to deal with the blood storm every month.

  1. CHOCOLATES
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Chocolate is a woman’s best friend beside diamonds & bags. Indulging in the chocolaty affair with choco delights like a plain dark chocolate bar or Cakes. Stuffing your face with chocolates should be your priority. Believe it or not chocolate is actually good for you when you are on your period.

  1. PIZZA & FRIES…Nom nom
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Craving for fast food is the first few things that come along periods. Be it early in the morning or late at the wee-hours, Pizza, French fries, pasta and etc. can comfort us to next levels.

  1. COFFEE
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We need coffee in the IV during our periods. On your period, your body rebels with a vengeance and coffee is your best friend.

  1. CHEESE all the way!
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Hogging onto everything cheesy can make your periods easy. Cheesy fries, mac & cheese, cheese balls, cheesy nachos, cheese this and cheese that, everywhere cheese! Binge watching your favorite show or movie with Cheese along can be heaven.

  1. ICE-CREAM
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You are anyway going to scream your head off at some point in time of your period for no reason, might as well make it about getting your favorite flavor of ice cream! The frozen delight can make you relax.

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As your mood swings from depression to elation, these yummy treats will let you forget your agony for a moment or more!

Director: Amit Sharma
Cast: Ayushmann Khurana, Sanya Malhotra, Neena Gupta, Gajraj Rao

Amit Sharma’s drama cum comedy is not only funny but blurts out the social statement without keeping it in the spotlight. It indeed was the highlight of the movie. But there was so much more to it than just an unfamiliar situation. No, the movie isn’t about Ayushmann Khurana walking in on his parent while they’re at it. But a similarly awkward situation. Nakul (Ayushmann) at Manyavar (brand promotion is becoming a thing now) trying out an outfit for his cousin’s shaadi along with Rene (His girlfriend, Sanya Malhotra) when he gets a call that his mother’s sick. Nakul & his father (Gajraj Rao) rushes to the clinic only to find out that Priyamvada(Neena Gupta) is pregnant (major #WTF moment).

The Kaushik’s, a middle-class family living in Delhi’s Lodhi Colony. The movie showcases a typical middle-class family content with their lives and sharing a small space with 5 people. And Oh My Gawd, Dadi(Surekha Sikri) is the most savage dadi you’ll witness in the history of cinema. One has to watch the scene where the secret of this Chhota Mehmaan is revealed to Dadi and she loses it. Well, the movie revolves around how the whole pregnancy situation affects lives. To begin with, it definitely becomes embarrassing for the family but then the entire problem lies here. Why this hypocrisy? Why do we take elderly sex as an embarrassing moment? Two adults married for a long time, indulging in sex after having adult kids, why is it wrong?

‘Badhai Ho’ breaking the stereotype talks about how having sex at that age and getting pregnant *well, of course, accident* is not wrong. The movie has its own moment that’s not humor but sensible. One where Neena Gupta has been given the choice to keep the baby, their love blooming at the 50s, Nakul’s realizing how it’s okay to accept the fact that parents have sex even at an elderly age, emotional relationship between a mother and daughter in law, how the strains of the relationship of Neena Gupta & Gajraj Rao tells on the relationship of Nakul & Rene. All these things in the storyline make it more than just a comedy.

Furthermore, the movie also had some not so teekha but funny tadka to it. Like every other Indian middle-class family would have. Rene’s mother’s dialogue “His family is a circus I don’t want to buy tickets for” surely etched her snob-high society character on the audience, which ends up breaking apart the duo. While the entire family is ashamed of the pregnancy, Soon-to-be-parent-for-the-third-time parents seem to be enjoying the time. It was heartwarming to watch the two of them romancing each other like the good old-gold days. The love you don’t get to see in the new-age cinema. It was all fun and games until this emotional scene where Surekha Sikri (Daadi) blurts out some home truths. She defends her daughter-in-law when in other circumstances she would constantly bicker her.

The film’s first two acts are mundane and the final sequence is effective, strong & honest. The story’s narrated in a completely straightforward manner with situational comedy for the narrative to stay afloat.

Badhai Ho is a welcome change for the hypocritical society that we live in. It keeps up with the context, relatable but not at all common. And oh, had the condom not been stolen by Shardul Rana, they wouldn’t have gotten a sister that dances to the tunes of Morni Banke in the end. One song you just cannot resist but DANCE!

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