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Since its arrival, Tinder has been the talk of the town. From your hottie neighbor to that nerdy girl in your class, no one is untouched by its grace.

It is pretty much the saga of swipe right and left that makes and breaks your game on Tinder. And in between, you get the chance to explore and experiment. You get to meet the like-minded local singles, connect with people and form a relationship.

But when did anyone ever said that forming relationships are all hunky-dory on Tinder? My dear lovelies, the online dating app, Tinder has its benefits and disadvantages where storms are cooked up every single day. Where some get really lucky to find their soul mates, others struggle to even find themselves a decent date.

So let’s talk about the types of people you might have or can possibly meet on Tinder once you sign up for it.

The One Night Standers
The One Night Standers
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Ok, we are not here to judge! But these are the kind of people who are only on tinder for random hookups. And they will be quite honest about it. They don’t care what you do in your life and probably wouldn’t even want to know about it. They are an ardent follower of the hit and quit game. So, don’t get too comfortable and attached because they may get out of the sight within the blink of an eye!

The Cheesy Flirt
The Cheesy Flirt
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Are you an athlete? Because you have been running on my mind all this while.

Is your dad a terrorist? Because you are a bomb?

Sound cheesy much? Eh…

There is a great possibility that you may meet such types of cheesy flirts on Tinder, who try to impress you with their unbearable cheesy pickup lines. Leave as soon as you sense their cheesiness and never look back again!

The Clingers
The Clingers
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So you swiped them right on Tinder, it’s a match and you two decide to meet. One date in and they will start bugging you with constant texts and calls. Not replying is worst as they’ll just keep buzzing you. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, they won’t shy away from following you on every possible social media platform. If you happen to meet such clingers on Tinder, just run away and protect yourself.

The Oldies
The Oldies
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It can be really weird to browse tinder and find someone of your parent’s or grandparent’s age. We are not passing any judgment here but someone who is in his 40’s or 50’s looking for a prospective partner should target for the people of their own age group and possibly switch from Tinder to some online dating service.

The Shy One
The Shy One
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They are hot and single. It’s a match and you start chatting instantly. But that is the only progress you ever made with this match. They won’t ask you to meet or at least express the desire of it. Probably they are way too shy who won’t move past texting. It’s your call if you want to help them open up a bit and take things to another level. Otherwise, there are plenty more fish in the sea.

The Over Emotional One
The Over Emotional One
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Sometimes in search of a potential date, people start looking for a therapist they could rely on for emotional support. All they would want from you is to listen to their problems, fears, and failures. Well, don’t be their therapist, if you don’t want to be. Tell them in clear and subtle words that you are here to find a potential date and not be someone’s crying shoulder. You can always suggest them some professional help, in case they really need it.

The Over Confident
The Over Confident
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We have all met a few people on Tinder who believe they are a total package of good looks, amazing sense of humor, and hot body. At least, they like to think of themselves as a ten on ten person. While in reality, they are nowhere near five and that too when they try really hard. Just one message for these people. Calm down, mate and do some introspection rather than swiping on Tinder!

The One with No Picture
The One with No Picture
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Now can someone please explain why would anyone want to swipe right on a no-face profile? Getting your game started on Tinder with no DP can be optimistic to the limit of foolishness. Still, if you get curious to solve the mystery behind their faceless profile, then swipe right at your own risk.

The One with Group Picture
The One with Group Picture
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If someone needs a group picture to trap people on Tinder, then sorry to disclose but that doesn’t work ever. Because if someone resorts to a group picture, then obviously they are the ugly or the least good-looking person in it. At least, that’s what they think of themselves. No solo picture. No swipe right. Next, please!

The Right One
The Right One
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Finally, you meet the most genuine person on Tinder whose profile is clear, crisp and says a lot about their personality. They know how to start and hold a conversation and play all the right cards. You might actually find yourself falling for them and your belief in Tinder is restored. There are cases when people actually met their partners on Tinder. So, if you really get a potential date on Tinder and choose to begin a relationship, then it’s a thumbs up from our end.

Tinder may not be the temple where you can actually find true love. But if played by the rules, it can be quite fun and you can meet some really nice, genuine people.

So Keep Swiping!

Feeling like there are butterflies fluttering in your stomach? You most probably are in love! Being in love & feeling lust for someone are two completely different things, but the “signs from the universe” come naturally the same! In this blog, you’ll get to relate to the occurrence of feelings when you’re falling in love, or majorly crushing on someone. Having said that, I’d also like to add that every individual feels different, well obviously. Considering that fact, not everyone would agree to these but hands down, love can make us go crazy. Let’s figure this out…

All Things KJo

All Things KJo
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Apparently according to Karan Johar from Indian Cinema love feels incredibly beautiful. You might hear violins in the background when you see ‘Your’ person talking (That’s one sign of hallucination and not love). A satin-silky cloth will fly all over your face making you feel the presence of that person so magical (Magical like a unicorn? Who are you falling in love with, human right?) Love does feel easy, right and natural but it’s not love until after all the petty arguments, and those silly fights you want to still be there with that person. I’d suggest you look over those signs that are similar to Bollywood. Once you feel the “want” for that person after hardships? That’s LOVE!

You’re In A Romantic Sit-com

You’re In A Romantic Sit-com
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Initially, when we’re connecting with that person we tend to stay connected all the damn time. Over the phone, thanks to the evolution of technology for video calls, texting, DM’ing over Instagram, sending snaps on Snapchat for streaks, sharing memes, all these nuances of love makes you sleepless and lose your appetite and happy at heart. To be honest, love doesn’t have to feel that way. Staying connected and dedicated is good. Communication is helpful. What’s the point if love can distract you from your own good? I believe love brings out the best in people. Losing sleep can make you insomniac, losing appetite can make you weak, and what if the right person stays connected with you and you two actually focus on the future while you enjoy the present? Romantic but meaningful. Love doesn’t have to be crazy enough to make you go crazy. Make the most of it while you fall for each other. Just when you feel the need to make the other person feel good about themselves in order to nurture and flourish, you’re in love!

Why Don’t You Be You & I’ll Be Me

(Heading reference- Let it go by James Bay)

Why Don't You Be You & I'll Be Me
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Beauty lies within. And in the eyes of the beholder. Let the other person look at how beautiful your heart is. The most beautiful & happiest part of being in love is when you can be yourself. How about your woman dresses up just how she likes it, lets her hair down, enjoys the music like she’s in a music video, dances like nobody’s watching not even you, blurts out anything that strikes her head? Similarly, how about your man being crazy about his favorite sports, wants to have his friends over his place with a crate of beer, leaves the wet towel on the floor, and doesn’t stay organized & tidy? All these silly things that make you, you, and if a person can love them about you is definitely love! Let them be comfortable around you and if they are, that’s a clear sign of love.

Little Things Aren’t Little

Little Things Aren’t Little
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The urge to share those little things that make us happy is real. Having someone to share your happiness is a blessing. It makes things so much better. Rightly said, every good thing gets better when you’re in love. Things that make us smile gets better and furthermore special when you share the joy. Sorrows feel like a burden. It seems little when we want to share every little thing because when you’re in love little things aren’t little. They matter and how. When you have someone to share your sorrows, doubts, and pain, the shoulder feels lighter. It’s crazy how a person can make every little thing better when in love. As stated before these things could be anything that brings your happiness and something that causes pain, this one person by your side subdues the pain and elevates your happiness in a magical way. Going shopping, running errands together, working together, or even doing the daily chores with him/her- all these little moments suddenly becomes romantic and makes you happy, you’re in love.

Here you have the universal signs that you’re in love. Go ahead and confess your love that you feel and make it even better because sharing makes it magically extra happy.

“I am so sick of that same old love”- Selena Gomez

With time everything has changed! Technology, fashion, lifestyle, and everything else. Everything around is changing, then how do we expect for the dating culture to remain the same. Remember how dating used to be about just hanging out with the opposite? Now it is about hookups! There have been so many changes in the dating culture from the 90s until now. Let us compare how the dating era has changed.

  1. Finding Dates
Finding Dates
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In 90s:

When you liked some you relied on your friends to convey it to their friends. When you wanted to date someone random, your friends set you up with their friends, or their Significant other’s friend or maybe a cousin they have! Finding dates was tough. The toughest part when you liked someone was a confrontation! You had to look for the perfect timing for you to walk up to them and confess that you like them.

In 2018:

If you like someone? Add them on Facebook! Message them on Instagram! If you have common friends, get their number and WhatsApp them! If you just want to date someone randomly, you have apps for it. Tinder is the guru of dating apps. You just need to log in and start swiping left and right. Some other ways to meet someone is at parties, at clubs and apps like Tinder, Truly Madly, OkCupid, Aisle, etc.

What I feel is BETTER?

90s was tough but it was thrilling, but now it is easier and more convenient. Tinder is fun sometimes and at times- ‘Madaaame date pe chalogi?’ sapiosexuals & travellers creep me out! So 90s WIN!

  1. Finding Out About Someone
Finding Out About Someone
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In 90s:

In the 90s the internet wasn’t really popular! The only popular form was email, and there were no social media websites. If you wanted to know about someone, you could ask your friends and hope they have common friends with them or at least some common connections with them. Your pals were GOOGLE to you!

In 2018:

Want to discover someone’s deepest secrets? No problem, Hello Social Media! You could just browse someone’s Instagram profile and tell who they’re dating, browse someone’s Facebook and you’ll get to know where they like to eat or shop, Browse through their Snapchat stories and you’ll know their taste in music, and if you want to know their views over things- Twitter is the place you go to! Finding things about someone is not really difficult in 2018.

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018! It is so much easier and convenient than asking people around.

  1. Approaching Your Crush
Approaching Your Crush
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In 90s:

You had to convey your messages through a friend, send them a love letter and if you’re brave enough, you could simply stand outside their college/office and wait there with flowers. Moreover dropping hints was tough yet sweet. Sharing your handwritten notes with them, taking their side while an argument in the group, & offering help them with little things.

In 2018:

You don’t have to approach them directly! You can drop a message on their social media, or as per Indian rappers, you just declare your love by a huge gesture and no matter what they have to accept your proposal because you are so cool! Dropping hints means you gift things, ask them out to meet you alone, or flirt.

What I feel is BETTER?

The 90s it is! Although making the first move and dropping hints were difficult but, it was sweet and romantic.

  1. What is My Type?
What is My Type?
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In 90s:

Determining your type in the 90s was really simple, you followed the activities they took up in college or the classes they took up. Even simpler- Hey, what is your sun sign? A Scorpio? I am Cancer. Till death do us apart!

In 2018:

Figuring your type has become much more complicated in 2018. You look for the type of Netflix shows they are interested in, whether they eat Vegan or Non-Vegetarian, What are their career aspirations, What is their height, What kind of friends do they have, and the list goes on.

What I feel is BETTER?

I am old school which is why without any doubt, the 90s! It was sweet and less judgmental. It is so complicated and tough now.

  1. Who is going to propose first?
Who is going to propose first?
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In 90s:

It had to be the guy! The guy was expected to approach the girl because the girl was expected to be Sanskaari. Haye Taube for the girls who approached guys!

In 2018:

Gender does not matter! If you like someone, you tell them.

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018!

  1. Exploring Your Sexuality
Exploring Your Sexuality
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In 90s:

Same sex dating has always existed. It was just a little more submissive in 90s. People did explore their sexuality, but again they didn’t come out so soon or expressed themselves in public.

In 2018:

We’re living in the time where Section-377 has been decriminalized! Same sex dating is no more a taboo or well, maybe it is for a few people, but the law approves it so YAY! It is definitely a good thing!

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018!

  1. Staying in Touch
Staying in Touch
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In 90s:

Staying touch meant meeting in college or school, calling on their landline & waiting for them to come online on yahoo messenger. There was an excitement to talk to them because it was tough!

In 2018:
Messaging on Whatsapp, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, & other social media platforms all the time. Along with texting, you talk for hours & hours over the phone because everyone has a mobile phone!

What I feel is BETTER?

This is a bit tricky because while staying in touch is easier in 2018 and was difficult in the 90s but, I would still say 90s was better. Since it is easy to talk to your better half, people have started taking each other for granted. That excitement & passion has faded away!

  1. Deciding a Place for the Date:
Deciding a Place for the Date:
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In 90s:

There were few selected cafes and places where you’d go on a date. If someone is really special, you’d take them to your go-to place.

In 2018:

There are so many places you’d go on a first date. As time passes by, Netflix & Chill are your dates with them.

What I feel is BETTER?

There is no comparison between the two eras. While dating in the 90s was authentic, and how a date should be, in 2018 it has become more comfortable and casual.

  1. Commitment
Commitment
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In 90s:

If you’re going on a second date, you’re officially Girlfriend & Boyfriend!

In 2018:

When you ask your friend about someone they’ve been seeing for a while, they reply “We are keeping it casual. We don’t want any tags.”

What I feel is BETTER?

90s Rule! Good things do take time but why are people so afraid of commitment in 2018?

  1. Post-Break Up:
Post-Break Up:
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In 90s:

After a break-up, the only way you’d know something about them would be by asking your common friends. You’d see them only if you’re invited to a common party!

In 2018:

After the break-up, it is so easy to know what’s going in their life. You have the option of stalking them on social media platforms. Off course, if they don’t block you!

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely the 90s! While it is easy to keep a track of your ex in 2018 but why do you need to? If you aren’t with someone, you don’t have to know what they’re up to. It is only going to be tough on you!

There are many differences between dating then and now. Every era has its own advantages & disadvantages. I would say that I love how people dated in the 90s and respected each other, the admiration for each other, the excitement & commitment for each other. In 2018, it is amazing how dating same sex is not a taboo anymore, how asking out for a date is no more about chivalry or how comfortable it is to decide the date venue.

Dating isn’t about what era we’re living in. Date as per the era you liked more!

Love is an essential part of our lives for sure. Some love to show it to the world whole-heartedly while some have a restrained approach. Passion runs high in some while some are casual. These differences in various ways of expression of love are based on the zodiac signs. Astrology says that the way people perceive love and romance comes straight from their zodiac signs. By studying the zodiac signs, you may thus understand your friend, partner, and better halves in a better way. Various zodiac signs have various personality traits and their expression of love and romance are truly based on that. For example, Cancerians are very emotional and sensitive people and thus their love is very romantic.

Read more about the expression of love and romance- the zodiac way here:

Aries: Passion Is The Keyword

Being a Fire sign, people of Aries zodiac sign are passionate, impulsive, and headstrong people. They can take a bullet for a friend too. So, when it comes to love and romance, they are high on that passion meter. They are also those few who fall for “love at first sight”. They listen to their instincts when in love and they feel lively and almost fanatical while their lovers are around. But in some cases, this passion doesn’t take much time to die down.

Taurus: Naturally Sensuous

Taurus is an Earth sign and they are popular for their stubbornness. Venus is their ruler and thus they love beauty and find comfort. In love too, they are always searching for that comfort. Taureans are naturally sensuous when it comes to the expression of love and romance. They won’t force their love on you and whatever is natural in love comes to them easily. Taurus also believes that without carnal pleasure, love is incomplete. Emotional security from their partner holds importance to them because they need to be sure that they are in an emotional comfort zone.

Gemini: Love Is Pure Fun

Gemini is an Air again and these people are known to be very expressive and quick-witted. They are intelligent people and in matters of the heart too they are intelligent and not emotional. Gemini people love fun mixed with wit and thus they are always trying to establish a little with their partners. But Gemini personalities are also vulnerable in love.

Cancer: Possessive Romance

Being passionate and possessive are two different things but Cancerians often blur these lines. While in love they always want that persona around – way too much! They need affection non-stop and this sometimes may disturb their partners. But they are way too much romantic. They are the ones who would want to walk under one umbrella with their partners when it is raining heavily. In love, Cancerians are a little timid too and a constant reassurance of love from their partners is required.

Leo: Leaders In Charge Of Love

Leo, the Fire sign- the natural born leaders. They are the center of attraction wherever they go. Leos are warm-hearted, creative, and generous people and just the way they are leaders everywhere else, in love too they love to take charge. To feel good in love relationships, Leos need to be admired a lot. But sometimes, Leo’s become self-centered, lazy, arrogant, and stubborn and their partners might perceive that as “lack of emotions”.

Virgo: A Committed Lover

Virgo is an Earth sign who are loyal, benevolent, and practical. They always oblige to their partner’s wishes, whims, and fancies just to make them happy. They do all these because when in love they are in constant trial in their mind that the other one is still uncertain about the relationship. That’s why they are always working hard to fulfill the desires of their partners. Their feelings are sometimes unnoticeable but this one is a very committed lover from the very first day!

Libra: Charmers Know To Charm

Libra- the air sign people know exactly how to win people’s hearts with their charm. They are the owners of a pleasing personality and loves to live a balanced, harmonious, and peaceful life. In love, they are hugely romantic but they are a bit less articulate while exchanging words of love with others. Their main concern is that their partners should always feel happy and carry a cheerful smile on their faces and that’s why they use their charm to make them laugh. Born with justified minds, Librans are always in search of a balanced relationship.

Scorpio: Sexily

This water sign zodiac, Scorpions are deeply creative, passionate, courageous, and sexy people. People generally get attracted to them for their deep and intense eyes and those sexy moves. In love, scorpions are highly passionate and their relationships are often feisty, lively, and intense. Scorpions are extremely sensual and thus there are irresistible urges. Intuition runs very deep in their blood, and that’s why they somehow feel it way before if their partners are going to cheat on them or not. They have a revengeful mind but also believe that revenge should be served cold. Scorpions also have a problem- they hardly forget things and that’s why don’t sit peacefully until they settle their scores, yes in matters of the heart too!

Sagittarius: Honest & Trustworthy Lovers

Sagittarius are very simple people who adore honesty and trust in love relationships. They cannot take quarrel, fights, or any sort of heated exchanges. And they feel it’s futile to delve in a territory where things are complicated. In short, they won’t take risks at all. But they are the ones whom you can trust with your life and are very honest with their feelings.

Capricorn: Genuinely

Capricorn is an Earth sign that is ruled by Saturn. They have determination and ambition very clearly in their mind. In matters of the heart too, they are determined! So, their feelings are deep and rare. Keeping away the casual flirting’s and flings, when they are sure about someone, they are true and genuine. Love then is for eternity. Their expression of romance is thus chilled out and they can be unpredictable in their moves and completely surprise their partners which is why their love stories always retain freshness.

Aquarius: Love Is An Adventure

Aquarians are very creative and original and thus their style of loving is also original. They carry a dynamic attitude that is liked by others and they are also very eccentric. Aquarius believe that their love partners are their best friends, in fact, some of them cannot be comfortable in the relationship if the friendship is not agile. So, in love, they want to take an adventure tour to the world with their partners.

Pisces: Strong Emotional Lover

Pisces are very emotional and in love they are selfless. They know how to empathize with their partners. Pisces run very high on emotions and are always hungry for perfection even in love. Their sentimental angle makes them truly a pillar of support and strength to their partners. If they are in love, they won’t waste a single moment in expressing that feeling to their lovers.

It’s difficult for someone to deal with anxiety and it gets even more difficult when someone else has to suffer the consequences. Dating someone with anxiety can be awfully horrible. You cannot help to whom you fall for, but you can choose to fight and stick by each other. Anxiety is like the third person that wriggles in between you & your partner making it difficult for the relationship to thrive.  This person constantly sows doubt & confusion. There isn’t anyone out there training you with how to deal with the problems but with understanding anxiety in general can make you connect and love in a new way.

WHAT IS ANXIETY?

Anxiety disorders causes nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. These disorders alter how a person processes emotions and behave, also causing physical symptoms. Mild anxiety might be vague and unsettling, while severe anxiety may seriously affect day-to-day living.

Anxiety is a normal and an unpleasant part of life. One where an individual feels worried about the fears. When it comes to relationships, the anxiety is generally about the other person’s behavior & wellness. Certain questions that an anxious person might over think about are:

  1. What is he doesn’t love me as much as I love him?
  2. What if he’s lying to me? What if he’s lying to me?
  3. What if he’s hiding something from me? What if he’s hiding something from me?
  4. What if he’s cheating on me?
  5. What if he likes someone else better? What if he likes someone else better?
  6. What if my anxiety ruins our relationship? (Anxiety about Anxiety)
  7. What if we break up?
  8. What if he doesn’t text me back?
  9. What if I’m always the first one to reach out?
  10. What if he leaves me?

A lot of you wouldn’t agree because these seems like normal questions that one might think. But trust me when we say its anxiety, this gets pretty deep and intense with each thought. Few of the individuals show extreme caring nature which to an extent is their concern but after that it’s their fear taking over.

If you’re dating someone with anxiety, these are the thoughts that runs through your partner’s brain. And they most likely spend time worrying and ruminating about anything and everything that can possibly go wrong with the relationship.

ANIXETY & IT’S CONSEQUENCES

ANIXETY & IT’S CONSEQUENCES
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You might get stressed & agitated with the constant nagging, doubts and confusion but it’s much more than that for that one person. Anxiety is real mental health issue and nothing made up. It is normal, everyone has it but it’s an issue when it’s severe. One cannot imagine about how anxiety can be debilitating illness for one to function a normal life. Situations can make them experience fight or flight reactions and stress about their partner cheating and leaving. An individual suffering with anxiety disorder can over think about the pettiest of things and consequences that can be life threatening. Anxiety doesn’t have a fix cure to it. One’s who have it wish they didn’t have it. They oftentimes feel like a burden on people that they are connected with. There are anxiety-motivated behavior that people experience:

  1. Anger and irritability
  2. Being Controlling
  3. No focus and being distracted
  4. Avoidant or passive aggressive behavior
  5. Perfectionism

5 Tips That Can Help You Deal with Your Partner’s Anxiety

  1. Trying Couple Therapy with Your Partner
Trying Couple Therapy with Your Partner
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When you truly care for someone and you want to encourage them to battle with their stress, trying couples therapy can be a huge help. You can gently guide your partner to see a therapist for it doesn’t harm anyone. The therapist can work on their anxiety as there might be reasons from the relationship as well. Therapy not necessarily has to be for your partner. Couples therapy offers you tasks and issues that you both work on together, making you understand the condition with your partner and for them it makes them stress a little less.

  1. Creating a balance
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We often go back and forth assessing over what needs our attention the most; our partner’s attention, ourselves, or the need of the relationship. It’s fulfilling when we fill these needs respectively and accordingly. But when our partner is suffering from something that isn’t going away, we don’t have to ignore our own needs because then with time it gets greater. Balancing the needs accordingly is what is required. You need to work on your own needs that require immediate attention and then your partners. It’s rightly said, set your priorities right! (Not in a negative way)

  1. Be supportive
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With that constant fear of losing you, comes the immense need of affirmation that you’ll be there or you’re there. Showing that you care and supporting your partner with the suffering can not only make a difference to them but on the relationship. All they need is for you to be around them. With today’s technology, you can still be around even when you’re not.

  1. Stay Positive!
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Focusing on the positive parts of the relationship can be the biggest attributes of the relationship. Doesn’t matter how your partner is feeling, you don’t have to focus solely on the suffering. That is the time when you need to remind yourself the many reasons why you care for them in the first place.

  1. TALK!
TALK
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There’s nothing that a conversation cannot resolve. Talking to them about their fears can make them feel that they’re heard. There’s someone to listen, there’s someone to hold on to. Talking is the first and the foremost way of taking the fears out the mind. And in fact it might make it easy for you to understand what you’re partner’s going through. There are chances that the conversation may not go well but that is when you need to focus on the words and not the gestures & actions. Communication is the key to any relationship. For you, you might be busy but for them, they feel disconnected!

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Anxiety doesn’t have to put your relationship in jeopardy. By using the right coping strategies, you can have a healthy relationship and stop anxiety from causing too much stress.

“Love Is When You Find A New Address In Someone’s Heart & Make That Your Comfortable Home For Forever”.

One cannot undermine the role of love in life. Love is the only thing we survive for. Love is the driving force behind everyone. Everyone loves the feeling of being in love. It is the most beautiful feeling to return to a special person every day after work. But ever wondered why do people fall in love? Apart from your physical appearance, your financial status, family prestige, and your luminous career, there is a certain psychological aspect to love. The common human psychology is to be around people who are alike in some way. People also tend to be around those who give a feeling of safety, who are happy and welcoming, and who are problem-solvers. In short, those people who inspire others to push their limits and become a better person are always preferred as lovers.

You may own some wonderful qualities which make your partner proud of loving you. There are actually no convenient all-inclusive explanation or any proven formula for why people fall in love. But, some common psychological reasons can be cited below.

  1. The Similarity of Choices
The Similarity of Choices
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It is one of the most natural reasons to fall in love with someone. Each and every one has a set of choices, likes, and dislikes. So, when these likes and dislikes match with someone in the vicinity, we very easily become comfortable with that person. The similar likes may lead to watch a sports tournament, go for a movie night, set out to explore a variety of food in the city, etc. It is very normal to like and go on loving someone with whom you share a similarity of choices. Also when it comes to the ideologies in life or the value system – similarity is an important factor to fall in love.

  1. Playing Hard to Get
Playing Hard to Get
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When someone is casually approaching you, and if you say a “YES” instantly, that might kill the interest. On the other hand, if you are “playing hard to get” – that is what makes the other person chase you and eventually fall in love with you in a crazy way. But this may not apply to some people who love to live a simple life and for whom YES and NO means plain Yes and No.

  1. Being Happy & Cheerful
Being Happy & Cheerful
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Nobody wants to be around mundane, irritating, and unhappy people. The happy, cheerful, and smiling people are popular because they spread positivity among people around them. This is thus one of the prime reasons behind people falling in love. Everyone wants to return home to a person who would lift up their spirits with a happy and cheerful smile and a positive conversation. So, it can be your happy and cheerful vibe that might lead people to fall in love with you.

  1. The similarity with Ex
The similarity with Ex
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Different people have different ways of handling their past relationships. But it is a common phenomenon to fall in love with someone who shares a similarity with an “EX”. The similarity can be in the appearance, clothes, choice of perfume, hairstyle, the color of eyes, fondness for a type of food, etc. There are also people who wouldn’t think twice before running from the vicinity of someone who shares some kind of similarity with an “EX”. But for some this “similarity with Ex” can be a reason of beginning a new chapter in life.

  1. Attention
Attention
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If you are attentive towards what the other person is saying, there are large chances of the other one finding you the most suitable one to fall in love. Listening to all the big and small talks and participating in all the topics he/she brings on the table – helps one to depend on you. With your attentive nature, the other person feels comfortable and safe in your company.

  1. If You Own A Pet
If You Own A Pet
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Well, that might sound a little bit weird. But a research says that people find pet-owners more caring, loving, and reliable when it comes to commitments. The research was done on women in Israel who found men with dogs more suitable as lifelong partners. Maybe people with pets are happier, relaxed, and more approachable than the rest.

  1. Kind Attitude & Liberal Mind
Kind Attitude & Liberal Mind
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For any love relationship to sail forward, it is very important to own a liberal mind and a kind heart. A kind attitude towards anyone who is in need or underprivileged is praiseworthy. People always feel guarded and relaxed in the company of such kind hearts. Owning a liberal mind that permits people to be different and be respectful towards the difference is the fine quality one looks in a love-partner. If you have these two qualities – you must be having many lovers!

  1. A Great Sense of Humor
A Great Sense of Humor
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Humor is very important to make someone feel happy and alive. Maybe you own a great sense of humor which is a source of strength after someone’s bad day. They say that a good laugh and good sleep are two medicines for every disease in the world. A good laugh often leads to a sound sleep later. People forget their tensions and worries while they are with someone who cracks a joke every moment. And again this quality is also essential for a long-term relationship.

SRK – the name that has been ruling the Indian entertainment industry for the past 26 years now. His charisma is unflinching and his stardom is sky high – reaching newer heights every day. He is one of the most loved movie stars this world has ever seen. In India, before SRK, people have seen the stature of a Rajesh Khanna & Amitabh Bachchan, but the magnitude of Shah Rukh Khan’s stardom is seen hardly in a century. Nasreen Munni Kabir in his documentary, “The Inner & Outer World of Shah Rukh Khan” described him as the biggest movie star ever. His popularity can even surpass the likes of Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt put together.

In this time of growing stardom of Ranveer Singh, Ranbir Kapoor, Varun Dhawan, etc. the position of Shahrukh Khan is still secure (Just look at the crowd at Mannat every Sunday or on his birthday!) Because, who has that destiny to hold a record number of nominations – 226 in total, out of which he won 207 times and to be precise won 29 times for the Best Actor. The most prestigious Filmfare Award was won by him 8 times for Best Actor and he was nominated in this category for 25 times.

The Indian cine-goers have applauded Padma Shri Shah Rukh Khan mostly in his romantic avatars because no one can romanticize the idea of romance like SRK does! But personally, he doesn’t like these romantic roles much. It is those action-packed thrillers that give SRK the kick! But he became what he is today for playing those Raj/Rahul’s on-screen who magically opens his arms for the actress. His signature pose is supported by a flawless comic timing & an endearing melodrama!

Before he celebrates rather the whole nation celebrates his 53rd birthday, let’s rewind and find those characters that prove that SRK is more than just the “King of Romance”.

Chak De India
Chak De India
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Releasing the same year as Om Shanti Om, in 2007, this movie is a milestone in his career for sure. Even the SRK-haters would also agree to this point. A failed hockey player who is hell bent to build the Women’s Hockey Team in India so that his mettle is proved – is a cinephile’s delight! As Kabir Khan, SRK was at his best. What a personality we saw on screen! Kabir Khan’s eyes were always in the search of positivity. His motivational speech to his players or the last scene where he breaks down completely after the win – are two of the best moments of this great movie directed by Shimit Amin.

Dear Zindagi
Dear Zindagi
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This movie released in 2016 and Gauri Shinde is the 4th woman director who directed SRK. His role was of a psychiatrist which was like an extended cameo presence. Chak De India made him a mentor and this movie made him a therapist. As Dr. Jehangir Khan, he gives some life-altering lessons to Kaira played by Alia Bhatt. This is another Un-SRK movie where he is not given any love interest although the enchanting and mysterious personality of the psychiatrist makes the patient fall in love.

Darr
Darr
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This movie gave him a strong foothold in Bollywood. K..k…k…..k … Kiran. What a scream was that! Directed by Yash Chopra, this movie released in 1993 and had Sunny Deol as the lead actor of the movie. But guess what! SRK stole all the thunder with his negative role. His eyes were piercing like a hawk! The creepy stalker – he is simply not afraid to kill to get to the love of his life and that amazing performance still give us goosebumps. This is one of his finest performances. In an era where playing a negative role almost killed the dreams of actors, SRK played this role of Rahul Mehra and things changed!

Swadesh
Swadesh
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A never seen before Shah Rukh Khan was presented in this movie directed by Ashutosh Gowariker that released in the year 2004. This year also saw the timeless romance in Veer-Zaara. But this movie was again a path-breaking one for SRK. He played the role of a NASA Project Manager who comes to India and realizes his duties towards the nation. He completely discarded that “Star” aura with this movie and became one with the character named Mohan. The pain in his eyes seeing kids selling a glass of water for 25 paise is really commendable. He is truly bigger than that “King Of Romance”!

Kabhi Haan Kabhi Naa
Kabhi Haan Kabhi Naa
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Primarily, if you look into the story of this movie, it is a soggy story of any commoner. Someone who doesn’t look good, is not great at studies, not interested in the family business, but desperately loves a girl who doesn’t have any future plans with him! Shah Rukh Khan as Sunil won the hearts of Indian audiences with innocence and flaws. Sunil loves Anna and music but none is giving him anything crucial in life. But he doesn’t lose hope. It was one of the oldest movies of SRK that released in 1994 and the lovely performance won him his first Filmfare Award for Best Actor-Critic.

Asoka
Asoka
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Directed by Santosh Sivan, Asoka released in 2001 and saw an SRK never seen before. He played Emperor Asoka in the movie who fulfills family duties, falls in love, and then sees the atrocious Kalinga war and chooses the path of peace called Buddhism. Shah Rukh Khan walked the regal way while portraying this historical character. The long hair and intense eyes didn’t make him a Box Office winner but it is one of the finest performances of SRK sans romance!

Baazigar
Baazigar
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He says that he was able to buy “Mannat” due to this movie. This movie permanently nailed his superstardom in India. He was not totally a hero or an anti-hero in this movie. But yes, he was very much a believable actor. The role of Vicky Malhotra/Ajay Sharma couldn’t have been historic without Shah Rukh Khan. A ruthless person who throws Shilpa Shetty from a tall building is hard-hitting that scares us like hell. But this man is on a mission of taking revenge for his family. He romances the enemy’s daughter and wonderfully enough he portrays both the heartless and lovable characters with ease.

Kal Ho Naa Ho
Kal Ho Naa Ho
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In one of his interviews, he told that may be his biography or autobiography would be named “Kal Ho Naa Ho” and this is the tune or song that would be played at his funeral. Many say that this movie directed by Nikhil Advani released in 2003 is a modern-day version of Anand. SRK’s sensitive portrayal of Aman Mathur – a dying man who teaches the meaning of life to fellow neighbors is unforgettable. He made us laugh, cry, and fall in love. Although it is a romantic movie we saw other facades of SRK more in this movie.

Raju Ban Gaya Gentleman
Raju Ban Gaya Gentleman
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Again a common man story! This is a story of any small town boy or girl who is ambitious and wants to work hard to reach success. Raj Mathur, lovingly known as Raju by neighbors is from Darjeeling who comes to Mumbai to become a big engineer. In his new city he finds love and in office, his boss falls in love with him. This story is not only about romance but shows how difficult is it to lose the moral grounds and how far people go in the name of “earning some money”. Money became so important that the life of human beings seems nothing in front of that. SRK – a middle class from within portrays these confusions beautifully.

My Name Is Khan
My Name Is Khan
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This is perhaps one of the most challenging roles of SRK. He played Rizwan Khan, a survivor of Asperger’s Syndrome. SRK pulls off this character with utmost brilliance and conviction. Directed by Karan Johar this movie released in the year 2010 and dealt with real-world issues without getting too preachy. The performance of Shah Rukh Khan in this unconventional movie proves why he is more than just the “king of romance”.

Why SRK is a big hero in our country? That is perhaps a million dollar question. But probably because every average Indian person sees a part of themselves in him. He never had the charming looks of Rajesh Khanna, the baritone or height of Mr. Bachchan, or the highly built-up body like Salman Khan. He looks very average, with medium height, boisterous hair, & an ok kind of physique – this is the look of real India. A nation still described as poor, inhabited by middle-class people requires some kind of magical success story as an inspiration or hope. SRK is that dream & motivation. He injects the thought that wherever you are in whichever field you are – if you work hard and remain focused – no one can snatch away your success story!

Raising a toast to many more successful years of SRK!

Love is the prime ingredient of life. Without love, there is no meaning to life. Falling in love is thus very important and more important is to stay in love. Love makes you a better person for sure. A healthy love relationship can be called a near about perfect relationship. Because day in and day out, both the partners learn something positive from each other. These lessons help in the personal growth of an individual. That leads to better performance in every other department of life too.

  1. If your partner sees more positive things in you than you analyze in yourself, then truly that helps you to be a better person. Any positive input sets the mind in a better place. So, when you are critical of yourself but your partner is not, you would improve for sure. For example, if you feel that you are not smart enough but your partner feels the opposite then you would start improving your attitude and that would make a huge difference.
  2. In many ways, the interests and likes of your partner may help you in expanding your horizon. For example, if your partner loves bungee jumping and you have never tried it before, then you may have a life-changing experience with him/her. It would give you a victorious feeling. And you would be satisfied with trying something new and out of the ordinary. This would help in retaining the freshness in your relationship.
  3. You always gain from the good habits of your partner. If he/she is great at maintaining health, finance, or psychological habits, then the positive effects would brighten you up. If your partner maintains a healthy lifestyle by discarding junk food and adopting meditation, then after a certain point of time, you would also feel like following the same path seeing great results.
  4. Anyone can be happy with you on your good days. It is the bad days of your life that shows you the true colors of the people around you. If your partner is appreciative and supportive of you in your bad days, then obviously you are in a great and healthy relationship. A warm hug and a few supportive words give a better emotional strength to endure the challenges in life. Once your partner does that you, then you also become more positive towards the challenges in life.
  5. If you see that your partner encourages your habits. Then definitely it is a sign of a growing and healthy relationship. For example, if you hum all the time and your partner encourages you to take singing seriously and participate in competitions or concerts, then that is really praiseworthy. You would feel fulfilled in this relationship and be a happier version of yourself.
  6. Your love relationship helps you with “self-acceptance”. When you tell your partner about your likes, dislikes, things that make you anxious or things that make you vulnerable, etc. and your partner still accepts you and loves you. Eventually, you also start accepting yourself in a better way. For people who worry that they are incompatible or unlovable, a healthy relationship can put them in a better emotional state.
  7. Your partner doesn’t tolerate your negative attitude and so you change in positive ways. For example, your partner doesn’t tolerate you being a melodramatic person. And with the flow of time, you change yourself because you learn that there is no value of this melodrama and that definitely paves new development for you. Or in case, your partner doesn’t appreciate your racist or homophobic statements and asks you politely to change it by making you understand the reality. Then, of course, he/she is working on making you a better human being – that itself is commendable! Or, your partner doesn’t tolerate racist or homophobic statements. They call you on these things and you change for the better.
  8. Your partner loves you and that’s why he/she loves your dreams and desires too. So, while supporting you practically, your partner allows you to pursue your big business aspiration. This will definitely help you to rely more on your partner emotionally because you know that your partner gave you the wings to fly.

Appreciate all the good things in your partner and to address the bad things be patient and understanding. In any healthy love relationship, understanding is the mainstay. It makes one feel free and that is a sense of freedom is the key to happiness. Once a person knows, he/she would be accepted as they are, the person tends to be more successful in individual goals. That’s what a healthy love relationship is all about!

Teeming with all the feelings and still unbeknown to what and how to plan something really special and romantic for your significant other? Take a cue from here and try out some ideas to bring the romantic flavor to your next date!

  1. Cuddle up, Drive-in
Cuddle up, Drive-in
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Well the concept of the drive-in in some parts of the country in the US is making a comeback. Lucky Y’all! Although India would still be longing for such a thing. Watching a movie is cliché but passé. Cuddle up in the coziest blanket and watch a movie together in a Drive-In. Lean back and enjoy the movie (or whatever else).

  1. Drunch by the ocean
Drunch by the ocean
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Drunch just like Brunch (Breakfast + Lunch), is a portmanteau for drinks and lunch. Genius, right? Going further, drinks, a delicious lunch, and the never-ending ocean would be a perfect idea for a date where you just want to talk & know each other a lil more. Getting drunk over lunch sounds weird but what’s the fun when you cannot be weird together!

  1. Learning an art together
Learning an art together
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Learning an art together can turn out to be learning about each other and that’s an art in itself though! Dance is one the most romantic & smart ways of knowing each other intimately and up & close. There’s nothing that brings two people closer like dance or pottery. There’s something utterly romantic about learning an art together. Try it out!

  1. Being Adventurous
Being Adventurous
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Find an adventure that you two might want to explore together. Adrenaline-spiked adventures like skydiving, scuba diving, kayaking, trekking or even camping can make it fun and romantic at the same time. These unusual and adventurous date ideas can make a big impact on you two. Bring an intellectual and physical thrill in the relationship.

  1. Star Gazing
Star Gazing
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Inspired by “A Walk to Remember”, as cliché and bookish it may sound this one is a classic. All of us, hands down want someone to lay down on the ground and gaze the stars and the constellations with. And for true romance, get along some fine wine. To plan this date, winters can be the perfect climate as the skies are clear. Watching the stars holding hands is a timeless date idea. Ah! What vibes!

When date night’s approaching and you need some ideas? Get inspired by any Hollywood or Bollywood movie. They’re the best! And there’s nothing like “Ye sab sirf kitaabo aur filmo mein acha lagta hain”. Romance doesn’t have to be a try-hard thing, it’s effortless. And an effortless effort is beautiful.

Relationships are not like living in a rainbow land where everything goes as planned. Relationships are about getting through every situation of life together without giving up on each other. Life is too short to stay stuck in a toxic relationship. So, if you feel you are in one, you can either work upon improving it or move on. There is no point sitting around and resisting! Take charge of your own happiness.

Was your relationship all good in the beginning but it’s simply stressful now? If your being with your partner gives you stress and you can’t be yourself around them, you are probably in a toxic relationship.

What is a Toxic Relationship?

A relationship is supposed to make you feel happy and relaxed. If it does not, then you don’t have to be with that person. A toxic relationship is the one which makes you feel stressful, dumb, contaminates your self-esteem, and fills your heart with remorse and pain. A toxic relationship is the one where you feel emotionally drained and the constant fear of judgment creeps in when you are with them. It is very necessary to identify the signs of a toxic relationship because it can damage you in more ways than you think! Here are 10 signs of a toxic relationship:

1) Jealous in Every Sense
Jealous in Every Sense
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Many times we ignore the signs of toxicity thinking it is pretty normal. Well, Jealousy is one of those signs. Being jealous in a relationship is normal, isn’t it? Some might even find it cute! But, there is a very thin line between jealousy and toxicity. If they are jealous of people who flirt with you, it is natural. But if they are jealous of every person who talks to you nicely and with the slightest of threat, they ask you to stop talking to them that is toxic! You’re a human too and can’t stop living your life for them. Your partner needs to trust you and your love.

2) Criticism & Comparison
Criticism & Comparison
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You are never too good for them! All you’re ever going to hear is “Why don’t you dress up like her?” “Her boyfriend made this grand gesture for her, why don’t you ever do it?” or “You need to lose some weight, you look awful!”

Well if they criticize and compare you to other people then, they clearly don’t see you for who you are. They have an ideal image of you and want you to fit into that. This ain’t healthy!

3) Communication is a Big Deal
Communication is a Big Deal
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Communication is the building block of a relationship. Being in a relationship with someone means that you can talk to them about anything and everything fearlessly. Isn’t that’s what significant other is supposed to do? Understand you? Well, if you can not talk to them without thinking or without the fear of being judged then you are definitely in a toxic relationship.

4) They Don’t Encourage You To Grow
They Don’t Encourage You To Grow
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You grow a little every day. While you grow, you change in many ways. Someone who truly loves you will support you through those changes and hurdles of life, while your insecure partner will try to hold you back and become a hurdle in your personal growth. They will be jealous of your achievements, will not support your interest and always make you feel like you do not matter. They may often mock you & make fun of you!

5) Passive Aggressive Behavior
Passive Aggressive Behavior
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This is the most commonly approved behaviour in relationships. Fighting isn’t a good thing but staying silent and dropping hints is even worse. If something is bothering you, talk to them about it than avoiding the conversation. This harms relationships the most. Your partner may feel unwanted. Ignorance isn’t bliss and tantrums aren’t fun.

6) Constant Fear of Break Up
Constant Fear of Break Up
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Do you think it is worth being in a relationship where you constantly fear losing your partner? Being worried about losing the other person is not the sign of a healthy relationship. You may fear because they constantly threaten to break up with you, flirt with other people a lot or maybe you feel really unwanted. Either way, it is going to disturb your peace of mind and nothing is worth it!

7) Non-Stop Narcissism
Non-Stop Narcissism
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People often masquerade narcissism as self-love. If your partner is always talking about themselves and hardly care about what’s happening with you, it ain’t a healthy relationship. Self-Love is a good thing. If you don’t love yourself, you can not expect someone else to love you. But, when you commit to the other person, you need to love them just as much as you love yourself because your significant other matters!

8) Constant Need of Being Perfect
Constant Need of Being Perfect
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Everyone is mortified on their first date. We try to be perfect and try our best not to do or say anything stupid. It is okay! The problem is when you always try to be perfect around them. You hide your flaws all the time when you are around them. Have a constant fear of being judged and this makes you uncomfortable in being yourself around them. You need to be with someone who makes you feel comfortable so you can be yourself, with all the flaws! You need to let your guard down.

9) Competition & Scorecard
Competition & Scorecard
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In a healthy relationship, your partner is going to listen to your problems and forgive & forget your mistakes. In a toxic relationship whenever you share your problems or achievements, your partner is going to compare it to their own. If you say “You had a really bad day at work”, instead of sympathizing or asking what happened they will start to make you feel that their day was worse. No matter what you say, they are just going to compete with you. Your partner may even have a scorecard of where they compare ‘who made more mistakes?’

You need to understand that it is a relationship and not an academic project!

10) Privacy? What Privacy?
Privacy? What Privacy?
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Even when you are in a relationship, you are an individual and deserve some level of privacy. If your partner trusts you, they will respect your privacy. If you find your partner constantly checking your call logs, emails, text messages & social media inboxes then they definitely do not trust you. Everyone has a personal life and keeping a tab on your SO is a major sign of a toxic relationship. You are an adult and do not need a babysitter!

11) Restrictions
Restrictions
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People always think it is okay to tell your partner what to do and what not to do. Reality check, it is not okay! Every individual has their own life and one can’t be restricting them from doing stuff. If you find your partner controlling your every move, asking you not to talk to people, giving up on things you enjoy & controlling everything you say, welcome to a classic toxic relationship.

12) You Are Simply Not Happy
You Are Simply Not Happy
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If you don’t feel empowered and happy in a relationship then you aren’t with the right person. Your significant other is supposed to make you happy. You are supposed to become the better version of yourself with the person you love and, if you can’t then you have to find out why.

Every relationship has ups and downs. Relationships aren’t walking in the park on a sunny yet breezy day, they are about walking in the park in every season and protecting each other. Relationships aren’t all happy or all sad, balance is very important. It is very easy to land into a relationship but difficult to maintain one.

P.S. If you feel you are the toxic one in the relationship, you are not a bad person. You just belong with someone else. Let the other person go!

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