Man is a social animal.
– Baruch Spinoza
Being a social animal, we as humans come across several people in our day-to-day lives. And out of all the people we meet, some become an important part of our existence who have a deep impact on it. But their influence may not necessarily be positive all the time. Sometimes we surround ourselves with toxic people unknowingly who suck positivity from our lives and make us feel unhappy, suppressed, and depressed. Their actions and habits affect us badly by creating an aura of negativity and taking our attention away from all the positive things in life. You may feel stuck with them at every step and feel like there is no way out. Let us tell you that it may get harder to eliminate the toxic people from your life but with some effective measures you can turn around the situation.
Here are a few tips to eliminate toxic people from your life.
Identify the Toxic People
The first and foremost step- to recognize the people who are poisoning your life with their negative thoughts. They are selfish, controlling, and constantly bring you down with their pessimistic behavioral pattern. The toxic people distract you from your true motive. No matter what efforts you make to help them out, things only get worse with their negative approach, which makes it almost impossible to work with them.
Cut Them Out
You need to understand the fact that a toxic person is not going to change. No matter how many times this person apologize, accept the mistake or promise to change, it all comes back to square one. You cannot expect them to change for others! So do what’s good for you and your peace of mind. Cut these toxic people out of your life, for once and for all. If you notice no signs of change in their behavioral pattern, it is better to let them go.
Stick To Your Decision
As you decide to distance yourself from the toxic people, there are chances they may dig deeper and refuse to leave. And this is very likely to happen! They will try to get you back to cling and keep talking about the complexities in their life. But you need to stick to your decision. Be affirmative about your choice to end the relationship with them and make sure the message is communicated well.
Maintain A Safe Distance
Even after the attempt of eliminating toxic people from your life, you may have to come across them at the workplace or family gatherings and interact at a formal level. Do establish boundaries. Don’t entertain them at the personal level. Do not answer their texts or emails that requires a discussion about their life or personal issues. Once you decide to end the relationship, it is your responsibility to make sure that you keep your boundaries intact.
Don’t Feel Guilty
Toxic people get their energy from your loving and caring nature. And they can go to any extent to grab your attention. Even after the clear communication of your disinterest in their life matters, they may show up during crisis moments and ask for a shoulder to cry. Now, this is the point where you don’t have to feel guilty for not helping them out and should stop going out of your way to comfort them. Anyway, you cannot bring happiness to one’s life who has built the wall of sad clouds around them. Only they can clear their mess and make themselves happy.
Focus On Yourself
Toxic people have the ability to drain your energy. They leave you surrounded with the negativity that takes a toll on your confidence and self-esteem. So once you choose to chuck out these negative influences from your life, it’s time to focus on your happiness and things that matter to you. Surround yourself with positive people who help you evolve as a better person. The healthy friendships and relationships will make you feel happy, strong, and cherished.
The tips mentioned above will help you identify toxic people and teach how to maintain a safe distance from them to lead a happy, confident, and positive life.