First things first, if you suspect that your partner is cheating, then let us tell you the doubt does not grow out of anywhere. Either there is a drastic change in your partner’s habit or there is noticeable guilt in their behavior.
In both scenarios, things seem to be going south for your relationship. In your mind, you must have raised this question a million times “Is he cheating?” But how are you actually planning to confront him with the question “Is he cheating?” While it is good to talk about your suspicion but facing reality can be difficult at times. So, if you ever find yourself suspecting your partner of cheating, there here are a few simple steps you should take.
Analyze the Entire Situation
Think about things that make you suspect your partner! Take a good look at your partner’s daily activities. If your partner is spending too much time on his/her phone. The communication between you two is not how it used to be. If the spark has faded between you two. Or your partner is trying to spend as much time possible being away from you.
Confront Your Partner
Once you have identified your feelings about the entire situation, it is time to move to the next step. Talk to your partner about how the recent change in his/her behavior affects you. This is something you are doing for your peace of mind, so do it with full dignity and respect. Your anger is reasonable but does not try and dominate your partner when you speak about your feelings. Accepting faults require a lot of courage. Your partner may be sorry for his/her behavior. Or it is also possible that your partner may deny it at first.
If Your Partner Deny, Show Evidence
In case the latter happens, show your partner the logical pieces of evidence. The phone call list, photographs, exchanged text details, hidden emails, credit card statements, etc. Because there are chances that your partner may deny it until you show him/her the actual evidence.
Allow Your Partner to Express Their Perspective
When your partner takes the blame, allow them to narrate their side of the story. We understand that cheating is never justified. But it cannot always be baseless. Ask your partner about things that they fail to achieve in a relationship, such as affection, companionship, sex, lack of understanding or any other important factor. Is your partner able to find all these things outside the relationship or not? Or does your partner need any sort of therapist help to deal with problems and issues? Talking about all these things will help you understand the problem much better.
Discuss the Damage Caused To Your Relationship
Of course, when your partner cheats on you it takes a toll on your relationship and equation. Discuss with your partner the damage that his/her behavior has caused to the relationship and your emotional sanity. That will help your partner gauge the intensity of their wrong actions.
Consider Pros & Cons for Final Decision
After everything said and heard comes the final step where you have to decide whether you want to stick or twist. Do you want to break up with your partner or give them another chance for redemption? Every relationship is different and sacred for the two people involved in it. If you believe the loss is irreplaceable and staying with the same person will give you nothing more than pain and anxiety, then moving out of it seems a viable option. But if your partner accepts his/her mistake and does everything to heal your wounds, then at least he/she deserves a chance. The final call should be made from deep within your soul!
Always remember what doesn’t destroy your relationship, makes it stronger!!