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Who doesn’t love a good Netflix show? One such show is BoJack Horseman! Filled with dark humor, this animated comedy show covers a lot of untouched sensitive issues. It has taught me about life more than school ever did. The anthropomorphic, drunk horse taught me the truths no one ever told me. Everyone is too scared to talk about the sad things in life, well not BoJack!

Here are a few things BoJack has taught me:
PS. Spoilers Ahead!

Living In The Past Wouldn’t Help You
Living In The Past Wouldn’t Help You
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BoJack has wasted so many years of his life! He was once a successful actor, but now instead of getting back to his life, he is still stuck on the phase of that one successful show- Horsin’ Around. Everyone in his life has moved on! Everyone who worked with him on the show, all of his friends and his entire family. He is left miserable, drunk & under the delusion that he is a superstar.

Being Rich Does Not Make You Happy
Being Rich Does Not Make You Happy
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BoJack is rich. He made a lot of money and doesn’t even have to work to live a lavish lifestyle. But is he happy? Most of the times, he is drunk, grumpy & seems depressed. His sober identity is constantly thinking about how empty his life is & how messed up he is!

Things Get Easier Every Day If We Try
Things Get Easier Every Day If We Try
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Remember the random old man from the show who jogs every morning around BoJack’s house. When BoJack attempts to be fit and starts to Jog, he falls down and is about to give up. The wise man comes along, helps him and tells him that “It gets easier every day.” You shouldn’t give up on things just because they seem tough, but keep trying because every day you learn something new which will make it easier.

Stop Taking People For Granted
Stop Taking People For Granted
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We all have people who love us & care about us. And we often start taking them for granted. We think that they’re going to be there for us all the time and often forget to appreciate their efforts. Harsh reality- They Leave!

Todd was BoJack’s friend, cared for him even when BoJack treated him poorly, he stayed and cared for him. He stayed even after he had money, but once he realized that BoJack does not care at all!

Similarly, Princess Caroline left once she realized that BoJack wouldn’t change.

Your Attitude Towards Life Matters A Lot
Your Attitude Towards Life Matters A Lot
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There is BoJack Horseman & then there is Mr. Peanutbutter! BoJack was the star of the show Horsin’ Around and Mr. Peanutbutter started with Mr. Peanutbutter’s House which was clearly a copied from Horsin’ Around. Despite this, everyone loves Mr. Peanutbutter, while BoJack is long forgotten! Why? Mr. Peanutbutter never gives up, he is positive & sees good in all situations. He has a very positive attitude towards life, cheerful & enthusiastic!

No One Is Perfect
No One Is Perfect
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Everyone loves Mr. Peanutbutter. He seems like the perfect man every girl wants! Along with a good heart, he also has a very positive attitude towards life. He seems Perfect but he PURR-FECT!

Mr. Peanutbutter has his own flaws! He can get a little clingy in relationships, is a bit of a narcissist & cannot do many things but wouldn’t admit defeat!

He did not understand that his wives had a career & aspirations, always talked about how great he is & was definitely not a good politician.

Educated The World About Asexuality
Educated The World About Asexuality
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Many of us are aware of asexuality while to others asexuality is all about amoebae reproduction. The show BoJack Horseman not only introduced the concept of asexuality to many but educated us all. It started with what is it, how does it affects the people around & how it is common, but people struggle with their sexuality.

Seeking Closure Will Make You Happy- Elusive & Deceptive Concept
Seeking Closure Will Make You Happy- Elusive & Deceptive Concept
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Since childhood, people have taught us that it is very important to seek closure. It isn’t true! Sometimes it is best to let things be. The closure will not always make you feel better!

When BoJack finds out that his Ex-Best Friend Herb Kazzaz is dying of cancer, he visits him to apologize for betraying him but Herb refuses!  He says he is clearly under no obligation to forgive & wants BoJack to live with the guilt for life. Sometimes it is better to confront the person you are rather than expecting others to forgive us!

Doing Good Will Not Always Make You Feel Good
Doing Good Will Not Always Make You Feel Good
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Diane starts to feel like she needs to do something big for the world and follows the philanthropist Sebastian St. Clair, who is working at a war scene in Cordovia. She realizes that St. Clair is working for them just to get his name highlighted, boost his ego & and for his own gain. After all this, he was still doing a good thing. Diane eventually walked away from then cause and St. Clair because it simply didn’t feel right.

Achieving What You Want Will Not Always Make You Happy
Achieving What You Want Will Not Always Make You Happy
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BoJack always wanted to be the star of The Secretariat’s Autobiography. He has waited for the role of secretariat his entire life as secretariat was his idol! When he did get the role, he learned more about his idol. This only made him feeling emptier than before.

Trying To Achieve Things From Past Can Do A Lot Of Damage
Trying To Achieve Things From Past Can Do A Lot Of Damage
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BoJack has always wondered what it would be like if he left with Charlotte (His Friend & Herb’s Ex-girlfriend) to live in Maine. He always thought that there was a spark between them, but he was too scared to leave. When he decides to visit Charlotte to give it a try, it is too late! She is happily married with 2 kids. He instead wrecks things even more by getting involved with Charlotte’s daughter- Penny who is a teenager!

Families & Relationships Don’t Have To Be Clichéd
Families & Relationships Don’t Have To Be Clichéd
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Diane & Mr. Peanutbutter decide to stay friends after divorce. Princess Carolyn adopts a baby as a single mother. Todd’s ex-girlfriend becomes his best friend. Things don’t have to be the way society wants them to be!

Pain Is An Inevitable Part Of Life
Pain Is An Inevitable Part Of Life
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When BoJack’s Mother died, he felt the pain. He delivered a 20-minute long eulogy where it was clear that BoJack had a very perplexing relationship with his mom. He narrates everything- good & bad about the kind of relationship he shared with his mom only to realize that he does feel bad about her death. And he also realizes that there is never a happy ending or a sad one either. It is always mystifying!

Alcohol & Drug Dependency Lead To The Path Of Self Destruction
Alcohol & Drug Dependency Lead To The Path Of Self Destruction
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The Show BoJack Horseman has covered a very important issue- Alcohol & Drug Abuse! BoJack has been portrayed as an Alcohol Addict and Sarah Lyyn as a Drug Addict.

BoJack Horseman often has blackouts for days! Sarah Lyyn dies because of Drug Overuse. We see BoJack hitting the rock bottom because of Substance Abuse & at the end of season 6, he finally decides to get help.

That Emptiness! 
That Emptiness! 
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Well, that is something not learned from BoJack Horseman! We all can just can relate to BoJack on so many levels. That emptiness he feels, that is so relatable and scary!

It is frightening how a show with anthropomorphic characters teach us so much about life and how relatable it can be! It covers important issues like depression, asexuality, substance abuse, stardom, feminism, & so much more! So, if you haven’t seen the show, I strongly recommend you to.

The team of Zoya-Reema has often been ridiculed for showing the lives of rich people on screen but I don’t buy those opinions. The human emotion of love, hate, jealousy, regret, and greed are the same everywhere. 8th March – on the International Women’s Day “Made In Heaven” got its digital release. With the trailer of the web series on Amazon Prime, it garnered some attention. This time Alankrita Shrivastava has teamed up with Zoya Akhtar & Reema Kagti to present the tale of the “rich” people again. Unlike Gully Boy, this time Zoya-Reema have tried to play safe as no one can narrate the lives of the rich people better really!

Made In Heaven is the name of a wedding planning company owned by Tara & Karan who are best friends. In each episode, you will see a new wedding assignment and through these brides, grooms, & the wedding events, various topics are pricked – greed for money, fake social prestige, acceptance of same-sex relationship, dowry & the filth around it, etc. Simultaneously, with that, the tales in the lives of Tara & Karan also forges ahead.

The 9 episodes web series talked about too many things under the sun and here is my observation of some practical relationship lessons that it preached in absolutely “non-preachy” tone.

Your Parents Also Have A Life
Your Parents Also Have A Life
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Being raised in this Indian culture, most of us cultivate two thoughts about marriage – firstly, you should marry only once and secondly, once you are married, you should love only your married partner even after the death of him/her. But what if your parents want a companionship? You are not always there with your parents as you have your projects, assignments, and perhaps your own marriage or relationship. So, think broadly for once and let your parents live their life. The society was never nice before and it won’t be so kind even now. And to stay happy, you should not think of society! Your parents have raised you, gave you life, and prepared you to face every challenge in life and after all, that when you are an adult, they should also take some rest and live life just as they want.

Accept Your Children
Accept Your Children
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There was a heartbreaking scene when a teenage Karan is mercilessly beaten with a cricket bat by his mother. Why? Because his mom came to know that her first born child is gay. She is petrified to face her son and the whole baggage of facing the family or outer world when they will come to know about this make her angry. But seriously, beating up your child would leave a scar in his/her mind forever against you. He/she will always try to run away from you, hide smallest to biggest things from you, or will always live under the impression that his/her parents don’t love. This is vehemently wrong. If you being the parent cannot accept the “sexual choice” of your son/daughter, the whole world won’t! If you didn’t support them today, they will turn out to be an average person with zero confidence for life tomorrow. So, accept them as they are and never try to manipulate their thoughts too!

Mistakes Happen & That’s Ok
Mistakes Happen & That’s Ok
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Episode No. 2 shows the marriage of Harsimran (bride), princess of Dubai, and Jogi (son of a rich hotelier in Delhi). Harsimran is a bright young girl who speaks in an accent and loves the Bollywood hero Sarfaraz Khan. So, in their pre-wedding bash, the star is called by Jogi. Now, Sarfaraz is a womanizer and it is not difficult for Harsimran to sleep with him especially when she has a crush on him. She wakes up and finds a scandalous picture on social media which leads to many hassles later on. So, the wedding planners come up with a nice idea to stop the negative buzz on social media. She fell in love with Jogi properly when she realized how easily he forgave her and thus during Mehendi she was in guilt. Harsimran starts vomiting & crying realizing she is about to enter a new life with a lie. Karan says to her, “it’s ok, it’s your life, keep this little secret with yourself”. Every one of us has some kind of secret and there is no need to feel guilty for that mistake – perhaps that was ok for the moment.

Never Ever Settle With Hypocrites
Never Ever Settle With Hypocrites
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Most of us or all of us do try to fake certain things while we start dating and that’s ok. But with time, we all get into our real skin and that’s when the relationship either crashes or rises to the next level. This point “never settle with hypocrites” is meant mostly for the girls. As inspired by one of the brides in this series, take a stern decision to walk away from your relationship even when you are just on the verge of the marriage. It is much needed to stand up and make a valid statement right now rather than spending the whole life in thought “I didn’t love this man”.

As per the story, the bride and groom organized their wedding and spending their hard earned money on it. The parents are also helping in certain segments and the groom is an IAS officer who wants to do something for the society. But that’s just the superficial layer. His baraat won’t enter the venue until the “dowry” settlement is done. This topic of “dowry” was never discussed and the groom’s family says “I thought you know that it is a tradition”. Yes, this kind of people still breathes in this world. The wedding planner being a woman herself decides to tell this thing to the bride just before she was about to take the saat-pheras and the bride walks away saying the most beautiful line – “I am not going to pay anyone to marry me”. Imagine how hard life would have been if the marriage was complete!

What You Do To Others Comes Back To You
What You Do To Others Comes Back To You
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What you do to others, how you behave with others, everything actually comes back to you. So, it is important to be nice & polite to people. There is no need to start a foul play as you never know it may hit you harder. That’s what happened with Tara who took all the wrong routes to be rich. She desperately wanted to be one among the “cream of the society” and that made her do all the planning to break Adil’s engagement. She does all that just to be married to a big shot Adil Khanna and lives a comfortable & luxurious life. And see how life gets back to her! Adil later happens to romance Tara’s best friend Faiza until Tara find that out leaves the marriage.

This web series of 9 episodes is one of the finest things to happen to this new wave of Indian web series world. It will be remembered even after 20 years down the line for its amazing cinematography, tactful story-telling, stupendous dialogues, and of course, for giving a glimpse of the reality!

If you say you do not like beer and still wandering over this blog, you are lying! Everyone loves beer. It is so refreshing and light! In summers, it is my go-to drink. With the godly drink, comes its followers. There are different types of Beer Drinkers and they are very typical:

The Fancy One
The Fancy One
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This person knows all the fancy beer names. When they order a beer, it’s almost like they’re ordering a fancy cocktail with a very complicated name. They are very particular about what beer they’re having and would simply reject the regular brands!

The “Ek Hi Piyunga”
The “Ek Hi Piyunga”
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This one person will always be very reluctant with the idea of having a beer. His only excuse is “Ghar jana h, Smell ayegi!”

He would always stop after 2 pints because he is scared that he would be sloshed and that lovely smell of beer would be all over him!

Drunk After One Beer
Drunk After One Beer
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We all have that one friend who is really enthusiastic about plans. When you name the beer, they get excited and start telling you their stories about how they finished bottles after bottles! They will take your expectations to another level, but when you actually sit down with them, they start tripping after 2 sips. After one bottle, they are barely able to say their own name. These people can not tolerate their beer yet love to boast!

The Brewed Beer Only
The Brewed Beer Only
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Brewed beer is amazing! It definitely is but, you can’t have it all the time. I mean it wouldn’t be available everywhere! This one person would refuse to have anything other than brewed beer. As per them, brewed beer is the real deal!

The One Who Loves Beer Pong
The One Who Loves Beer Pong
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These type of people do not usually drink beer but only when he is playing beer pong! This one person would be ready to play beer pong any time of the day.

The Guru
The Guru
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This one person knows everything about beer. They will tell you the name brand or flavor with just one sip. The guru knows everything about beer like- how is every brand pronounced, which one is strong, which one is light, where can you find the best-brewed beer, where can you find the cheapest beer, etc.

If you wish to try something new, you can trust this person for advice.

The “Beer Is Water” Guy
The “Beer Is Water” Guy
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Beer is water to them! They finish their beer faster than a thirsty guy from the street drinks water. They sneakily finish the entire crate of beer at the party and stand straight! Beer is literally water to them.

 Stuck On One Pint
 Stuck On One Pint
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You will meet this person at the beginning of a party with a pint of beer in their hand. Towards the end of the party, they will still have the same pint in their hand.  They drink their beers slower than the kid who hates milk, finishes his evening dose of punishment!

Beer Anytime
Beer Anytime
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These kind of people are my favorite! No matter what they’re doing or where they are, if you offer them beer, they will be there! These kind of people are always up for some good beer. They are always up for a beer, regardless of the time!

These are a few typical types of beer drinkers. Do you fall in any of these categories?

 

Romance is oxygen in love relationships. It is a strong adhesive that keeps the couple intact. In fact novelist, Elinor Glyn said that “Romance is the glamor which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze”. Romance is thus a much-needed element in a successful relationship. Whether you are in a live-in relationship or are married for years – romance should be there in your relationship. Without romance, things may fall apart. Actually, when you observe a lack of romance in your cute love story, you don’t feel the strength in your relationship anymore the way you felt when you started. If you see the following symptoms in your relationship, then, darling, those are signs of the dying romance that you once shared with your partner.

Read and analyze your relationship and do something about it now!

  1. He/She Is No More The 1st Person To Share The Big News

There is a place for your best friends in your life. But the reality is when you are in love or in a serious relationship with someone, then, that person quite generally becomes your best friend, companion, and secret-keeper. And that’s quite a common phenomenon across the world. You always feel the urge to share the big news or breaking news like losing a major client, winning a lottery, getting promoted, or getting a free pass to a concert, etc. with your partner. If you observe (both in your & your partner’s case) that all the big news are shared with a best friend, a new friend, or a family member, then, probably there is a lack of romance.

  1. Thinking of A Break-Up Constantly

If nowadays, the thought of a “break up” is constantly buzzing in your head, then it is a serious warning that romance has already died in your bond. Deep down in your mind, you always know the truth but the acceptance of that reality takes a long time to transform. If your gut feeling is saying “break up” quite often, then probably you should now take a step forward.

  1. The Feeling of “Loneliness” In His/Her Presence

Nothing can beat this one truly. There are two types of couples basically. The first kinds are the ones are extremely opposite to each other & have different choices, yet, they share a room/home and feel complete in each other’s presence. They both may be enjoying two different movies or books but there is a comfort in that silence and difference. The other kind of couple is the one who is perhaps watching the TV or the same movie & one is enjoying while the other is not. Or they are eating at the dinner table and one is expecting attention and conversation while the other is totally investing in his/her phone or tablet. If you belong to the second category, then buckle up, please. Always remember that in a romantic relationship, the differences are meant to be respected and not ignored.

  1. Weakness Pushes The Strengths Away

In the initial phases of your romantic union, everything seems good. The differences, behavior, sleeping pattern, the taste of food, or cleanliness – everything seems “cute” and you just “AWWW” those moments. But then of late, if you see these things more than the understanding and the romantic evenings spent together, then, definitely there is a problem.

  1. Avoiding Spending Time With Each Other

For any relationship to prosper, spending time with each other is mandatory. If you or your partner is avoiding or re-scheduling or canceling the promised times to spend together, then, you should worry. Is he/she spending more time on social media than spending time with you? What is there on social media that real people cannot fill? Find that out if he/she has started to talk to random people on facebook or insta. Maybe he/she is bothered with something and feeling afraid or shameful to talk to you which is resulting in this turmoil. If you don’t find suitable answers, then you are smart enough to figure out what to do – isn’t it?

  1. Are Your Conversations Boring?

After a considerable period of time, the conversations between partners turn to these – “have you bought the medicine?” “Didn’t you feed the dog?” “Where are the groceries for the week?”. But that’s ok also like both of you have to run a house. The problem is if you are not talking beyond these things. If there is silence after these question and almost monosyllabic answers, then, definitely you should worry. You must have spent some amazing times together, shared laughter, and made jokes at each other. Start all that again and if you see a reluctance in your partner, then, of course, talk it out so that romance can be back again.

  1. A Significant Change

Yes, it is true that “change is the only thing permanent in this world”. You must not forget that a little of both of you have changed since your relationship started. More than “change” that is called adaptation and adjustment to accommodate love & romance in life. But if you have recently noticed a significant change in your partner, it could mean romance has started to evaporate from your love for sure. You may see your partner change his/her entire wardrobe, visiting family & friends more than before, spending more time in the office, shifting the taste of music & movies, or spending money on very unusual things that are totally opposite to that person’s dictionary. These are symptoms that either he/she wants a new life, found a new love, or simply is done romancing with you!

“One must travel light!” it’s easy said than done. Why not travel with essentials to make it easy than light? Here’s a list of all (Well whatever I could think of is important) important electronics/gadgets that might accompany you to make your traveling easy.

  1. Universal Adapter with different USB Ports
Universal Adapter with different USB Ports
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Whether you’re going for a short trip or a long vacation a universal adapter is a must have in your bag. It has a universal design that allows a multitude of plug options.

  1. Optical Camera lens for smartphones
Optical Camera lens for smartphones
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With an optical camera lens that can be used with smartphones, you need not to carry a heavy DSLR camera. You may want to carry less gear, improve the quality of your photos, or push the limits of your phone.

  1. Extension cords
Extension cords
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A simple extension cord is best to keep in your bag, ready at all times. It’s easy when you have to charge quite a few things all together, an extension cord is all you need.

  1. Extra pair of charger
Extra pair of charger
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It gets difficult when your charger gives up on you right when you need it the most. We’ve all been there. To avoid such situations, carrying an extra pair of chargers saves ourselves the wreck of the Bewafa (betraying) Charger!

  1. Small phone
Small phone
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Smartphones are too many things in one. Old small phones are something that goes a long way when it comes to batteries of the phones. Strongly recommended is keeping your smartphone on airplane mode and using the smaller phone for communication. The phone runs for a longer time, also you can use it when you are traveling to somewhere you might require a local sim.

  1. Spare Batteries
Spare Batteries
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So while you’re traveling you might run short on battery power, rather than finding a way to charge which actually might get difficult. You can use spare batteries provided either they’re new or they’re already charged.

  1. Power banks
Power banks
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With carrying spare batteries point we cannot forget to mention Power banks. A gadget that is a savior (literally!) in modern times.

  1. Pen drives /Storage cards
Pen drives /Storage cards
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While you’re on the go and take loads of pictures & videos. Transfer them to storage cards at the end of the day. This will help you keep your gadget with some free space for your further adventure.

  1. Insulated stainless steel travel utensils
Insulated stainless steel travel utensils
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Traveling with an insulated stainless steel travel utensils it keeps your food (if you’re carrying) heated. It’s a good option when you’re camping or hiking.

  1. Torch
Torch
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Ensuring that your torch including the bulb is reliable should be a key factor in which torch to choose. LED Bulbs, CFL, or incandescent it really depends on your traveling destination or purpose how to use your torch. LED bulbs are the most durable & most preferred.

  1. Wireless & Bluetooth Speaker
Wireless & Bluetooth Speaker
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One thing that goes perfectly with traveling is music. And for having music by our side all the time, it is possible with wireless & Bluetooth speakers.

  1. Extra pair of air pods/earphones
Extra pair of air pods/earphones
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Talking about music and not forgetting the lifesavers, air pods or earphones. While traveling you must have these and having an extra pair comes handy. Why an extra pair? Earphones can call it quits anytime or might just feel like wandering off and never come back (sad when they get lost).

  1. Lightweight tripod
Lightweight tripod
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Now last but might not be the least, lightweight tripods are the newest dependable gadgets. Selfie sticks had their own charm but tripods are stable & easy-to-carry and surprisingly cannot give up on us because of no Bluetooth, battery or charging issue. Now wirelessly take photos & videos!

Share with us with if the above list was any help for your next vacay!

 

Telling everything to our mom, feeling like she can make everything okay by just a hug! Yup, that feeling is amazing, but now that we’ve grown up, we need to stop doing that. Maybe your mom is super cool and lets you do whatever you wish to, you still have to own up for your life and stop telling your mom a few things.

The Fun Things You Did
The Fun Things You Did
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Never tell your mom about the fun things you did while you were in college or school. Your stories might be super funny and adventurous to you, but to your mom, those are dangerous stories. What is funny to you is a cultural shock to her! Trust me, telling your mom about your adventures will turn out to be an hour lecture for you! That is what the generation gap is all about.

Small Tiffs With Your Friends
About Your Experiments
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We have been sharing everything with our parents since our childhood! When it comes to our problems, we end up sharing them with our mother, which is a very good thing. But you don’t have to tell her everything. We all have fights with our friends, and at times these small fights may seem like the end of the world! Knowing that Desi moms can be overprotective about their kids, would start disliking your friend. We may make up with our friend later on, but our mom never will!

About Your First Intimate Experience
About Your First Intimate Experience
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This is a big NO! You may think that you’re a grown-up now and can tell your mom about your school/college boyfriend and your first intimate experience, well just don’t!

To them, you are still a child, do not even think about sharing these details with her. If you do it, you’re inviting drama.

Tough Times At Work
Tough Times At Work
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Okay, I understand that one ought to share their office shenanigans with someone. It makes us feel lighter, we are always looking for advice, and who could be better understand us than our mother?

Well, did you forget that her love for you is going to tell you to quit your job because her child is the best in the world!

Moreover, she is constantly going to worry about you, when you certainly can deal with office-hassle on your own.

Every Guy You Date
Every Guy You Date
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It is always good to keep your parents in the loop when you’re seeing someone. I am pretty sure that your mom loves to know things about your love life and her advice are incredible, yet you should not tell her about every guy you’re seeing. At times, we are just trying to figure out things, or maybe casually dating them. Your mom would not understand. If you tell a desi mom you are seeing someone, their mind wanders to Shaadi instantly! Don’t tell a desi mom about your significant other, unless you are 100% sure about them.

Secrets Your Siblings Told You
Secrets Your Siblings Told You
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It was so much fun blackmailing your siblings. We all have exploited our siblings for money & other benefits by threatening them to reveal their secrets to mom. You don’t have to do that anymore! You got to stay loyal to your siblings. They are your strongest allies. Telling your mom about what your sibling is up to, you’ll hurt your mom and your sibling at the same to time.

Your Financial Stability
Your Financial Stability
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Your mom is always going to look at you as a child. She will always worry about your financial well-being because it is often a part of her modus operandi.

Unless your parents are still paying your bills or supporting you financially in any way, you shouldn’t tell your mom about your financial status. Good or bad, at some point, you have to be responsible for yourself and start making decisions yourself. You might feel like investing in something which is actually good but your parents think is a bad idea. Sure, they know better, but sometimes we got to learn from our mistakes, take risks and explore financial sectors your parents never did.

Every Detail About Your Mental Health
Every Detail About Your Mental Health
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Mental Health is a very delicate topic. Anxiety, Depression & Stressed have crept into our lives slowly, and we don’t know what to do! Well, do share them with your mom because she would understand & support you for sure. But your mom is not a mental health professional, which is why you don’t have to share every detail with her. If you feel like you need help, talk to a professional, not your mom. The only thing that’s going to happen if you share every teeny-tiny detail would be making her anxious!

About Your Experiments
About Your Experiments
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Experimented with your sexual preferences or maybe altering substances? Well, if you just experimented once or maybe twice and found out it is not for you, you should not tell your mom about it. It was just a silly phase which is over, and now there is no point telling your mom. Again, you’ll end up making her anxious!

P.S. If you’re addicted to something, you ought to tell her for the help you need!

We are close to our mothers and often feel the obligation to tell them everything. A mother’s love is unconditional which is why we feel telling her everything will make everything okay. That isn’t true! We being adults, need to keep a few things to ourselves and try to overcome our own obstacles. Unless things get out of hand, we don’t really have to make her worried about things. She has been taking care of us since our childhood, now it’s our turn. She never told us, about the hurdles she faced. Why? She didn’t want us to worry, not it is our turn to protect her.

When you fell in love that may have not been because of any reason but when you end up with them that definitely has some back story. Break Up by actual terminology mean the separation of something into several pieces or sections. After a relationship ends, there are 100s of questions dancing in our head. One very prominent one is “Should we stay friends? Or can we stay friends?” The answer to that question is NO! Why? Well here are 5 reasons why you cannot be friends with your ex!

1.    The heart wants what it “Needs”!
 The heart wants what it “Needs”!
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When you separate from your partner and decide to stay friends, it impacts your healing process. To let go & move on you need to distance yourself from your ex and grieve the breakup. Your heart needs to heal from the separation to have a better next. In order to have a better next, you first need to grieve about the present situation.

2.    Friendship = Friction!
Friendship = Friction!
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To have a better next-relationship afterward you need to cut the ordeal with your ex. Being friends may cause friction in your next. Your new partner might feel slight insecure or threatened with your awkward friendship with your ex. In order to have a healthy relationship, one must cut the ties with their exes.

3.    You’re Inviting More Pain!
You’re Inviting More Pain!
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While being friends with your ex can be casual & cool, it isn’t easy when you cling onto hopes & expectations. You’re simply inviting more pain for yourself. It was difficult in the first place, and then clinging onto hopes of winning them back might get you messed up. It only gets worse after the break up because you’re clearly not over them and they have moved on. Now, what joy it is to see someone you loved one is in love with someone else? Do all your loved-ones around you a favor and please move one. Saying it is easy but is equally difficult. But it isn’t doing any good to you.

4.    Simply NOT “Necessary”!
Simply NOT “Necessary”!
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The world is full of nice people who’re looking for love & friendship. Why do you want to cling onto the past? All that “Let’s be just friends” drama isn’t at all necessary. Be open to opportunities, you never know what or who may surprise you! And if not, life’s all about learning & growing. I’m sure you’ve heard of “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince!” So, get your lazy-sad bum moving and go find some frogs before you find your Prince!

5.    Boy, Bye!
 Boy, Bye!
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This one isn’t exactly a reason to not be friends with your ex but just something that actually makes sense. All these exes teach us lessons or make us realize our flaws (if one wants to accept). When you’ve learned about yourself, you might want to find someone better to match your standard (no offense). With all ‘Knowing self-worth’, you really don’t want to waste your time anymore on the last one, right? So don’t be friends with your ex!“

There you go with reasons to not be friends with your ex. Is there any good reason to stay friends with your ex, kindly share. We’d love to know.

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