When your relationship experiences a stormy phase, who do you turn to?
Do you trust your friends with advice coming from them about your relationship?
The same friends, who haven’t invested in your relationship as much as you have? Or invested in any relationship in general. Do you turn to your “Single Friends” for advice on your relationship? You may want to continue reading further!
We understand why we turn to our friends for everything that stresses us. It’s them we trust the most. And why not? They have been with us through thick & thin. These friends have supported us for everything, they were there when you wanted to woo this partner of yours till today when it’s rocky. But not every time you must go running to them. Friends may be the chosen family but they don’t always need to have an opinion and you don’t have to run to them while your boat’s stuck in sea-storm!
Here are 3 absolutely important reasons why you shouldn’t be taking advice from your Single Friends:
Third Wheeling? Okay! Third Person? No!
Remember when you started this relationship, it was you two. Remember those times when you went on romantic dates, there were only two people in the restaurant. If you recall, those intimate times, it was between you and your partner. Now if you think about all the good times, it has only you two then why to turn to your friends or anyone else for that matter for advice on your relationship. We’re not asking for you to turn against your friends, but asking them for advice is not we would suggest. The relationship you share with your partner includes two people, not your friends. They may speak from experience but no experience equals to what you two have faced in this particular relationship. Nobody else understands your relationship better than you & your partner.
Not All Relationships are the Same
We absolutely get the “experience” part. Your friends might be experienced but it’s you who’s experiencing YOUR relationship. It’s a fact that not all relationships are the same. They haven’t invested in your relationship as much as you have. A relationship is about two people, and it’s only you two who know what goes or what went by. Have the confidence to believe in your gut feelings. Our friends are our definite support system but learn to balance the opinions of other people, be it your friends or family about your relationship with your own.
The Difference Between Need & Want
Sometimes your friends may tell you what you want to hear and not what you need. Our friends don’t want to see us upset, which is why their advice & opinions might be optimistic or rose-tinted. It could be true that whatever they think of your relationship, they might not be able to say it because they don’t want to jeopardize your friendship. It’s you, who needs to understand the difference between what you need to hear and what you want to. Unless you understand this, you wouldn’t be able to work on your relationship the right way.
Here are three main reasons why you should never listen to the “Expert Advice” coming from your single friend. It is your relationship and none of their relationship. Sometimes it’s okay to vent out on friends and get that frustration of your relationship out from your system. It’s true that you must listen to your heart when it comes to your relationship.