Relationships can be broadly categorized into two – one, that is formed right at birth (family and relatives) and two, that we choose ourselves. Relationships bind us with people, make us more responsible, and make us learn about patience, the joy of sacrifice and many such things. But again, some relationships can be toxic or hazardous. Instead of contributing constructively, these relationships destruct people from within. A little bit of hurting or fighting happens in every relationship and people get over them, patch up, forget and forgive each other. But that is not the character of a toxic relationship. There comes a point when “taken for granted” becomes the rule in this relationship and all that this relationship can then ignite are a pain, suffering, sadness, anger, and frustration.
Additionally, there is always an inexplicable kind of tension running in the head when you are in a toxic relationship. One cannot enjoy properly, sleep properly, or work properly, because of the presence of toxicity in life. Coming out of such a relationship seems like the only solution and one must do that. If a relationship feels like a hell hole, then, there is no expectation of beauty there – right? But once you are out of such a relationship, never forget the lessons that you have learned from that.
Here Are The Learnings That You Can Take Away From A Toxic Relationship:
Understanding Self Worth:
The relationship might have been physically or mentally or emotionally jerking which left you with a scar for life. One of the basic characters of every toxic relationship is that you are not aware of your self-worth at all. During your toxic relationship, you were at an all-time low because your partner always made you feel like a dust particle. In fact, during that relationship, you have perhaps never wanted to see things differently or understand your real worth. Now when the relationship in the graveyard, you are a new person altogether who understands the meaning of “self-worth”, “self-confidence”, or “self-esteem”.
Considering Your Happiness First:
Now, when you have started to understand self-worth, you also know that considering self-happiness is the most important goal of life. Pleasing the people around you is also good but there is also an extent to do that. The moment you cross that line – people start to neglect you or take you for granted. Therefore, you now learn to take good care of yourself and keep your happiness in front always.
Understanding the Arrival of Danger:
It’s not like initially, you never understood the arrival of red flag or danger in your relationship. You simply used to ignore them. That’s where things actually faltered – now you know that too well. Be it possessiveness or shouting at public places, or any other signs of toxicity in the mind of your partner – addressing that issue right at the first time is the best solution and no one knows it better than you now. In a certain way, you also become more intuitive in sensing the arrival of danger.
Relying More on Friends & Family:
The group of close friends and family members can always judge who would be a better person for you. Because they know you more than you think you know yourself. Perhaps your friends and family members have disapproved of this person you dated but drunken in new love, you didn’t listen to them at all. And now when you have faced a bad phase in your life for that love- you tend to rely more on the choices of your friends and family members.
You Develop Confidence:
In the case of alarming situations in life, intuitions and instincts play a major role. They tell us what next is waiting for us. After breaking up from your toxic relationship, you now are more confident about your gut feeling. You now seem more confident about every step in your life and you never ever miss the call of your instincts.
You Now Draw Boundaries:
It is very important to have boundaries in a relationship. Initially, you thought that you need to share yourself, your life, your choice, etc. with your partner. But now as that relationship didn’t live well, you now know to set your boundaries. It is not at all ok to overstep those boundaries.
There are people who have never ever stood up for themselves. Are you one of them? Then, obviously, a toxic relationship must have taught you the most important life lesson – right? That is if you don’t take up a stand for yourself – no one else will. To conclude that bad relationship, you had to stand up, push back, and go away. Now, this self-mechanism will always live with you.
These important lessons from noxious relationships will definitely make you a better version of yourself. And now that you know about the outcome of these relationships, you can also share your learnings with those who need help.