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I grew up watching Bollywood movies, which means I had the most dramatic childhood. Waiting for Shah Rukh Khan to appear on the screen and narrate his romantic dialogues. Everything Salman Khan ever said about romance was like a bible, while every romantic song featuring Rishi Kapoor took my breath away.
When Imran Hashmi stopped Sonal Chauhan’s office cab, to propose her despite her refusing him several times, 15 years old me went like “Awwwwww..” (Reference Movie: Jannat)

So, you see where the problem is? Bollywood romance is great on the reel but not in reality. Since I grew up watching them, it totally ruined my idea of romance.

Here is how:

“Taani started to Love Raj after he took off his glasses”– Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi
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It is not happening in real life for sure. Firstly, if someone does not love you, they don’t. You can not pester someone to love you. Secondly, taking off your glasses won’t give you the ability to dance or be unrecognizable to your wife. I legit thought that once my braces are off, it would change my luck in relationships.

“Sanjana persistently pursuing Laxman, and ignoring Percy”– Main Hoon Na
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You got to be kidding me. Bollywood has consistently shown how the college stud, who isn’t really a great guy ends up with the chic. Girl, Percy will not only be rich in the future but will treat you better. To date, I end up friend-zoning every Percy (well, subconsciously).

“Geet trusting Aditya, and then Aditya trusting her in return”– Jab We Met
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As far as I remember, my parents instructed me never to trust anyone while travelling. I am still scared of strangers while travelling alone. How and why? Geet literally asked a stranger to drop her home, spent a night in a hotel with him, and in return, Aditya tells her that he is super-rich. (In the middle of nowhere, where she could have easily killed him for his money). Oh yes, he falls for her, which of course was one-sided.

“Bunny gives up his career just to stay with Naina”- Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani
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While my boyfriend can not give up his sleep, this guy blew his entire dream. I can not give up my space, yet Naina did not do anything when Bunny constantly disrespected her choices. Millennials need to understand “pyar vyar sab dhoka hai padhle beta mauka hai” is true.

“You are supposed to cry on Airports, especially when you are dropping off your better half”– Literally Every Bollywood Movie Ever
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Parting from your partner can be painful. The first time I dropped my long-distance boyfriend at the airport, I couldn’t cry, neither could he. I literally thought there was something wrong with us, but then you know we were supposed to meet next month. It is okay not to cry every time you part from your partner, sometimes mature adults can accept the situation and move on.

“Sameer beating the hell out of numerous people because they teased his girlfriend.”– Mujhse Shaadi Karogi
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I remember when I was walking down the street with my boyfriend, and a group of guys started to stare. When I told him, he switched sides with me and asked me to keep walking. As per Bollywood logic, he should have stopped and beat the hell out of those people. In reality, 8 people were staring at me, it would have been really stupid to fight them. While in reality, fighting 8 people would have been stupid.

“Badrinath stalking Vaidehi, and she eventually falls in love with him”- Badrinath Ki Dulhania
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Firstly, doesn’t he understand the meaning of no? Secondly, where is my pepper spray. Thirdly, no I am not giving up my successful career to get married. Why would anyone?

“Bumping into a stranger, falling in love, then marry someone else, and eventually marry him because your husband died”– Hum Tum
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How many times will Karan and Rhea bump into each other? Fact: An annoying stranger sitting next to you in the flight is not your future husband.

“Rahul loves Aarohi, but he loves Alcohol more, so he ends up killing himself” – Aashiqui 2
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I believe we all know what is wrong with that movie. If you love her, give up the damn alcohol, and if you can’t, break up with her. Why kill yourself? Moreover, have you ever seen an alcoholic make such a big sacrifice for their better half? I am sure 90% of the people would answer with a big NO.

“Dancing in the rain with your beloved is the key to romance”- Every Bollywood Movie Ever
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I tried that once and ended up in bed with 102 fever. And trust me, if you think you would hear music in the background, and it would be a good idea to dance with your better half, it’s not. People around you won’t join you, instead, they would end up passing really mean comments.

So, Bollywood romance is not a real-life romance. In my cases, having similar expectations not only failed but has been a reason for friction in my relationship. But again, I would never stop watching these extremely stupid yet amazingly romantic movies.

“I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.”

-Bill Gates

Being lazy is an art. It takes a lot of effort and strategy to figure out the easiest way of doing something. And lazy people not only make their own lives easy but by sharing their wisdom, they make it easy for other people as well.

Since I am lazy as well, I would like to share my wisdom with my Lazy Bhai Bandus! Here are some products which have made my life easier:

Dry Shampoo
Dry Shampoo
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Getting up early to wash your hair? No thanks, I’ll use dry shampoo. You shouldn’t do it regularly, but it can save you from looking like you woke up late.

Clothes Folder
Clothes Folder
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Sure mom, let me fold the clothes. It literally takes just 4 seconds to fold your clothes with this.

Vegetable Chopper
Vegetable Chopper
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Knives are old school now! You just need to pull the string and your vegetables are chopped.

Self-Stirring Mug
Self-Stirring Mug
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Why strain your arms while mixing sugar into your tea, coffee or lemonade, this mug can do it for you.

Hoodie Pillow
Hoodie Pillow
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If you are lazy, you probably love to sleep. This pillow gives you the privilege if dozing off anywhere you want.

Prism Glasses
Prism Glasses
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Is it one of those days where you don’t feel like getting out of bed and yet you need to be productive? Keep lying down, and you can still read or watch TV.

Hair Root Applicator Bottle
Hair Root Applicator Bottle
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Can’t find someone for chumpy? Well, you do not need anyone if you have a bottle with a comb on top of it. All you got to do is comb your hair while pressing the bottle a little.

Mobile Phone Holder
Mobile Phone Holder
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If you are as lazy as me, you watch Netflix on your phone because it takes a lot of effort to turn on your laptop, and then log in to your account. Why hold your phone when you can just fit it in the holder?

Claw Grabber 
Claw Grabber 
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It is invented for all those lazy people who do not even feel like extending their arms to grab things around them.

Bean Bag
Bean Bag
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That is just a lazy person classic! If you don’t have it, you need to question your laziness.

Travelling is one of the best ways to learn. Every country, every state, & even every city has its own hidden treasures and secrets which can only be discovered by visiting them. On visiting you get to learn about their food, culture, historical events, and the best thing is that you get to learn all this by talking to people & visiting places. Then another advantages of visiting historic places are amazing photographs and making new friends. It is a thrilling experience that helps you learn and grow spiritually.

If you love traveling as much as history, then here are 5 places you must visit:

New Delhi, India
New Delhi, India
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Dil walo ka shehar Dilli!

It is known as the capital of India for a reason. It has seen way too many historical events which were majorly related to political issues. The place has Qutub Minar, India Gate, Red Fort, Jantar Mantar, Humayun’s Tomb and many more places to relish.

Rome, Italy
Rome, Italy
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Known for amazing architecture, Rome is a great place to visit. It is one of the oldest cities in Europe and was the center of the Roman empire. It has Colosseum, Teatro Marcello, Arch of Constantine, and much more amazing architecture to explore.

Cairo, Egypt
Cairo, Egypt
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Set on the Nile River, Cairo is the capital of Egypt. It is filled with ancient remains of ancient Egypt and is known for its own history. It has famous marvels such as the Pyramids of Giza and the Great Sphinx. The city is known as a cultural treasure and a single visit can leave you mesmerized.

Athens, Greece
Athens, Greece
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The largest city in Greece, Athens is classic preservation of Greek Civilization. The Acropolis of Greece is famous and exhibits great architecture. Then it has other historical monuments like Parthenon, Plaka, Temple of Athens and many more beautiful places to explore.

Khajurao, Madhya Pradesh, India
Khajurao, Madhya Pradesh, India
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The famous city of Khajurao is known for its medieval Hindu and Jain temples. There were 85 temples built in the city, and 20 remain still and well preserved. Made in sandstone, they have intricate carvings which are majorly all sensual eulogies to lovemaking.

So all you history lovers, get ready and pack your bags, you have a lot to discover.

Commitment! It usually scares the hell out of all-male species, isn’t it right men? You may love someone deeply and the thought of them being with someone else would scare you. But when the same person talks about their future with you, you’d be scared. You would tell her that you are not sure about settling down and that you are not ready to have that talk.

If you have been dating for a really long time, it’s time to ask yourself if she is the one, the one you want for your entire life and the one you’d love forever.

This is how you know is she is one for you:

You feel comfortable around her
You feel comfortable around her
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You don’t fear to be yourself around her. You can say whatever you wish to, and you don’t fear to be yourself around her. Of course you fight over things, but you know that she would accept all your flaws.

You’d say sorry Just to make her happy
You’d say sorry Just to make her happy
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It does not matter who is right, you’ll say sorry voluntarily. You may argue with her, telling her that she is at fault but then you’ll eventually give in for that one smile. Your heart wants her!

You want her to be there
You want her to be there
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Going out with colleagues, friends, and acquaintances is fun. Even when you’re having the best time of your life, you would want her to be there with you. It’s like you would imagine scenarios of her being next to you.

You want to be a better man for her
You want to be a better man for her
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If she makes you want to be a better person, then she is the reason why your dopamine & oxytocin hormones peek. You want her to have the best and moreover she inspired you to be a better man. That’s right, she’s got your heart racing!

No Awkward Silences
No Awkward Silences
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There are no awkward silences around her. You are even comfortable being silent with her, and it doesn’t matter of it is over the phone, video call or in person. Just the essence of her is comforting enough.

You think about her while taking life decisions
You think about her while taking life decisions
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You might not admit it in front, but if you find yourself thinking about her before taking a life decision, then she is definitely the one. It could about changing your job, buying a house, or maybe just taking a foreign trip. You would find yourself thinking about her.

You want to help her in every way you can
You want to help her in every way you can
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You want to help her at every step of her life, and it is not because she is your girlfriend. If she is stuck somewhere in her career, you’d want to help her. If she is stuck with a family problem, you would want to help her. If she is having health issues, you would find yourself looking for solutions.

She compromises for you & You are willing to do the same for her
She compromises for you & You are willing to do the same for her
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Everyone wants a partner who would is willing to adjust and make things work. If she is the one who makes compromises to make you happy, and you wish to do the same. She is a keeper!

She is your best friend
She is your best friend
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When you had a bad day, she makes you feel comfortable. If you have good news, you wish to tell her right away. And you know, no matter what, she would not judge you. You feel like she is your best friend like you enjoy her company.

You can imagine your future with her
You can imagine your future with her
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While you may not be sure if and when you want to get married, but you can imagine your future with her. The thought of having her as your partner comes easy to you.

You start missing her as soon as she leaves
You start missing her as soon as she leaves
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Looking at her picture, reading her old text messages, and thinking about what she said, all of it makes you smile. You start to miss her, as soon as she leaves, and you often crave her presence.

Falling in love is the most beautiful feeling, and if you have found someone who is worth sticking around, make sure they know it.

Depression is very common mental illness. It is more common than we think. It has a serious effect on how one feels, the way they think and the way they act. There are more than 10 million cases of depression per year, and I am talking only about India.

Someone suffering through depression may feel sad, may feel numb, may lose interest in regular activities which all this can lead to emotional and physical problems. At times someone suffering through depression may seem just fine on the outside, but a storm of emotions is what they feel on the inside. It not only gets tough for the person who is suffering the load but also for the people around them, especially the spouse.

What Does Depression Looks Like?

Depression has many forms, and at times the ones suffering from it are really good at masking it. Some may seem numb, some may seem very happy, and some act aloof. Depression has many faces. But is you know someone, you may notice a change in the behavior:

  • They may feel sad or have depressive moods.
  • They often tend to lose interest in the activities they enjoyed earlier. Sometimes it is as simple as they may not feel like taking a bath, working, or going for a walk.
  • Too much sleep or trouble sleeping,
  • They may experience anxiety, guilt, general discontent, hopelessness, being numb and sadness.
  • Agitation, excessive crying, irritability, & social isolation.
  • Excessive hunger or loss of appetite.
  • Lack of concentration, slowness in activity, or increase in purposeless physical activity.
  • Suicidal Ideations.

Imagine someone going through all of it, and not confiding in anyone. It happens quite often, it may seem like they are a burden on people around them, which is not true but this is just one-way depression messes up with your head.

This behavior definitely affects people around the ones in suffering, and especially one’s partner. If your partner is suffering from depression, you may feel like they have loss interesting in you. They may often snap at you, fight with you for no reason, have sudden mood swings, or portray an image of themselves where they do not need your care. But the truth is they need your care the most, they may not say it out loud feeling like they don’t want to be a burden.

Tips For Dating Someone with Depression
  1. Understand that Depression is Complicated:

Understand that there are many faces of depression. One may have severe mood swings, and may seem aloof. It is not because they think you will not be able to support them, but they don’t feel like indulging in anything. Instead, try to understand the root cause by talking to them. Whether it is chronic depression, if they are going through a stressful period, or had gone through a traumatic experience recently.

  1. Tell Them You are Available to Talk

    People from depression often don’t talk with the fear of being judged or feeling like they are being judged. Make it very clear to your partner that you are available to talk, and will not judge them at all. Let them know that even if you are not available at a particular time in the day, you will reach out to them as soon as you can and that they are not disrupting your life. These things are not implied, especially to someone who is suffering from the demons of their mind.

  2. Arguing With Your Partner

    If your partner is suffering from depression, you may have noticed that they have become more sensitive than before. It is okay to argue, but be careful not to make any sarcastic comments. Even a small fight may seem catastrophic to your partner, so it is best to talk it out patiently with your partner. Ensure that it can be fixed, and you are willing to work on whatever the problem is. If you wish to make them understand their mistake, do it patiently than shouting.

  3. Understand You Are Not A Therapist

    It may be really tough to watch someone you love in pain. You do need to show your support and care, but make sure you do not pressurize them or yourself into situations either of you is not comfortable with. It is not a short term phase, so remember you can not fix them. Instead, you need to show your partner that you accept them just the way they are by just listening.

  4. It Is Not About You

    You need to be very patient and positive. At times your partner may fight with your, snap at you, or act aloof. Understand it is not about you. Focus on the positive things they still do and say. Empathize, communicate and understand it is not about you.

  5. Lookout For Warning Signs

    You may give them their space but understand that it can be deadly. Know when to intervene. If you feel your partner is hurting themselves physically or emotionally, step in and take a stand. If your partner seems hopeless and expresses that other people are better off without them, take the signs seriously. Make sure you talk to them about it, ensure things and reach out for help outside if needed.

  6. Do Not Forget Self Care

    Dealing with someone suffering from depression can be exhausting. Remember you need to talk care of yourself. Take care of your own mental and physical health, as it is a slippery slope. Share your life with them, and give your partner to support you. This will make your partner feel accomplished, & you will feel empowered. Know when to take a step back, and reach out from help needed.

Dealing with someone who is suffering from depression can be very tricky, but at the same time, it is lucky you found them at all.

From Darr to Tamasha, Bollywood has come a long way. I am not saying the movie Darr was bad, it was a classic but our beloved Rahul Mehra was clearly a psychotic obsessive lover who probably had Borderline Personality Disorder and possibly had OCD. He was in no way a charming villain. Maybe the directors and producers meant to shed a light on his mental illness, but they completely missed the point. No one thought that their beloved Rahul Mehra could use a little help from therapy.
Entertainment is fine, but now that a study conducted by National Care Of Medical Health), states that at least 6.5% of the Indian population suffers from some form of the serious mental disorder, and that is just the number which has been reported. The stigma of mental health needs to removed. People need to be motivated to seek help without the fear of judgment. What better way to inspire the Indian population than Bollywood?

Here are 5 Bollywood Movies that shed light on Mental Health:

15 Park Avenue
15 Park Avenue
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Schizophrenic Mitali was unable to draw a line between reality and imagination. She is supported by her family, her ex-lover, and has been shown visiting the psychiatrist often. This movie not only portrays the disease flawlessly but shows how you can support someone suffering without calling them “Yeh to retard h!”

Dear Zindagi
Dear Zindagi
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A movie all millennials must watch! Sometimes we are suffering and we don’t even recognize it. We ignore the little things by terming them as stress, and when we do reach out for help to our loved ones they tell us the same- it’s just stress, you need a vacation. Dear Zindagi normalizes Therapy and that every little problem matters, even breakups.

Taare Zameen Par
Taare Zameen Par
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Indian parents will never agree that their child needs help. They will say he just needs to be a little more disciplined, send him to military school, or a boarding school but will not agree that their kid might be suffering from an unbearable mental pressure. Taare Zameen Par sheds light on this behaviour and how you can deal with it. Ishan had Dyslexia, he was lucky enough to find to come across a teacher who understood.

Tamasha
Tamasha
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The movie is based on the Congruence Theory by Carl Rogers. The theory describes how if actual self and ideal self are in alignment, they experience a state of congruence (harmony). If not, then they experience incongruence. Ved experience a great amount of incongruence. While he was a disciplined corporate employee in real life, his ideal self was someone expressive, fearless and outgoing. I believe this is a very common problem faced by the world today. We wish to normalize the “Be Yourself” slogan, but not for ourselves.

Bhool Bhulaiyaa
Bhool Bhulaiyaa
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Many may have missed a point in this movie. To many, it was a thriller and to others, it was a horror movie. Radha was suffering from Dissociative Identity Disorder, and people in the village believed a ghost existed. What fool would walk up to Radha and tell her that she has a disease, at the same time explain to the villagers that all the ghostly things were done by Radha, not a ghost? Sometimes you need to create a delusion to deal with another.

Getting married is a big deal. You commit to staying with someone for the rest of your life and love him/her, no matter what! You cannot take this decision in haste. But being married is a part of our life and surely does make your life more beautiful. Here are a few reasons to get married:

You Are 25 Now
You Are 25 Now
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Once you are 25, you should start thinking about getting married because it is the right age. If you do not start looking at the age of 25 and wait until 27 or 28, it will be too late. All the good ones are taken by then.

You Have To Get Married Someday
You Have To Get Married Someday
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You have to get married one day or the other, why not now? I mean you can have kids whenever you wish to, you’ll get to spend quality time until then.
“Kyunki Shaadi se pehle toh ghum fir nahi sakte ab!”

Last Wishes
Last Wishes
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So there is this one relative whose last wish is to see us married and maybe play with our babies. It is our responsibility to fulfill their wishes. It really doesn’t matter if we are mature enough to handle the consequences.
“Last wish h, karna padega!”

Because All Your Friends Are Getting Married
Because All Your Friends Are Getting Married
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Since all your friends are getting married, you should get married too! The fact that they feel more settled in life than you do is completely irrelevant for you not getting married. All your friends are getting married, you should get married too.
If you don’t “Akele reh jaoge!”

Biological Clock- Tik Tok!
Biological Clock- Tik Tok!
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If you don’t get married on time, you won’t have kids on time.
Late Shaadi=Late Kids.
This is really going to affect your entire life because “Life ka aim bache paida krna h”

Also, it is completely okay to have a kid even when you are a kid!

Financial Dependability
Financial Dependability
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Getting married means sharing expenses with someone. This way you’ll have a better life financially. After all, it is not like you can take care of yourself.

Acha Rishta Hai
Acha Rishta Hai
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You should get married right away if you get that acha rishta.
“Foreign se padhke aya hai”

“He earns really well!”
You should get married right away, it really doesn’t matter if you are too young or they’re too immature.

You Have A Job? Get Married!
You Have A Job? Get Married!
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Now that you have a job, you need to get married now! I mean you’re done with your studies, you have a job and it’s not like you have anything else in your life. It is not like you want to earn, travel, spend time with yourself or live your dreams.

What About Your Younger Brother/Sister?
What About Your Younger Brother/Sister?
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If you don’t get a chance how will they? I mean your sister is only 13 but if you don’t, how will she?

You’re Bored? Get married!
You’re Bored? Get married!
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If you’re bored, the best thing is to get married. It is not like you can read a book, watch Netflix or start with a hobby.

Bohot Time Se Kisi Shaadi me Nahi Gaye- Tu Hi Karle!
Bohot Time Se Kisi Shaadi me Nahi Gaye- Tu Hi Karle!
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Just because I haven’t been to a marriage in a long time, it is your obligation to get married! Come on get married now!!

Agla Number Tera Hi Toh Hai!
Agla Number Tera Hi Toh Hai!
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Your elder brother/sister just got married?
It’s your turn next!
It’s not like you have your dreams to fulfill or a life to live.

Your Parents Are Getting Retired
Your Parents Are Getting Retired
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Since your parents are getting retired, you need to take the burden off their shoulder. Get married and make their life easier.

Your Mom Needs Help with Household Work
Your Mom Needs Help with Household Work
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Your mom needs help with the household work, it is not like you can hire help. You have to get married!

These are some of the lamest reasons people have given me, asking me to get married. What lame reasons have people given you for getting married? Comment Below!

When everything seems to be turning against you and feels like nothing is going my way, his arms are where I find solace. They are magic, and when he holds me while dancing, it seems like nothing ever went wrong.

Here is a playlist you can listen with Bae, and it has songs for different moods!
  1. Agar Tum Saath Ho- Tamasha

This song is one of my favourites. It can put you into a peaceful mood anytime you listen to! Play this song in the background while having deep conversations with bae. There is something about this song which sets the mood right.

  1. Perfect- Ed Sheeran

Madly in love with her? This is song is just perfect! It is for one of those modes where she is feeling gloomy and you want to let her know how pretty she is. Ed Sheeran has magic in his voice, and it certainly makes the song more beautiful.

  1. Comfortable- Alessia Cara

Past your honeymoon period? It’s time you dedicate your babe this song. This song is all about how you love all parts of them and are comfortable with them.

  1. Hooked On A Feeling- Blue Swede

With the funky beats and happy lyrics, this song is perfect for one of those happy modes. Maybe you are celebrating something, or maybe you are just in a very energetic mood and just wish to dance around with bae. This song is perfect for a new couple.

  1. Far Away- Nickelback

The perfect song for long distance lovers. Meeting after a long time? Play this song and dance in their arms. Warning- You may start to sob while dancing.

  1. Who You Love- John Mayer ft. Katy Perry

Sure about her? It’s time to show bae that you are ready for commitment. This is song is perfect when you’re having a romantic date with bae, let them know you accept every part of them.

  1. Say You Won’t Let Go- James Arthur

Everyone’s love story is like a fairytale and there are absolutely no exceptions. This song talks about how you wish to hold on to them, and never let them go. Play this song at the end of a date and let bae know that you would never want to lose them.

  1. Forever- Beach Boys

Winning hearts of different generations since 1961, Forever is one of the greatest hit by the American rock band Beach Boys. This song not only has beautiful music but beautiful lyrics. Let bae know that no matter what it is, you’ll do it if it makes them happy.

  1. Bubbly- Colbie Caillat

It’s about those comfortable days spent with your bae. Dedicate this song and let them know how bubbly and happy they make you feel.

  1. I’ll Be There For You- The Rembrandts

So, heard of that dialogue by SRK which is- Pyaar Dosti Hai!”
Well, your bae is your friend. Let bae know that no matter what, you’ll be there for them.

Spending romantic time with boo, doing nothing while listening to love songs! This is one of the best feelings in the world. Okay, maybe that something you don’t enjoy, but I sure do and there are way too many hopeless romantics like me.

The world of online shopping is like an escape from reality with vast opportunities. You can explore a variety of options without travelling, and that’s what makes it a dream come true for lazy people. A very small, yet beautiful part of this world is made for stationery addicts which for people like me is paradise. So, it is basically Disneyland for someone lazy and loves stationery.

Little pieces of this Island constitutes of:

The Fairy Dust Studio
The Fairy Dust Studio
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Floral print diaries, beautiful cushion covers, hand-embroidered frames, cute invites, phones cases and so much more. They believe in sprinkling magical fairy dust to all their products which makes them bewitching.

The Souled Store
The Souled Store
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If you’re a stationery addict, you must have heard about them. They have quirky notebooks, amazing mobile covers, badges for your bags, and most of all lit af stickers. The souled store has official merchandise for many famous Cartoons, movies, music artists, sports artists and merchandise for crazy Bollywood enthusiasts.

Fangled
Fangled
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It is the perfect shop for someone who can not hide their love for notebooks. Fangled has a wide range of notebooks for almost all situations, greeting cards, compliments cards, postcards, and a lot more beautiful merchandise. It is not only their products which are creative but when they pack the products in these cute little bags.

Propshop24
Propshop24
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One of my personal favourites, propshop24 has it all. They have quirky notebooks, sweet notebooks, planners for all occasions, greeting cards, and even cute gifting accessories. Propshop even has desk accessories like stationery desk organizer, personalised pens, unique sticky notes, and cute trash cans. And guess what? They even have do it yourself stationery kits. It is an absolute paradise for nerds like me.

Daily Objects
Daily Objects
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Popular for funky office stationery, daily objects never fails to surprise people. From quirky notebooks and element pouches to mousepad and greeting cards, they have it all. They even have some cool mobile accessories, so if you wish to dress your phone with amazing merchandise, they can help you.

Ferns N Petals
Ferns N Petals
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Champions in the game of personalised gifts, they have some really trendy personalised stationery. Personalised notebooks, personalised pens, personalised keychains, personalised desk organizer, personalised lamps and so much more. You name it, and they have it personalised. Yes, even a desk watch! If you like to customize your stationery, they have the perfect store for you.

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All those humorous remarks about my body and people looking at me like my body is not normal, this feeling was overwhelming. My confidence had gone down tremendously and I was like my existence didn’t really matter to anyone. I had gained 25 Kgs, and everyone had started to ask “What have you done to yourself?” “Oh My God! What is wrong with you?” “It is so weird to look at you this way, you were so thin!” and all this was followed by weight loss advice like “You should eat less”, “You should start a diet”, “Why don’t you try gym?”, “Let me share my doctor’s number with you.”
I had started to feel like I had some disease and started to stay inside the house, avoided to meet old friends, or attend any family events. I was afraid of the snarky comments people made and started to feel like I didn’t deserve to go out of the house.

But was it my fault? Not really! I realized when I was 20 Kgs lighter, people teased me for being thin. They called me names like “Tilli”, “Broom Stick”, and told me things “Bahar mat jana, hawa chal rahi h udh jayegi”, “Teri Hadiya chubhti h”, “Tu kuch khaati bhi hai?”
Moreover, people gave me their unasked advice about weight gain.

So did it really matter to people? The problem was not in me, but the problem was “people.” Yet, I was the one to blame and I agree. People around me were stupid enough to pass crappy comments and I was stupid enough to believe them. I learned no matter how I looked, people will always pass comments, and that I could deal with them in a better way.

Ways to Deal with Body Shaming
Some effective ways to deal with stupid and snarky comments about your body are:
  1. Smile & Nod While You are Shooting Them in your Imagination
    Smile & Nod While You are Shooting Them in your Imagination
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    It’s never a crime to kill someone in your imagination. I have learned, no matter what you say but some people just won’t shut up. They may think you’re smiling because you’re enjoying the conversation, but they don’t know you’re happy because in your head you’re about to pull the trigger. Ignorance is bliss, especially when it is about dealing with an imbecile.

  2. Quirky Responses
    Quirky Responses
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    Try this at your own risk! You can’t use this trick on everyone like your relatives, or maybe even more on them. That’s for you to decide.

So let’s say someone says “Hey, you’ve become so fat! Did you eat an elephant?”
You could say-“Yes! I did, yet I am hungry. I could really eat someone dumb like you.” You don’t have to hurt them, but just let them know that their opinion does not matter to you.

Some responses you could use are for fat-shaming:

  • I am just fat, I can lose weight. What about your ugly face? Even Ekta Kapoor’s Plastic Surgeon can’t fix this.
  • Do you think I am fat? Well, at least I am not dumb.
  • I really feel like sitting on you, like really!
  • While gaining weight, I gained I’ve gained a bit of extra brain as well. Maybe you’d want some.
  • Thanks for the concern. Well, I am concerned about your level of dumbness as well. I suggest you educate yourself as soon as possible.
  1. Educate Them
    Educate Them
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    It is okay to educate someone you think will understand. Sometimes people close to us body shame us, and that feels awful. In such situations, it is best to take a stand for yourself and confront them. Let them know how you feel and how do all these comments affect you. Let them know that their remarks affect you mentally, that you feel emotionally weak and helpless. Educate them about body positivity and its effects. The people who love you, care about you might not just understand at once but eventually will. You just have to keep taking a stand for yourself.

I felt it too! I know how it feels to be shamed for something which isn’t your fault. You don’t have to fit into a particular dress to be pretty. And just remember, no matter what body type you have, people will always find some fault in your appearance- maybe it be being thin, fat, tall, short, dark, fair, and even for the type of nose you have. You are pretty, and the world would believe it when you do! So go ahead and take stand for yourself.

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