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Office romance! We all have fallen into the guilty pit at some point in our lives! If not, then we may have thought about what would it be like? Well, those who fell into the pit and now are finally out of know the reason why it is a mineshaft.

Why do we work? To earn & have a career, right? Then why do we find ourselves getting distracted by our attractive co-workers? We spend 8 hours a day in the office which means 40 hours a week, that too from the major portion of our day. We see our colleagues more than we meet our friends. Which is why these faces eventually turn friendly! Since our major portion of our day is spent in the office, it is likely to get charmed by them.

You should avoid falling into the mineshaft for the following reasons:

Office Rumors & Gossips
Office Rumors & Gossips
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You could be a victim of office gossip! If you think you can hide it, you are probably wrong. Someone will find out for sure or doubt, and there starts the gossip. People will constantly judge you & wouldn’t stop talking about you. The scrutiny is hard to escape.

Work Strife & Jealousy With Your Partner
Work Strife & Jealousy With Your Partner
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You may love your partner and respect them a lot. But let’s be honest, everyone is working towards their goals at work. We are always in competition with our co-workers for promotions, appraisals & appreciations. Now imagine competing with your partner for the promotion you’ve been waiting for a really long time! Would you give it up for them? No? Thought so!

Even if you decide to handle it like “May the Best Man Win”, the one who loses will end up feeling envious.

Dating Your Senior? That’s A Sin!
Dating Your Senior? That’s A Sin!
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So if you’re dating your boss, then every time you get appreciated for something, your co-workers are going to be like “It is because she is dating the boss.”

If you get promoted or get an appraisal, you will turn into the office bitch. Your hard work would go neglected.

Dating Your Junior? You’re a fool!
Dating Your Junior? You’re a fool!
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Yep, that is right! People wouldn’t stop judging you, regardless of your gender. If you are dating your junior, then they’d call you a fool!

It Might Affect Your Performance
It Might Affect Your Performance
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When you’re in love, that one person could be on your mind all the time. Imagine having them around. It would be hard to concentrate on anything! You might want to take longer lunch breaks and often may find yourself thinking about your partner.  Again, what about your career goals?

Claustrophobia Much?
Claustrophobia Much?
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If we think about it, it is really romantic to be around someone you love. All the office shenanigans, it can get really stressful. Someone present there to support you constantly can be really great. But after a while, it can get claustrophobic! You may find yourself in a situation where you wouldn’t be able to talk to anyone but your partner. A possessive partner may restrict you talking to other people & take most of your time.

Office Is No More Your Thing!
Office Is No More Your Thing!
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Remember how Rachel told Ross that she likes how he is not a part of her office life. How she feels it is something she owns, something which makes her feel independent, and she liked it. We feel accomplished at our workplace, and those accomplishments are just ours! It is very important for humans to feel this way, it keeps them motivated. Having your partner around could ruin things for you.

No Individuality
No Individuality
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Humans crave for individuality. We all want to have a personality of our own. Who would like to be referred to as “his girlfriend” or “her boyfriend” at their workplace & not by their name?

You will mostly be referred to as a couple!

Co-Workers Treating You Differently
Co-Workers Treating You Differently
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Your co-workers may start treating you differently. They may call you names & may mock you for not spending time with them but only your significant others. They might even stop asking you for hangouts! In all the start looking at you very differently.

Post-Break-Up Shenanigans

Office romance may or may not last. Humans change their mind, get over people & breakups may happen.

Living With Your Ex In The Super Market
Living With Your Ex In The Super Market
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Those of who have seen Friends, know what I’m talking about! Those of you haven’t, remember when you bumped into your ex in the supermarket? It was super awkward! Now imagine living in that supermarket with your ex!

Spilled Secrets
Spilled Secrets
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People do crazy things in love & crazier stuff after breakups! You may trust someone blindly while you are attracted to them and tell them all your life secrets. After break up, your ex might just go around the office telling everyone your business.

You could be the target of office gossip because you broke their heart!

Please Stop The Rumors
Please Stop The Rumors
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Your ex might end up spreading malicious rumors about you around the office. There is no way to stop them. Because people may believe them as they spent a lot of time with you! These rumors may even jeopardize your career.

Moving On Becomes Harder
Moving On Becomes Harder
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It is difficult to get over a break-up! Now, if you see your ex every day it will become 1000 times harder to move on. And if you weren’t the one who broke up, every time you cross paths with your ex, you will end up missing them even more.
In case, if your ex starts seeing someone else in the office, it will become really difficult for you to not feel desolate.

Legal Hustles
Legal Hustles
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In case if one person decides to change their mind but the other one isn’t ready to give up, there are high chances of the HR getting involved in your personal mess. Who needs that kind of drama in their life?

I am not saying that all workplace relationships fail. Some go beyond the hardships and turn into enduring relationships. But most of the times it is tough to sustain them. You need to be very vigilant about who you date, take these risks for someone who is totally worth it.

Who doesn’t love a good Netflix show? One such show is BoJack Horseman! Filled with dark humor, this animated comedy show covers a lot of untouched sensitive issues. It has taught me about life more than school ever did. The anthropomorphic, drunk horse taught me the truths no one ever told me. Everyone is too scared to talk about the sad things in life, well not BoJack!

Here are a few things BoJack has taught me:
PS. Spoilers Ahead!

Living In The Past Wouldn’t Help You
Living In The Past Wouldn’t Help You
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BoJack has wasted so many years of his life! He was once a successful actor, but now instead of getting back to his life, he is still stuck on the phase of that one successful show- Horsin’ Around. Everyone in his life has moved on! Everyone who worked with him on the show, all of his friends and his entire family. He is left miserable, drunk & under the delusion that he is a superstar.

Being Rich Does Not Make You Happy
Being Rich Does Not Make You Happy
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BoJack is rich. He made a lot of money and doesn’t even have to work to live a lavish lifestyle. But is he happy? Most of the times, he is drunk, grumpy & seems depressed. His sober identity is constantly thinking about how empty his life is & how messed up he is!

Things Get Easier Every Day If We Try
Things Get Easier Every Day If We Try
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Remember the random old man from the show who jogs every morning around BoJack’s house. When BoJack attempts to be fit and starts to Jog, he falls down and is about to give up. The wise man comes along, helps him and tells him that “It gets easier every day.” You shouldn’t give up on things just because they seem tough, but keep trying because every day you learn something new which will make it easier.

Stop Taking People For Granted
Stop Taking People For Granted
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We all have people who love us & care about us. And we often start taking them for granted. We think that they’re going to be there for us all the time and often forget to appreciate their efforts. Harsh reality- They Leave!

Todd was BoJack’s friend, cared for him even when BoJack treated him poorly, he stayed and cared for him. He stayed even after he had money, but once he realized that BoJack does not care at all!

Similarly, Princess Caroline left once she realized that BoJack wouldn’t change.

Your Attitude Towards Life Matters A Lot
Your Attitude Towards Life Matters A Lot
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There is BoJack Horseman & then there is Mr. Peanutbutter! BoJack was the star of the show Horsin’ Around and Mr. Peanutbutter started with Mr. Peanutbutter’s House which was clearly a copied from Horsin’ Around. Despite this, everyone loves Mr. Peanutbutter, while BoJack is long forgotten! Why? Mr. Peanutbutter never gives up, he is positive & sees good in all situations. He has a very positive attitude towards life, cheerful & enthusiastic!

No One Is Perfect
No One Is Perfect
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Everyone loves Mr. Peanutbutter. He seems like the perfect man every girl wants! Along with a good heart, he also has a very positive attitude towards life. He seems Perfect but he PURR-FECT!

Mr. Peanutbutter has his own flaws! He can get a little clingy in relationships, is a bit of a narcissist & cannot do many things but wouldn’t admit defeat!

He did not understand that his wives had a career & aspirations, always talked about how great he is & was definitely not a good politician.

Educated The World About Asexuality
Educated The World About Asexuality
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Many of us are aware of asexuality while to others asexuality is all about amoebae reproduction. The show BoJack Horseman not only introduced the concept of asexuality to many but educated us all. It started with what is it, how does it affects the people around & how it is common, but people struggle with their sexuality.

Seeking Closure Will Make You Happy- Elusive & Deceptive Concept
Seeking Closure Will Make You Happy- Elusive & Deceptive Concept
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Since childhood, people have taught us that it is very important to seek closure. It isn’t true! Sometimes it is best to let things be. The closure will not always make you feel better!

When BoJack finds out that his Ex-Best Friend Herb Kazzaz is dying of cancer, he visits him to apologize for betraying him but Herb refuses!  He says he is clearly under no obligation to forgive & wants BoJack to live with the guilt for life. Sometimes it is better to confront the person you are rather than expecting others to forgive us!

Doing Good Will Not Always Make You Feel Good
Doing Good Will Not Always Make You Feel Good
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Diane starts to feel like she needs to do something big for the world and follows the philanthropist Sebastian St. Clair, who is working at a war scene in Cordovia. She realizes that St. Clair is working for them just to get his name highlighted, boost his ego & and for his own gain. After all this, he was still doing a good thing. Diane eventually walked away from then cause and St. Clair because it simply didn’t feel right.

Achieving What You Want Will Not Always Make You Happy
Achieving What You Want Will Not Always Make You Happy
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BoJack always wanted to be the star of The Secretariat’s Autobiography. He has waited for the role of secretariat his entire life as secretariat was his idol! When he did get the role, he learned more about his idol. This only made him feeling emptier than before.

Trying To Achieve Things From Past Can Do A Lot Of Damage
Trying To Achieve Things From Past Can Do A Lot Of Damage
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BoJack has always wondered what it would be like if he left with Charlotte (His Friend & Herb’s Ex-girlfriend) to live in Maine. He always thought that there was a spark between them, but he was too scared to leave. When he decides to visit Charlotte to give it a try, it is too late! She is happily married with 2 kids. He instead wrecks things even more by getting involved with Charlotte’s daughter- Penny who is a teenager!

Families & Relationships Don’t Have To Be Clichéd
Families & Relationships Don’t Have To Be Clichéd
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Diane & Mr. Peanutbutter decide to stay friends after divorce. Princess Carolyn adopts a baby as a single mother. Todd’s ex-girlfriend becomes his best friend. Things don’t have to be the way society wants them to be!

Pain Is An Inevitable Part Of Life
Pain Is An Inevitable Part Of Life
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When BoJack’s Mother died, he felt the pain. He delivered a 20-minute long eulogy where it was clear that BoJack had a very perplexing relationship with his mom. He narrates everything- good & bad about the kind of relationship he shared with his mom only to realize that he does feel bad about her death. And he also realizes that there is never a happy ending or a sad one either. It is always mystifying!

Alcohol & Drug Dependency Lead To The Path Of Self Destruction
Alcohol & Drug Dependency Lead To The Path Of Self Destruction
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The Show BoJack Horseman has covered a very important issue- Alcohol & Drug Abuse! BoJack has been portrayed as an Alcohol Addict and Sarah Lyyn as a Drug Addict.

BoJack Horseman often has blackouts for days! Sarah Lyyn dies because of Drug Overuse. We see BoJack hitting the rock bottom because of Substance Abuse & at the end of season 6, he finally decides to get help.

That Emptiness! 
That Emptiness! 
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Well, that is something not learned from BoJack Horseman! We all can just can relate to BoJack on so many levels. That emptiness he feels, that is so relatable and scary!

It is frightening how a show with anthropomorphic characters teach us so much about life and how relatable it can be! It covers important issues like depression, asexuality, substance abuse, stardom, feminism, & so much more! So, if you haven’t seen the show, I strongly recommend you to.

If you say you do not like beer and still wandering over this blog, you are lying! Everyone loves beer. It is so refreshing and light! In summers, it is my go-to drink. With the godly drink, comes its followers. There are different types of Beer Drinkers and they are very typical:

The Fancy One
The Fancy One
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This person knows all the fancy beer names. When they order a beer, it’s almost like they’re ordering a fancy cocktail with a very complicated name. They are very particular about what beer they’re having and would simply reject the regular brands!

The “Ek Hi Piyunga”
The “Ek Hi Piyunga”
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This one person will always be very reluctant with the idea of having a beer. His only excuse is “Ghar jana h, Smell ayegi!”

He would always stop after 2 pints because he is scared that he would be sloshed and that lovely smell of beer would be all over him!

Drunk After One Beer
Drunk After One Beer
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We all have that one friend who is really enthusiastic about plans. When you name the beer, they get excited and start telling you their stories about how they finished bottles after bottles! They will take your expectations to another level, but when you actually sit down with them, they start tripping after 2 sips. After one bottle, they are barely able to say their own name. These people can not tolerate their beer yet love to boast!

The Brewed Beer Only
The Brewed Beer Only
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Brewed beer is amazing! It definitely is but, you can’t have it all the time. I mean it wouldn’t be available everywhere! This one person would refuse to have anything other than brewed beer. As per them, brewed beer is the real deal!

The One Who Loves Beer Pong
The One Who Loves Beer Pong
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These type of people do not usually drink beer but only when he is playing beer pong! This one person would be ready to play beer pong any time of the day.

The Guru
The Guru
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This one person knows everything about beer. They will tell you the name brand or flavor with just one sip. The guru knows everything about beer like- how is every brand pronounced, which one is strong, which one is light, where can you find the best-brewed beer, where can you find the cheapest beer, etc.

If you wish to try something new, you can trust this person for advice.

The “Beer Is Water” Guy
The “Beer Is Water” Guy
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Beer is water to them! They finish their beer faster than a thirsty guy from the street drinks water. They sneakily finish the entire crate of beer at the party and stand straight! Beer is literally water to them.

 Stuck On One Pint
 Stuck On One Pint
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You will meet this person at the beginning of a party with a pint of beer in their hand. Towards the end of the party, they will still have the same pint in their hand.  They drink their beers slower than the kid who hates milk, finishes his evening dose of punishment!

Beer Anytime
Beer Anytime
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These kind of people are my favorite! No matter what they’re doing or where they are, if you offer them beer, they will be there! These kind of people are always up for some good beer. They are always up for a beer, regardless of the time!

These are a few typical types of beer drinkers. Do you fall in any of these categories?

 

Telling everything to our mom, feeling like she can make everything okay by just a hug! Yup, that feeling is amazing, but now that we’ve grown up, we need to stop doing that. Maybe your mom is super cool and lets you do whatever you wish to, you still have to own up for your life and stop telling your mom a few things.

The Fun Things You Did
The Fun Things You Did
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Never tell your mom about the fun things you did while you were in college or school. Your stories might be super funny and adventurous to you, but to your mom, those are dangerous stories. What is funny to you is a cultural shock to her! Trust me, telling your mom about your adventures will turn out to be an hour lecture for you! That is what the generation gap is all about.

Small Tiffs With Your Friends
About Your Experiments
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We have been sharing everything with our parents since our childhood! When it comes to our problems, we end up sharing them with our mother, which is a very good thing. But you don’t have to tell her everything. We all have fights with our friends, and at times these small fights may seem like the end of the world! Knowing that Desi moms can be overprotective about their kids, would start disliking your friend. We may make up with our friend later on, but our mom never will!

About Your First Intimate Experience
About Your First Intimate Experience
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This is a big NO! You may think that you’re a grown-up now and can tell your mom about your school/college boyfriend and your first intimate experience, well just don’t!

To them, you are still a child, do not even think about sharing these details with her. If you do it, you’re inviting drama.

Tough Times At Work
Tough Times At Work
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Okay, I understand that one ought to share their office shenanigans with someone. It makes us feel lighter, we are always looking for advice, and who could be better understand us than our mother?

Well, did you forget that her love for you is going to tell you to quit your job because her child is the best in the world!

Moreover, she is constantly going to worry about you, when you certainly can deal with office-hassle on your own.

Every Guy You Date
Every Guy You Date
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It is always good to keep your parents in the loop when you’re seeing someone. I am pretty sure that your mom loves to know things about your love life and her advice are incredible, yet you should not tell her about every guy you’re seeing. At times, we are just trying to figure out things, or maybe casually dating them. Your mom would not understand. If you tell a desi mom you are seeing someone, their mind wanders to Shaadi instantly! Don’t tell a desi mom about your significant other, unless you are 100% sure about them.

Secrets Your Siblings Told You
Secrets Your Siblings Told You
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It was so much fun blackmailing your siblings. We all have exploited our siblings for money & other benefits by threatening them to reveal their secrets to mom. You don’t have to do that anymore! You got to stay loyal to your siblings. They are your strongest allies. Telling your mom about what your sibling is up to, you’ll hurt your mom and your sibling at the same to time.

Your Financial Stability
Your Financial Stability
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Your mom is always going to look at you as a child. She will always worry about your financial well-being because it is often a part of her modus operandi.

Unless your parents are still paying your bills or supporting you financially in any way, you shouldn’t tell your mom about your financial status. Good or bad, at some point, you have to be responsible for yourself and start making decisions yourself. You might feel like investing in something which is actually good but your parents think is a bad idea. Sure, they know better, but sometimes we got to learn from our mistakes, take risks and explore financial sectors your parents never did.

Every Detail About Your Mental Health
Every Detail About Your Mental Health
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Mental Health is a very delicate topic. Anxiety, Depression & Stressed have crept into our lives slowly, and we don’t know what to do! Well, do share them with your mom because she would understand & support you for sure. But your mom is not a mental health professional, which is why you don’t have to share every detail with her. If you feel like you need help, talk to a professional, not your mom. The only thing that’s going to happen if you share every teeny-tiny detail would be making her anxious!

About Your Experiments
About Your Experiments
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Experimented with your sexual preferences or maybe altering substances? Well, if you just experimented once or maybe twice and found out it is not for you, you should not tell your mom about it. It was just a silly phase which is over, and now there is no point telling your mom. Again, you’ll end up making her anxious!

P.S. If you’re addicted to something, you ought to tell her for the help you need!

We are close to our mothers and often feel the obligation to tell them everything. A mother’s love is unconditional which is why we feel telling her everything will make everything okay. That isn’t true! We being adults, need to keep a few things to ourselves and try to overcome our own obstacles. Unless things get out of hand, we don’t really have to make her worried about things. She has been taking care of us since our childhood, now it’s our turn. She never told us, about the hurdles she faced. Why? She didn’t want us to worry, not it is our turn to protect her.

Shopping is one of my favorite things to do! For some it may be therapy, for some it is necessity & some people do not like shopping because they are too lazy to shop! I am honestly stuck between the therapy & lazy phase, which is why I prefer shopping off-season.

Why to Shop Off-Season?
Amazing Deals

Well, this is pretty obvious! This is the normal demand, supply & price phenomenon. Demand is directly proportional to the price which means higher the demand, higher the price and lower the demand, lowers the price! This is why things are cheaper off-season. Who would wear a jacket or even buy a jacket in summers? Well, I suggest you do! A jacket which costs Rs.4000/- in winters may cost Rs.2000/- in summers.

Hola! You are ready for winters in advance and that too without wondering if you’ve paid way too much.

Going Out? You Always Have Clothes

We usually try to escape the weather in our city for a while! When it is too hot, we plan a vacation to areas where it is cold and vice versa. If you’re shopping off-season, well you may never be short of clothes. It means you will always have clothes for all the seasons, all year round. You don’t have to worry about wearing the same old jacket for your vacation.

Escape the Latest Fashion Swindle & Save Fortune

Who said only clothes are bought as per season? Did you ever notice that all phones are released in October! Everyone wants to buy them in October, because who doesn’t want the latest phone in the market. There comes in the Demand-Price Phenomenon again. Since everyone is willing to buy the phone, the prices are high. If you wait to buy the same phone for 6 months, you may just get a better deal!

Having the latest technology is pretty cool. Saving money is way cooler than that!

Be the Who Starts the Trends

While everyone is busy following celebrities and their styles, you can be your own trendsetter. When you shop off-season, it gives you more time to explore different styles and pair up. Since you can buy things for cheap and you have more time to explore, you may just come up with a really interesting outfit idea! It gives you time to think about what looks good on you.

These are the few reasons why I love shopping off season! Having the latest fashion maybe cool, but saving money in even cooler.

What to Buy?

There are things which never go out of fashion which are best bought off-season. The list is down below:

Shorts
Shorts
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Shorts will never go out of fashion and, you could buy the shorts cheaper during the winter season!

Boots
Boots
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Boots have been in fashion since the beginning of the time. They are super costly & we always think twice before buying a pair of boots, but have you ever checked the price of the boots you loved at the end of the winter season? Well should and you’ll know what am I talking about!

Cashmere Sweaters
Cashmere Sweaters
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Well, cashmere sweaters are one of the most expensive pieces of clothing. They’re soft like a baby’s skin and even softer when you get it for half the price! How can you get one at half price? End of season sale!

Mobile Phones
Mobile Phones
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Who says shopping is limited to clothes & shoes? Some of us love buying technology and specifically phones! We love changing our phones but do you really think it is worth buying a phone for Rs. 50,000/- when you can buy the same thing for Rs. 40,000/- immediately after the release of the next model which has no significant difference from the model already in the market!

Holiday Cards & Festive Décor
Holiday Cards & Festive Décor
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Many people already do it and we end up calling them cheap! But do we realize that they aren’t cheap but smart! Do you realize that festive décor & cards are exactly the same every year and super expensive during the festival!

Travel Packages
Travel Packages
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The prices for travel packages rise during winter & summer vacations! Why not make your bookings for the season in advance?

So be smart and save money! Off-season shopping can be risky but what’s life without risks?

If you ask 100 people what was their first alcoholic beverage? 90 would answer “BEER”!

Beer is love, Beer is life!

Hot summers, Chilled Beer with drops of condensation. You take a sip, and it slides down your throat giving you a bittersweet taste of freedom and relief! That’s what I imagine when I imagine summers.

If you love beer the way I do then, you must be aware of the line “Tu Beer Hai!”

Since Bangalore is home to micro-breweries, it is a must visit place for beer lovers. If you do, you must check out these amazing places:

Toit Brewpub, Indiranagar
Toit Brewpub
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Most of the offices are nearby Indiranagar & Toit Brewpub is right in the middle of Indiranagar. This means the office going millennials can enjoy a beer every now & then. The place has some really interesting beer flavours from Belgian Riot to Mosambi Wheat! These beers are made from natural ingredients without the use of any artificial flavours or chemicals. Apart from heavenly beers, they have some really delicious food.
Must Try: The Dark Knight Beer & Pepperoni Pizza

Address: 298, 100 Ft Rd, Indira Nagar II Stage, Bengaluru 560038, Karnataka

 The Bier Library, Kormangala
The Bier Library
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The Bier Library is the place for a perfect date! It has indoor & outdoor seating options available. The place has a super chic vibe with a small pond in the outdoor seating area. With Bangalore’s pleasant weather, sitting outside with your special someone or your friends will positively turn out to be a magical experience for you! They have amazing beer options from German Lager to Fruity Aroma Beers which will leave you wanting for more and more. When it comes to food, this place wouldn’t disappoint you.

Must Try: The Further-Lager Beer & Habanero Spiced-Wings

Address: 14, Patel Narayana Reddy Layout, 80 Feet Main Road, Koramangala 6th Block, Bangalore

Byg Brewsky, Sarjapur Road
Byg Brewsky
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Looking for a chill place to hang out with your friends over the weekend? Byg Brewsky is the place for you! The place has reserved & relaxed ambience with indoor and outside sittings available. You can sit back, sip your heavenly beer by the serene pool and de-stress yourself! They have a few options in beer but each one of them is super good. Must Try: Belgian Wit Beer & The Signature Nachos

Address: Sarjapur Road, Behind MK Retail, Before WIPRO Corporate Office, Bangalore.

Murphy’s Brewhouse- The Paul Bangalore, Domlur
Murphy’s Brewhouse
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Murphy’s is known to be the Bangalore’s first Irish Brewhouse with amazing flavours of craft beers. The place has the perfect weekend vibes where you can hang out with your friends and enjoy some transcendent bands! The place has remarkable Irish brews like Paddy’s Poison- English Ale with hints of honey & spices, Holly Sally- Belgian wheat beer blended with orange & coriander and Good Golly- The perfect German Lager!

Must Try: Paddy’s Poison Beer & Mongolian Lamb

Address: The Paul Bangalore, 139/28, Opposite Embassy Golf Links, Off Intermediate Ring Road, Domlur, Bangalore.

 Vapour Pub & Brewery, Indiranagar
 Vapour Pub & Brewery
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Spent way too much this month? You can still enjoy a fresh beer at Vapour! You don’t need any fancy names for real beers. They have Basmati to Wheat brewed beers available and, they are the real deal! The place is known for some hosting some real voguish parties & ladies night. The food is simply lip-smacking in here, so you must visit this place while you’re in Bangalore. Oh, and did I mention they have beer cocktails too?

Must Try: Vapour Basmati Beer &  Mushroom Duplex

Address: 773, HAL 2nd Stage, 100 Feet Road, Indiranagar, Bangalore

Seriously, what are you even waiting for? Weekend? I get it! Go ahead and enjoy a heavenly beer with a breathtakingly beautiful view. These micro-breweries are the reason why deciding weekend plans is not a hustle in Bangalore!

“Me or them?” He asked. Since I already had thought about living without him but without my girlfriends? No! So, I chose my girlfriends without even thinking twice.
The thought of living without them has never crossed my mind. That’s friendship!
People still keep talking about how strong male friendships are, but no one ever talks about female friendships. Surprisingly, Bollywood has made a few attempts to make movies about female friendships. We need to appreciate these movies! Here are a few wonders by Bollywood which proved that female friendships last a lifetime:

Veere Di Wedding- Kalindi, Avni, Sakshi & Meera
Veere Di Wedding
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The movie portrayed female friendships at its best! It illustrated how female friendships function from school to eternity. It shows 4 school friends, who pledge to stand by each other, do so! Despite being busy in their own lives, they make time for each other. Even after years, despite being in different countries, when they reunite for a wedding it’s almost like they have never been separated. They share problems, they hang out and everything we all do with our girl pal group. They help each other overcome things the society did not understand.

Their friendship is not proved at a major event but the consistency they have, that’s what manifests true friendship!

Aisha- Aisha, Shefali & Pinki
Aisha
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We have seen multiple Bollywood movies where the rich girl is mean. Meet Aisha, the rich girl who wants to help everyone she can! This movie truly embraces female friendship and shows us how our girlfriends help us see the truth in every situation. Aisha & Pinki are best friends forever, they welcome Shefali to their little group and make sure she is comfortable. This movie illustrates the ups & downs in a friendship.

We all fight and make-up with our best friend, even after a spiteful fight we go back to them. This is what Aisha is about!

Luv Ka The End- Rhea, Jugs & Sonia
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This one movie denounced the brat rich boy culture & illustrated the power of female friendship at the same time.
Rhea, a straight A student in junior college, dating the hunk of her college-Luv and dreams of marrying the dude. When Rhea finds out that Luv is cheating on her and is just using her to win the billionaire boy club contest, she is heartbroken. When Rhea feels helpless and feels her world has come crashing down, her friends make sure to turn it around for her.
Her friends help her plan revenge against Luv by making him drunk dance in a club, in a girl’s attire and making everyone believe he is a gay, which ruins his image of being the cool guy who is famous amongst girls. And then giving Rhea the courage to teach Luv a lesson!  Such friendships!

Cocktail- Veronica & Meera
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“Pyaar Dosti Hai” is one iconic SRK dialogue. But is it true? Who knows? But, the movie cocktail proved one thing- Friendship conquers all, even love!

When Veronica lets Meera into her life, and into her house, we sensed start to a really pure friendship on screen. That is what happened! Even though Veronica and Meera were poles apart, they found a common ground to stay together. What was it? They just cared about each other. It was all good until Meera falls in love with Veronica’s casual boyfriend Gautam and Vice-Versa.

Guess what does Meera do about it? She leaves town! She gives up the love of her life because it would hurt Veronica.

Guess what Veronica does? After wrestling with her feelings a little, she gives up on her casual boyfriend as well! She packs her bags, finds Meera and tells her how important she is.

Talk about friendship now!

Angry Indian Goddess- Frieda, Nargis, Joanna, Suranjana, Pamela, Madhurita & Lakshmi
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This movie does not have a single male lead. It is one of those movies where you see a particular gender running around in the background for the sake! The movie pictures these ladies getting together for their friend’s marriage. Each one of them is going through some kind of patriarchal oppression or judgment in their personal lives. Some of them are meeting for the first time at Frieda’s wedding, and although all of them come from a really different personal & professional background, they do not judge each other. In fact, they help each other grow as a person, advice each other, become each other’s strength, encourage each other & stand up for each other.

When Joanna is raped and killed by the molesters, these ladies are seen taking a stand for each other and raising a voice against it together. That is friendship!

This is one of those movies which enlighten the world the fact that women are not jealous & in competition but stand by each other. It educates the world about purity in female friendship & strength.

Guess what happened after I chose my girlfriends over the guy? I never saw the guy ever again but my girlfriends? They stayed throughout! I guess that is the beauty of friendship.
I guess it is high time that Bollywood starts blessing us with such delightful female friendship movies because male friendships are overrated!

Life is hard, but with the right person by your side, things seem a little easier. Who is this right person? How and when will you meet him? We all have these questions in our mind. We know a few things for sure:

  1. Right Person is the one we feel comfortable with!
  2. No one person is perfect, we got to make compromises and accept people for their good and bad.
  3. There will be times when you do find the right person, but the timing would suck!

We meet many people before we find the one for us. I am one of those few people who got a chance to explore my choices (Although I strongly feel, I hardly explored). I know what is like to lose love, the little joys of being in a relationship, the fears, the struggles & the excitement. Here is an open letter to every boyfriend:

Dear Boyfriend,

How are you? I know we spoke this morning and last night as well yet I still feel the need to know if you’re okay because I genuinely care about you. Please don’t feel agitated by my constant need to know if you’re feeling okay.

Before I say or express anything, I want you to know that you are a wonderful human being. I have always admired the way you look at the world and things which is why I fell in love with you. Do you remember the first time we started talking? Our first conversation over text messages? We initially started with flirtatious messages, and I almost thought you were like any other boy. We flirted back & forth for a few days. Then came the night when we first talked for the entire night and that’s when I realized that you weren’t like any other guy! You told me about your dreams & hopes, about the time your heart was crushed, you revealed your little fears about life, and how you feel so strongly about football. That very night, I started to like you. As time passed, you put in a lot of efforts into our conversations and that’s what compelled me to agree for our first date. The date I will never forget! You might not remember the details, but I sure do! I remember what you wore, where we went, what we talked about & even what we ate. I was anxious because I wasn’t sure if you’d call me back after the date or simply ghost me but then you texted me and I felt a sudden rush of happiness. I always tell you that I have been sure about us since the beginning, but the truth is I haven’t! I wasn’t sure about you, about us until our first I love you. I am sorry about being so skeptical, but my past experiences have been really unnerving. Well, you certainly did manage to change my mind!
There are things I have been meaning to say, but I always hold myself back because I fear they might hurt you. I fear to lose you over stupid thoughts in my mind. I have expressed these feelings in the past but, ended up getting deserted. I want to take this chance with you!

Annoying Things

I know you want to take things slow, but I look forward to having a future with you. It may or may not happen but, what’s the harm in thinking about it? I hope this doesn’t make you feel claustrophobic.

I do trust you, but I feel insecure a lot! I feel scared when you talk about other girls when you tell me how beautiful & intelligent are. It is almost like maybe I am not enough for you. I may act angry, but I am just terrified. You keep telling me that you aren’t going anywhere, yet the thought petrifies me! I sometimes secretly stalk you over social media which I know isn’t right, but it really helps me calm down. It’s not like I don’t have faith in you, but it just somehow helps to calm down my anxiety.

I sometimes peep into your phone while you’re texting! I know how erroneous that is, but it gives me relief & comfort that I trust the correct person.

There is one thing I’ve been meaning to ask you for a very long time- Why don’t you express yourself often? This one thing is what I definitely do not like about you! How am I supposed to know that you’re jealous of my male friends or that you stressed out about work? You can’t always sleep over things! I need to know every time you’re sad, angry, jealous, happy or excited. I can sense these things, but I still would like to hear them from you. Since you don’t say them, it makes me feel like you don’t care enough or consider me an important part of your life.

Another thing which makes me feel really anxious is why do you feel the need to hide me from your friends? I know it’s irrational and immature to complain about something like this because all your close friends know but, all my friends know about you! Just saying!

There are little things you do which annoy me. When we spend the day together, why do you keep checking the match scores on your phone? I know it’s important, but it’s not like we meet every day. Why is it so easy for you to sleep immediately after we’ve had a fight because I keep thinking about it all night! Since we started dating, you eventually stopped taking efforts. I am not asking for constant validation, but for a little compliment every now & then doesn’t hurt.

And the most important thing- Why don’t you understand that there is a thin line between appreciating someone and flirting with them?  When a guy sends me a text saying I look pretty, it’s flirting! When you text a girl saying that she looks pretty, that is appreciating? What is that about? Also, please do not check out girls while we are together or be smart enough to do it in a way that I don’t notice. I don’t like when you tell me that what I’m thinking or saying makes no sense! Please try to scrutinize things with my perception.

Things I Love

Way too much nagging? Well, there more things I love about you than the number of things which irk me. I love the way you look at me when I crack silly jokes, I love how you get angry when someone says something wrong about me, I love it when you listen to me talk about the futile fights I have with my friends, I love it when you reply to my texts in the middle of the football match, I love it how you give me such good career advice, I love it when you call in the middle of the day & I love it when you tell me honestly about things I’ve been wrong about!

All these things make me fall for you even more with every passing day. No matter how crazy I am, no matter how much I overthink things & no matter how troublesome I am, you love me. It all makes me feel like I have a responsibility towards you, responsibility to make you happy.

You don’t have to be worried about guys being interested in me, I want you! I need to know- Do you feel the same about me? Just need to be assured that you’d hold me the same way in the future and that my little lunatic things wouldn’t drive you away!

I have had a rough past and so have you, but I am still very hopeful that we will last. Do you feel the same? I guess it will always be uncertain, but I’d like to know that there is hope, the same feeling in your heart!

P.S. I Hope None of This Makes You Feel Uncomfortable! Forgive me for being so ambivalent. I can’t be flawless, but I am trying to be the best version of myself for you.

You’re definitely are my MUSE.

Yours Lovingly,

Your Anxious Girlfriend.

Cause baby now we got bad blood!”

-Taylor Swift

We have friends, then there are good friends, best friends, special friends and there are friends who disguise as good ones but in reality, are toxic! One needs to be careful of the latter category. They are toxic and drain the energy out of you. Those friends are the ones Taylor is talking about in Bad Blood!

Who is a Toxic Friend?
Who is a Toxic Friend?
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A toxic friend is anyone who is a hurdle in your personal growth. Whenever they enter the room, they bring negative energy with them. Such friends affect your mental health which is why it is very important to identify such friends and get rid of them! Below are the signs of a toxic friend:

  • They try to control your life: Toxic people love controlling people around them. This makes them feel empowered!
  • Put you down constantly: They are always going to make you feel like you are less than they are. They are always going to make you feel like your dreams and, your perspective do not matter.
  • Isolation: They may try to stop you from making other friends or maybe even control your spending time with other people. They want all your attention!
  • Humiliation: Just to make themselves feel better, they may try to humiliate you in public by making fun of you.
  • Blame Game: They are always the victim! To them, everyone has wronged them in some way or the other. Whenever things go wrong, they will blame everyone around them, but never admit if it’s their mistake!
  • Inconsistent Personality: Everyone has mood swings! But this one friend would change their mood every second. They’ll be happy and after seconds, they’ll be angry. This can stress you out!
  • Pessimistic: They are cynical about everything! Every good thing you tell them, they will find a flaw in it.
  • Inconsiderate: They are inconsiderate towards your feelings. They wouldn’t think about your emotions before they speak!
  • They are Resentful: If they feel you have wronged them, they will feel no shame in taunting you every second.
  • Judgmental: This one trait is the most prominent one. No matter what you tell your toxic friend, they are going to judge you.
  • Bad Listeners: Your toxic friend is always talking about themselves. They would never want to listen!
  • They may Gossip: They are gossipy and may even gossip about you behind your back!
  • Drama: They love drama and will do anything to make things about themselves.
  • Needy & Clingy: Your toxic friend will only come around when they need something. They will depend on you for emotional support to the extent where they’ll drain out your energy!
  • Attention Seekers: They always want to be the one in the spotlight! They may do and say things if they aren’t getting enough attention.
  • Jealousy: Whenever you achieve something, they will be jealous and will try to belittle your achievements.
  • Compare & Compete: Anything you buy or experience, they end up comparing it to what they have! You will always find them competing with you.
  • They always Lie to you: They will never tell you the truth about their dating life, their Friday plans, their problems, or if you ask them for the feedback!
  • Make you feel guilty: If you hang out with your other friends without them, they might make you feel guilty about doing it! It won’t matter even if you asked them to join, if they can’t come, they wouldn’t expect you to go either.
Why to get rid of a Toxic Friend?
Why to get rid of a Toxic Friend?
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As they say, toxic people always pollute everything around them! This exactly what a toxic friend does! They will befoul the vicinity around you and will make you feel like you don’t matter.  If you stay around them, you might start to feel emotionally drained and unhappy. A toxic friend, putting you down constantly will make you question your own self-worth. Their pessimistic energy might make you feel low all the time. Since a toxic friend is always jealous of you, they will always tell you that your dreams are invalid & unrealistic! Who needs that kind of energy in their life?

A toxic friend will restrict you from doing things, and you may feel compelled to listen to them because there is a constant fear of validation from them. They manipulate your decisions, trying to control your life. Moreover, when you achieve something they wouldn’t be really there to celebrate the occasion but draw all attention towards them. With your toxic friend around, you constantly try to make them happy and honestly, nothing works.
Having a toxic friend definitely effects your mental health! Feeling worthless, always in competition, and stressed out might affect all aspects of your life. You might feel tangled up and complicated all the time. And anyone who doesn’t make your life better but worse, you certainly don’t need them! Anyone who does not have good intentions, you don’t need them in your life! You do not owe anything to anyone.

Rather than squandering your time & energy on a toxic friend, take care of yourself! The very reason to lose that friend is: You need to love yourself!

How to Get Rid of the Dementor- Toxic Friend?
How to Get Rid of the Dementor- Toxic Friend?
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You’ll meet new people, and you’re going to lose some! That is what adulting is about. Since you will eventually lose people, why not lose the dementors & parasites? Here are a few ways to get rid of the toxic friends:

  • Set Boundaries- It is said that one can get in your head, only when you let them! You need to start standing up for yourself in front of your friend and let them know that you aren’t comfortable. Since dementors prey on weak, you’d see that your toxic friend will start to disappear because you aren’t giving them the sadistic pleasure of ruling you.
  • Be Truthful- Well, if you have the courage to tell them that you don’t want to be around them anymore, go ahead! Be honest with them and let them know.
  • Put Yourself First- Your obnoxious friend is used to all the attention you give them, once you start putting yourself first, they wouldn’t really want to hang out with you.
  • Make New Friends- When you make new friends, you may spend more time with them. This would make you feel more positive and happy, and there would be no time left for the toxic friend!
  • Use the Fade Away Technique- Stop messaging and calling them. Start telling the dementor that you are busy! Every time they try to make a plan, tell them you’re busy. They might eventually take a hint and back off!’
  • Ghost Them- Not an ideal way but, it definitely works!
  • Start Asking Them for Help- The dementor never likes to help! Every time you ask your friend for help, they will have a reason to back out. When you start asking for help frequently, they will drop you like a bad habit.
  • Contradict & Question them- Toxic people love to be right! It is almost like their drug. If you start questioning them and contradicting them, this will drive them away.
  • The Tit for Tat Technique- Start acting as they do! This will repulse them away.

It is essential for you to lose the dementor in your life, for your own mental health & peace. Remember, a toxic friend can harm you more than an enemy ever can!

90s Nostalgia is one trend we can not get over. Starting from video games, cartoons, street games, movies, dating culture, junk food, fashion & music! Well, those were the day!

Remember the time when walkmans were in trend instead of iPods or your phone’s music player when radio & MTV were the only way to discover new songs and not youtube, and lastly when Justin Bieber was not into the music biz. Best days ever? We feel you!

Let us take you down the road of time by reminding you of the forgotten treasure of 15 songs:

1) Barbie Girl- Aqua

“Hi Barbie
Hi Ken!
Do you want to go for a ride?
Sure Ken
Jump in!”

Did you just get the chills from the past? You sure did! This was the anthem for every little girl. Every girl is reminded by her parents how the little girl jumped around and danced, every time this song started to play.

2) Who Let The Dogs Out?- Baha Men

“Who let the dogs out
Woof, woof, woof, woof, woof
Who let the dogs out
Woof, woof, woof, woof, woof”

You were singing & barking while reading this, weren’t you? This is one party anthem, played at every party!

3) Ketchup Song- Las Ketchup

“Aserejé, ja deje tejebe tude jebere
Sebiunouba majabi an de bugui an de buididipí”

Did you just sing I said a hey ha ney hay lalala buididipi, buidipi? The song came out in 2002 and was considered as the coolest song then! Although, we didn’t understand a single word, yet we sang and danced to this song. Remember copying the cool dance steps?

4) Summer of ’69- Bryan Adams

“I got my first real six-string
Bought it at the five-and-dime
Played it ’til my fingers bled
Was the summer of sixty-nine”

While reading the lyrics, you were fake guitar strumming, right?

Although this song released in 1984, yet it was close to the heart of every 90s kid. I guess it has been the first English song, every 90s kid learnt!

5) Baby One More Time- Britney Spears

“My loneliness is killing me (and I)
I must confess I still believe (still believe)
When I’m not with you I lose my mind
Give me a sign
Hit me, baby, one more time”

We’re talking about the golden age music, we wouldn’t dare to miss Britney Spears! We kept humming this song because Hit me baby one more time!

6) In The End- Linkin Park

“I tried so hard
And got so far
But in the end
It doesn’t even matter”

The Hard Rock song, we all loved to listen! Remember bangin’ your head in the air while playing air guitar, while this song played?

7) London Bridge- Fergie

“How come every time you come around
My London, London Bridge wanna go down, like
London, London, London”

Around the 2000s, Fergie taught us what Hip-Hop & Rap music meant. When the music played, we couldn’t help but move like a hipster, dancing like a pro!

8) You’re Beautiful- James Blunt

“You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful, it’s true”

The only thought which crossed our mind was “Will I ever find someone who’d sing this song for me?”

9) It’s My Life- Bon Jovi

“It’s my life
It’s now or never
I ain’t gonna live forever
I just want to live while I’m alive”

The ultimate metal rock, which made us feel like a rebel! Listening to this song was like a relief like everything we did had a meaning to it. Like everything we are going through, it had a purpose.

10) Complicated- Avril Lavigne

“Why do you have to go and make things so complicated?”

We all had that one friend or boyfriend/girlfriend, we wanted to dedicate this song to! Avril said things with such ease, and her hair colour, sorry Lady Gaga, but Avril did it first.

11) The Real Slim Shady- Eminem

“Will the real Slim Shady please stand up?
I repeat, will the real Slim Shady please stand up?
We’re gonna have a problem here”

Eminem is the god of rap and yes, he introduced the 90s kids to Rap music. Even though we couldn’t sing the song at the same pace, we still tried! And anyone who could do it was the coolest kid.

12) Milkshake- Kelis

“My milk shake brings all the boys to the yard,
And they’re like,
Its better than yours”
 

Even though we didn’t really understand the real meaning of the song then, we seemed to love this song. Now that we know what Kelis exactly meant, we love the song even more! You Go Queen!

13) Everybody- Backstreet Boys

“Everybody
Rock your body
Everybody
Rock your body right
Backstreet’s back alright”

How could we miss them? They were a treat to our ears & eyes! We all have been there, dancing to this song with all the hip-hop steps we knew.

14) Shalala Lala- Vengaboys

“My heart goes shalala lala, shalala in the morning.
Oh oh oh shalala lala, shalala in the sunshine.”

This song won our hearts! Every 90s kids hummed this song day & night, at times without even realizing that we’re singing.

15) Yellow- Coldplay

“I came along
I wrote a song for you
And all the things you do
And it was called Yellow”

This one song won our hearts! Coldplay has been playing with our hearts since forever! Why? Because it was called “Yellow”

16) Smelly Cat- Phoebe Buffay

“Smelly cat, smelly cat what are they feeding you?
Smelly cat, smelly cat it’s not your fault…”

Oh wait, we said 15, didn’t we? But how could we miss out Smelly Cat? We loved this song and we will keep loving it! This song will remain in our hearts & minds forever.

So, all the 90s kids out there, go ahead and add these to your playlist. I wouldn’t blame you if nostalgia comes rolling down your eyes because my eyes are moist too!

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