Office romance! We all have fallen into the guilty pit at some point in our lives! If not, then we may have thought about what would it be like? Well, those who fell into the pit and now are finally out of know the reason why it is a mineshaft.
Why do we work? To earn & have a career, right? Then why do we find ourselves getting distracted by our attractive co-workers? We spend 8 hours a day in the office which means 40 hours a week, that too from the major portion of our day. We see our colleagues more than we meet our friends. Which is why these faces eventually turn friendly! Since our major portion of our day is spent in the office, it is likely to get charmed by them.
You should avoid falling into the mineshaft for the following reasons:
Office Rumors & Gossips
You could be a victim of office gossip! If you think you can hide it, you are probably wrong. Someone will find out for sure or doubt, and there starts the gossip. People will constantly judge you & wouldn’t stop talking about you. The scrutiny is hard to escape.
Work Strife & Jealousy With Your Partner
You may love your partner and respect them a lot. But let’s be honest, everyone is working towards their goals at work. We are always in competition with our co-workers for promotions, appraisals & appreciations. Now imagine competing with your partner for the promotion you’ve been waiting for a really long time! Would you give it up for them? No? Thought so!
Even if you decide to handle it like “May the Best Man Win”, the one who loses will end up feeling envious.
Dating Your Senior? That’s A Sin!
So if you’re dating your boss, then every time you get appreciated for something, your co-workers are going to be like “It is because she is dating the boss.”
If you get promoted or get an appraisal, you will turn into the office bitch. Your hard work would go neglected.
Dating Your Junior? You’re a fool!
Yep, that is right! People wouldn’t stop judging you, regardless of your gender. If you are dating your junior, then they’d call you a fool!
It Might Affect Your Performance
When you’re in love, that one person could be on your mind all the time. Imagine having them around. It would be hard to concentrate on anything! You might want to take longer lunch breaks and often may find yourself thinking about your partner. Again, what about your career goals?
If we think about it, it is really romantic to be around someone you love. All the office shenanigans, it can get really stressful. Someone present there to support you constantly can be really great. But after a while, it can get claustrophobic! You may find yourself in a situation where you wouldn’t be able to talk to anyone but your partner. A possessive partner may restrict you talking to other people & take most of your time.
Office Is No More Your Thing!
Remember how Rachel told Ross that she likes how he is not a part of her office life. How she feels it is something she owns, something which makes her feel independent, and she liked it. We feel accomplished at our workplace, and those accomplishments are just ours! It is very important for humans to feel this way, it keeps them motivated. Having your partner around could ruin things for you.
Humans crave for individuality. We all want to have a personality of our own. Who would like to be referred to as “his girlfriend” or “her boyfriend” at their workplace & not by their name?
You will mostly be referred to as a couple!
Co-Workers Treating You Differently
Your co-workers may start treating you differently. They may call you names & may mock you for not spending time with them but only your significant others. They might even stop asking you for hangouts! In all the start looking at you very differently.
Office romance may or may not last. Humans change their mind, get over people & breakups may happen.
Living With Your Ex In The Super Market
Those of who have seen Friends, know what I’m talking about! Those of you haven’t, remember when you bumped into your ex in the supermarket? It was super awkward! Now imagine living in that supermarket with your ex!
People do crazy things in love & crazier stuff after breakups! You may trust someone blindly while you are attracted to them and tell them all your life secrets. After break up, your ex might just go around the office telling everyone your business.
You could be the target of office gossip because you broke their heart!
Please Stop The Rumors
Your ex might end up spreading malicious rumors about you around the office. There is no way to stop them. Because people may believe them as they spent a lot of time with you! These rumors may even jeopardize your career.
Moving On Becomes Harder
It is difficult to get over a break-up! Now, if you see your ex every day it will become 1000 times harder to move on. And if you weren’t the one who broke up, every time you cross paths with your ex, you will end up missing them even more.
In case, if your ex starts seeing someone else in the office, it will become really difficult for you to not feel desolate.
In case if one person decides to change their mind but the other one isn’t ready to give up, there are high chances of the HR getting involved in your personal mess. Who needs that kind of drama in their life?
I am not saying that all workplace relationships fail. Some go beyond the hardships and turn into enduring relationships. But most of the times it is tough to sustain them. You need to be very vigilant about who you date, take these risks for someone who is totally worth it.