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“I am so sick of that same old love”- Selena Gomez

With time everything has changed! Technology, fashion, lifestyle, and everything else. Everything around is changing, then how do we expect for the dating culture to remain the same. Remember how dating used to be about just hanging out with the opposite? Now it is about hookups! There have been so many changes in the dating culture from the 90s until now. Let us compare how the dating era has changed.

  1. Finding Dates
Finding Dates
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In 90s:

When you liked some you relied on your friends to convey it to their friends. When you wanted to date someone random, your friends set you up with their friends, or their Significant other’s friend or maybe a cousin they have! Finding dates was tough. The toughest part when you liked someone was a confrontation! You had to look for the perfect timing for you to walk up to them and confess that you like them.

In 2018:

If you like someone? Add them on Facebook! Message them on Instagram! If you have common friends, get their number and WhatsApp them! If you just want to date someone randomly, you have apps for it. Tinder is the guru of dating apps. You just need to log in and start swiping left and right. Some other ways to meet someone is at parties, at clubs and apps like Tinder, Truly Madly, OkCupid, Aisle, etc.

What I feel is BETTER?

90s was tough but it was thrilling, but now it is easier and more convenient. Tinder is fun sometimes and at times- ‘Madaaame date pe chalogi?’ sapiosexuals & travellers creep me out! So 90s WIN!

  1. Finding Out About Someone
Finding Out About Someone
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In 90s:

In the 90s the internet wasn’t really popular! The only popular form was email, and there were no social media websites. If you wanted to know about someone, you could ask your friends and hope they have common friends with them or at least some common connections with them. Your pals were GOOGLE to you!

In 2018:

Want to discover someone’s deepest secrets? No problem, Hello Social Media! You could just browse someone’s Instagram profile and tell who they’re dating, browse someone’s Facebook and you’ll get to know where they like to eat or shop, Browse through their Snapchat stories and you’ll know their taste in music, and if you want to know their views over things- Twitter is the place you go to! Finding things about someone is not really difficult in 2018.

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018! It is so much easier and convenient than asking people around.

  1. Approaching Your Crush
Approaching Your Crush
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In 90s:

You had to convey your messages through a friend, send them a love letter and if you’re brave enough, you could simply stand outside their college/office and wait there with flowers. Moreover dropping hints was tough yet sweet. Sharing your handwritten notes with them, taking their side while an argument in the group, & offering help them with little things.

In 2018:

You don’t have to approach them directly! You can drop a message on their social media, or as per Indian rappers, you just declare your love by a huge gesture and no matter what they have to accept your proposal because you are so cool! Dropping hints means you gift things, ask them out to meet you alone, or flirt.

What I feel is BETTER?

The 90s it is! Although making the first move and dropping hints were difficult but, it was sweet and romantic.

  1. What is My Type?
What is My Type?
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In 90s:

Determining your type in the 90s was really simple, you followed the activities they took up in college or the classes they took up. Even simpler- Hey, what is your sun sign? A Scorpio? I am Cancer. Till death do us apart!

In 2018:

Figuring your type has become much more complicated in 2018. You look for the type of Netflix shows they are interested in, whether they eat Vegan or Non-Vegetarian, What are their career aspirations, What is their height, What kind of friends do they have, and the list goes on.

What I feel is BETTER?

I am old school which is why without any doubt, the 90s! It was sweet and less judgmental. It is so complicated and tough now.

  1. Who is going to propose first?
Who is going to propose first?
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In 90s:

It had to be the guy! The guy was expected to approach the girl because the girl was expected to be Sanskaari. Haye Taube for the girls who approached guys!

In 2018:

Gender does not matter! If you like someone, you tell them.

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018!

  1. Exploring Your Sexuality
Exploring Your Sexuality
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In 90s:

Same sex dating has always existed. It was just a little more submissive in 90s. People did explore their sexuality, but again they didn’t come out so soon or expressed themselves in public.

In 2018:

We’re living in the time where Section-377 has been decriminalized! Same sex dating is no more a taboo or well, maybe it is for a few people, but the law approves it so YAY! It is definitely a good thing!

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018!

  1. Staying in Touch
Staying in Touch
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In 90s:

Staying touch meant meeting in college or school, calling on their landline & waiting for them to come online on yahoo messenger. There was an excitement to talk to them because it was tough!

In 2018:
Messaging on Whatsapp, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, & other social media platforms all the time. Along with texting, you talk for hours & hours over the phone because everyone has a mobile phone!

What I feel is BETTER?

This is a bit tricky because while staying in touch is easier in 2018 and was difficult in the 90s but, I would still say 90s was better. Since it is easy to talk to your better half, people have started taking each other for granted. That excitement & passion has faded away!

  1. Deciding a Place for the Date:
Deciding a Place for the Date:
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In 90s:

There were few selected cafes and places where you’d go on a date. If someone is really special, you’d take them to your go-to place.

In 2018:

There are so many places you’d go on a first date. As time passes by, Netflix & Chill are your dates with them.

What I feel is BETTER?

There is no comparison between the two eras. While dating in the 90s was authentic, and how a date should be, in 2018 it has become more comfortable and casual.

  1. Commitment
Commitment
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In 90s:

If you’re going on a second date, you’re officially Girlfriend & Boyfriend!

In 2018:

When you ask your friend about someone they’ve been seeing for a while, they reply “We are keeping it casual. We don’t want any tags.”

What I feel is BETTER?

90s Rule! Good things do take time but why are people so afraid of commitment in 2018?

  1. Post-Break Up:
Post-Break Up:
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In 90s:

After a break-up, the only way you’d know something about them would be by asking your common friends. You’d see them only if you’re invited to a common party!

In 2018:

After the break-up, it is so easy to know what’s going in their life. You have the option of stalking them on social media platforms. Off course, if they don’t block you!

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely the 90s! While it is easy to keep a track of your ex in 2018 but why do you need to? If you aren’t with someone, you don’t have to know what they’re up to. It is only going to be tough on you!

There are many differences between dating then and now. Every era has its own advantages & disadvantages. I would say that I love how people dated in the 90s and respected each other, the admiration for each other, the excitement & commitment for each other. In 2018, it is amazing how dating same sex is not a taboo anymore, how asking out for a date is no more about chivalry or how comfortable it is to decide the date venue.

Dating isn’t about what era we’re living in. Date as per the era you liked more!

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