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“I am so sick of that same old love”- Selena Gomez

With time everything has changed! Technology, fashion, lifestyle, and everything else. Everything around is changing, then how do we expect for the dating culture to remain the same. Remember how dating used to be about just hanging out with the opposite? Now it is about hookups! There have been so many changes in the dating culture from the 90s until now. Let us compare how the dating era has changed.

  1. Finding Dates
Finding Dates
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In 90s:

When you liked some you relied on your friends to convey it to their friends. When you wanted to date someone random, your friends set you up with their friends, or their Significant other’s friend or maybe a cousin they have! Finding dates was tough. The toughest part when you liked someone was a confrontation! You had to look for the perfect timing for you to walk up to them and confess that you like them.

In 2018:

If you like someone? Add them on Facebook! Message them on Instagram! If you have common friends, get their number and WhatsApp them! If you just want to date someone randomly, you have apps for it. Tinder is the guru of dating apps. You just need to log in and start swiping left and right. Some other ways to meet someone is at parties, at clubs and apps like Tinder, Truly Madly, OkCupid, Aisle, etc.

What I feel is BETTER?

90s was tough but it was thrilling, but now it is easier and more convenient. Tinder is fun sometimes and at times- ‘Madaaame date pe chalogi?’ sapiosexuals & travellers creep me out! So 90s WIN!

  1. Finding Out About Someone
Finding Out About Someone
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In 90s:

In the 90s the internet wasn’t really popular! The only popular form was email, and there were no social media websites. If you wanted to know about someone, you could ask your friends and hope they have common friends with them or at least some common connections with them. Your pals were GOOGLE to you!

In 2018:

Want to discover someone’s deepest secrets? No problem, Hello Social Media! You could just browse someone’s Instagram profile and tell who they’re dating, browse someone’s Facebook and you’ll get to know where they like to eat or shop, Browse through their Snapchat stories and you’ll know their taste in music, and if you want to know their views over things- Twitter is the place you go to! Finding things about someone is not really difficult in 2018.

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018! It is so much easier and convenient than asking people around.

  1. Approaching Your Crush
Approaching Your Crush
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In 90s:

You had to convey your messages through a friend, send them a love letter and if you’re brave enough, you could simply stand outside their college/office and wait there with flowers. Moreover dropping hints was tough yet sweet. Sharing your handwritten notes with them, taking their side while an argument in the group, & offering help them with little things.

In 2018:

You don’t have to approach them directly! You can drop a message on their social media, or as per Indian rappers, you just declare your love by a huge gesture and no matter what they have to accept your proposal because you are so cool! Dropping hints means you gift things, ask them out to meet you alone, or flirt.

What I feel is BETTER?

The 90s it is! Although making the first move and dropping hints were difficult but, it was sweet and romantic.

  1. What is My Type?
What is My Type?
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In 90s:

Determining your type in the 90s was really simple, you followed the activities they took up in college or the classes they took up. Even simpler- Hey, what is your sun sign? A Scorpio? I am Cancer. Till death do us apart!

In 2018:

Figuring your type has become much more complicated in 2018. You look for the type of Netflix shows they are interested in, whether they eat Vegan or Non-Vegetarian, What are their career aspirations, What is their height, What kind of friends do they have, and the list goes on.

What I feel is BETTER?

I am old school which is why without any doubt, the 90s! It was sweet and less judgmental. It is so complicated and tough now.

  1. Who is going to propose first?
Who is going to propose first?
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In 90s:

It had to be the guy! The guy was expected to approach the girl because the girl was expected to be Sanskaari. Haye Taube for the girls who approached guys!

In 2018:

Gender does not matter! If you like someone, you tell them.

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018!

  1. Exploring Your Sexuality
Exploring Your Sexuality
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In 90s:

Same sex dating has always existed. It was just a little more submissive in 90s. People did explore their sexuality, but again they didn’t come out so soon or expressed themselves in public.

In 2018:

We’re living in the time where Section-377 has been decriminalized! Same sex dating is no more a taboo or well, maybe it is for a few people, but the law approves it so YAY! It is definitely a good thing!

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely 2018!

  1. Staying in Touch
Staying in Touch
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In 90s:

Staying touch meant meeting in college or school, calling on their landline & waiting for them to come online on yahoo messenger. There was an excitement to talk to them because it was tough!

In 2018:
Messaging on Whatsapp, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, & other social media platforms all the time. Along with texting, you talk for hours & hours over the phone because everyone has a mobile phone!

What I feel is BETTER?

This is a bit tricky because while staying in touch is easier in 2018 and was difficult in the 90s but, I would still say 90s was better. Since it is easy to talk to your better half, people have started taking each other for granted. That excitement & passion has faded away!

  1. Deciding a Place for the Date:
Deciding a Place for the Date:
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In 90s:

There were few selected cafes and places where you’d go on a date. If someone is really special, you’d take them to your go-to place.

In 2018:

There are so many places you’d go on a first date. As time passes by, Netflix & Chill are your dates with them.

What I feel is BETTER?

There is no comparison between the two eras. While dating in the 90s was authentic, and how a date should be, in 2018 it has become more comfortable and casual.

  1. Commitment
Commitment
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In 90s:

If you’re going on a second date, you’re officially Girlfriend & Boyfriend!

In 2018:

When you ask your friend about someone they’ve been seeing for a while, they reply “We are keeping it casual. We don’t want any tags.”

What I feel is BETTER?

90s Rule! Good things do take time but why are people so afraid of commitment in 2018?

  1. Post-Break Up:
Post-Break Up:
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In 90s:

After a break-up, the only way you’d know something about them would be by asking your common friends. You’d see them only if you’re invited to a common party!

In 2018:

After the break-up, it is so easy to know what’s going in their life. You have the option of stalking them on social media platforms. Off course, if they don’t block you!

What I feel is BETTER?

Definitely the 90s! While it is easy to keep a track of your ex in 2018 but why do you need to? If you aren’t with someone, you don’t have to know what they’re up to. It is only going to be tough on you!

There are many differences between dating then and now. Every era has its own advantages & disadvantages. I would say that I love how people dated in the 90s and respected each other, the admiration for each other, the excitement & commitment for each other. In 2018, it is amazing how dating same sex is not a taboo anymore, how asking out for a date is no more about chivalry or how comfortable it is to decide the date venue.

Dating isn’t about what era we’re living in. Date as per the era you liked more!

It’s difficult for someone to deal with anxiety and it gets even more difficult when someone else has to suffer the consequences. Dating someone with anxiety can be awfully horrible. You cannot help to whom you fall for, but you can choose to fight and stick by each other. Anxiety is like the third person that wriggles in between you & your partner making it difficult for the relationship to thrive.  This person constantly sows doubt & confusion. There isn’t anyone out there training you with how to deal with the problems but with understanding anxiety in general can make you connect and love in a new way.

WHAT IS ANXIETY?

Anxiety disorders causes nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. These disorders alter how a person processes emotions and behave, also causing physical symptoms. Mild anxiety might be vague and unsettling, while severe anxiety may seriously affect day-to-day living.

Anxiety is a normal and an unpleasant part of life. One where an individual feels worried about the fears. When it comes to relationships, the anxiety is generally about the other person’s behavior & wellness. Certain questions that an anxious person might over think about are:

  1. What is he doesn’t love me as much as I love him?
  2. What if he’s lying to me? What if he’s lying to me?
  3. What if he’s hiding something from me? What if he’s hiding something from me?
  4. What if he’s cheating on me?
  5. What if he likes someone else better? What if he likes someone else better?
  6. What if my anxiety ruins our relationship? (Anxiety about Anxiety)
  7. What if we break up?
  8. What if he doesn’t text me back?
  9. What if I’m always the first one to reach out?
  10. What if he leaves me?

A lot of you wouldn’t agree because these seems like normal questions that one might think. But trust me when we say its anxiety, this gets pretty deep and intense with each thought. Few of the individuals show extreme caring nature which to an extent is their concern but after that it’s their fear taking over.

If you’re dating someone with anxiety, these are the thoughts that runs through your partner’s brain. And they most likely spend time worrying and ruminating about anything and everything that can possibly go wrong with the relationship.

ANIXETY & IT’S CONSEQUENCES

ANIXETY & IT’S CONSEQUENCES
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You might get stressed & agitated with the constant nagging, doubts and confusion but it’s much more than that for that one person. Anxiety is real mental health issue and nothing made up. It is normal, everyone has it but it’s an issue when it’s severe. One cannot imagine about how anxiety can be debilitating illness for one to function a normal life. Situations can make them experience fight or flight reactions and stress about their partner cheating and leaving. An individual suffering with anxiety disorder can over think about the pettiest of things and consequences that can be life threatening. Anxiety doesn’t have a fix cure to it. One’s who have it wish they didn’t have it. They oftentimes feel like a burden on people that they are connected with. There are anxiety-motivated behavior that people experience:

  1. Anger and irritability
  2. Being Controlling
  3. No focus and being distracted
  4. Avoidant or passive aggressive behavior
  5. Perfectionism

5 Tips That Can Help You Deal with Your Partner’s Anxiety

  1. Trying Couple Therapy with Your Partner
Trying Couple Therapy with Your Partner
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When you truly care for someone and you want to encourage them to battle with their stress, trying couples therapy can be a huge help. You can gently guide your partner to see a therapist for it doesn’t harm anyone. The therapist can work on their anxiety as there might be reasons from the relationship as well. Therapy not necessarily has to be for your partner. Couples therapy offers you tasks and issues that you both work on together, making you understand the condition with your partner and for them it makes them stress a little less.

  1. Creating a balance
Creating a balance
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We often go back and forth assessing over what needs our attention the most; our partner’s attention, ourselves, or the need of the relationship. It’s fulfilling when we fill these needs respectively and accordingly. But when our partner is suffering from something that isn’t going away, we don’t have to ignore our own needs because then with time it gets greater. Balancing the needs accordingly is what is required. You need to work on your own needs that require immediate attention and then your partners. It’s rightly said, set your priorities right! (Not in a negative way)

  1. Be supportive
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With that constant fear of losing you, comes the immense need of affirmation that you’ll be there or you’re there. Showing that you care and supporting your partner with the suffering can not only make a difference to them but on the relationship. All they need is for you to be around them. With today’s technology, you can still be around even when you’re not.

  1. Stay Positive!
Stay Positive!
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Focusing on the positive parts of the relationship can be the biggest attributes of the relationship. Doesn’t matter how your partner is feeling, you don’t have to focus solely on the suffering. That is the time when you need to remind yourself the many reasons why you care for them in the first place.

  1. TALK!
TALK
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There’s nothing that a conversation cannot resolve. Talking to them about their fears can make them feel that they’re heard. There’s someone to listen, there’s someone to hold on to. Talking is the first and the foremost way of taking the fears out the mind. And in fact it might make it easy for you to understand what you’re partner’s going through. There are chances that the conversation may not go well but that is when you need to focus on the words and not the gestures & actions. Communication is the key to any relationship. For you, you might be busy but for them, they feel disconnected!

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Anxiety doesn’t have to put your relationship in jeopardy. By using the right coping strategies, you can have a healthy relationship and stop anxiety from causing too much stress.

If you look for the meaning of the word ‘travel’ in the dictionary, it clearly says- to move or go from one place or point to another. But in actual, travel is not just limited to movement from one geographical location to another. It is a journey that brings you face to face with several challenges and gives you opportunities to discover who you are. Traveling let you explore new places, meet new people, and experience new traditions and cultures. It develops skills in you that you didn’t know you had, takes you on an unexplored adventure, and helps you develop a perspective of your own.

Imagine how wonderful life would be with a partner for whom traveling is a priority. You will get a companion who is always up for trying crazy things and of course, encourage you to save for your next possible trip. So if you are single and looking for your one true love, then date a girl who travels. She will always keep you on your toes and show the world you always imagined to witness in real life.

Here are a few convincing reasons to read and know why to date a girl who travels.

She Always Has New Stories to Tell

A girl who travels often always have a plethora of interesting and adventurous stories to share. Be it her backpacking trip from last summer or skydiving experience, there will be a number of fascinating accounts that she will keep recounting. There will never be a dull moment with her as she’s always planning her next trip or trying to get you to go on another trip.

She Is Not Materialistic

A girl who travels believes in exploring and creating unforgettable memories rather than collecting things. She knows that it is the precious moments that make life worthwhile and not the few silver coins that you are left with at the end. You don’t need to worry about buying her a fancy present or taking her to candlelight dinners at expensive restaurants. Traveling and spending quality time with you is something that she will always cherish with all her heart.

She Is Strong and Independent

A girl who has traveled around the world and explored new places by herself is capable of handling challenging situations in life on her own. She is confident, headstrong and knows that independence is the only way of being herself. A girl who travels often won’t be clingy or dependent on you for her happiness because she knows what she wants from life and how to achieve it.

She Loves Trying New and Exciting Things

A girl who travels is quite spontaneous and fun-loving. She is always up for a blast, be it going to someplace new or trying something for the first time that sounds fun and exciting. Will always nod yes for that last minute trip or river rafting with a group of friends that will double up the fun of whatever you are doing.

She Is Highly Adaptive

Travelling comes with its own perks and challenges. Like, you may end up taking the wrong path to your destination, miss flights, and have to use unhygienic restrooms or eat not-so-tasty food. You may feel discomfort at the moment, but it only helps you become more adaptable to the unexpected situations. So no matter how hard life gets for a girl who travels, she always handles it with a grin on her face.

She Knows Herself Well

Traveling helps you discover yourself. You may end up in situations that you have never experienced earlier, the way you react to such circumstances not only prepare you for the future but also gives a deep understanding of yourself. A girl who travels a lot is sure of herself and knows what she wants from life more than anybody else.

She Is Hard-Working, Problem Solver & Good at Managing Finances

A girl who travels takes up a couple of jobs to fund her trips. Being on the road for most of the time she runs into several problems which help her develop the abilities to find the perfect solutions for all of them. And speaking of financial management, not only she spends her money wisely but also keeps thinking of innovative ways to generate more funds for her future trips.

After reading all these reasons you would totally agree that dating a girl who travels is worth it. She will have a positive impact on your life and fill it with optimism and adventure!

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