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“Me or them?” He asked. Since I already had thought about living without him but without my girlfriends? No! So, I chose my girlfriends without even thinking twice.
The thought of living without them has never crossed my mind. That’s friendship!
People still keep talking about how strong male friendships are, but no one ever talks about female friendships. Surprisingly, Bollywood has made a few attempts to make movies about female friendships. We need to appreciate these movies! Here are a few wonders by Bollywood which proved that female friendships last a lifetime:

Veere Di Wedding- Kalindi, Avni, Sakshi & Meera
Veere Di Wedding
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The movie portrayed female friendships at its best! It illustrated how female friendships function from school to eternity. It shows 4 school friends, who pledge to stand by each other, do so! Despite being busy in their own lives, they make time for each other. Even after years, despite being in different countries, when they reunite for a wedding it’s almost like they have never been separated. They share problems, they hang out and everything we all do with our girl pal group. They help each other overcome things the society did not understand.

Their friendship is not proved at a major event but the consistency they have, that’s what manifests true friendship!

Aisha- Aisha, Shefali & Pinki
Aisha
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We have seen multiple Bollywood movies where the rich girl is mean. Meet Aisha, the rich girl who wants to help everyone she can! This movie truly embraces female friendship and shows us how our girlfriends help us see the truth in every situation. Aisha & Pinki are best friends forever, they welcome Shefali to their little group and make sure she is comfortable. This movie illustrates the ups & downs in a friendship.

We all fight and make-up with our best friend, even after a spiteful fight we go back to them. This is what Aisha is about!

Luv Ka The End- Rhea, Jugs & Sonia
Luv Ka The End
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This one movie denounced the brat rich boy culture & illustrated the power of female friendship at the same time.
Rhea, a straight A student in junior college, dating the hunk of her college-Luv and dreams of marrying the dude. When Rhea finds out that Luv is cheating on her and is just using her to win the billionaire boy club contest, she is heartbroken. When Rhea feels helpless and feels her world has come crashing down, her friends make sure to turn it around for her.
Her friends help her plan revenge against Luv by making him drunk dance in a club, in a girl’s attire and making everyone believe he is a gay, which ruins his image of being the cool guy who is famous amongst girls. And then giving Rhea the courage to teach Luv a lesson!  Such friendships!

Cocktail- Veronica & Meera
Cocktail
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“Pyaar Dosti Hai” is one iconic SRK dialogue. But is it true? Who knows? But, the movie cocktail proved one thing- Friendship conquers all, even love!

When Veronica lets Meera into her life, and into her house, we sensed start to a really pure friendship on screen. That is what happened! Even though Veronica and Meera were poles apart, they found a common ground to stay together. What was it? They just cared about each other. It was all good until Meera falls in love with Veronica’s casual boyfriend Gautam and Vice-Versa.

Guess what does Meera do about it? She leaves town! She gives up the love of her life because it would hurt Veronica.

Guess what Veronica does? After wrestling with her feelings a little, she gives up on her casual boyfriend as well! She packs her bags, finds Meera and tells her how important she is.

Talk about friendship now!

Angry Indian Goddess- Frieda, Nargis, Joanna, Suranjana, Pamela, Madhurita & Lakshmi
Angry Indian Goddess
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This movie does not have a single male lead. It is one of those movies where you see a particular gender running around in the background for the sake! The movie pictures these ladies getting together for their friend’s marriage. Each one of them is going through some kind of patriarchal oppression or judgment in their personal lives. Some of them are meeting for the first time at Frieda’s wedding, and although all of them come from a really different personal & professional background, they do not judge each other. In fact, they help each other grow as a person, advice each other, become each other’s strength, encourage each other & stand up for each other.

When Joanna is raped and killed by the molesters, these ladies are seen taking a stand for each other and raising a voice against it together. That is friendship!

This is one of those movies which enlighten the world the fact that women are not jealous & in competition but stand by each other. It educates the world about purity in female friendship & strength.

Guess what happened after I chose my girlfriends over the guy? I never saw the guy ever again but my girlfriends? They stayed throughout! I guess that is the beauty of friendship.
I guess it is high time that Bollywood starts blessing us with such delightful female friendship movies because male friendships are overrated!

Cause baby now we got bad blood!”

-Taylor Swift

We have friends, then there are good friends, best friends, special friends and there are friends who disguise as good ones but in reality, are toxic! One needs to be careful of the latter category. They are toxic and drain the energy out of you. Those friends are the ones Taylor is talking about in Bad Blood!

Who is a Toxic Friend?
Who is a Toxic Friend?
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A toxic friend is anyone who is a hurdle in your personal growth. Whenever they enter the room, they bring negative energy with them. Such friends affect your mental health which is why it is very important to identify such friends and get rid of them! Below are the signs of a toxic friend:

  • They try to control your life: Toxic people love controlling people around them. This makes them feel empowered!
  • Put you down constantly: They are always going to make you feel like you are less than they are. They are always going to make you feel like your dreams and, your perspective do not matter.
  • Isolation: They may try to stop you from making other friends or maybe even control your spending time with other people. They want all your attention!
  • Humiliation: Just to make themselves feel better, they may try to humiliate you in public by making fun of you.
  • Blame Game: They are always the victim! To them, everyone has wronged them in some way or the other. Whenever things go wrong, they will blame everyone around them, but never admit if it’s their mistake!
  • Inconsistent Personality: Everyone has mood swings! But this one friend would change their mood every second. They’ll be happy and after seconds, they’ll be angry. This can stress you out!
  • Pessimistic: They are cynical about everything! Every good thing you tell them, they will find a flaw in it.
  • Inconsiderate: They are inconsiderate towards your feelings. They wouldn’t think about your emotions before they speak!
  • They are Resentful: If they feel you have wronged them, they will feel no shame in taunting you every second.
  • Judgmental: This one trait is the most prominent one. No matter what you tell your toxic friend, they are going to judge you.
  • Bad Listeners: Your toxic friend is always talking about themselves. They would never want to listen!
  • They may Gossip: They are gossipy and may even gossip about you behind your back!
  • Drama: They love drama and will do anything to make things about themselves.
  • Needy & Clingy: Your toxic friend will only come around when they need something. They will depend on you for emotional support to the extent where they’ll drain out your energy!
  • Attention Seekers: They always want to be the one in the spotlight! They may do and say things if they aren’t getting enough attention.
  • Jealousy: Whenever you achieve something, they will be jealous and will try to belittle your achievements.
  • Compare & Compete: Anything you buy or experience, they end up comparing it to what they have! You will always find them competing with you.
  • They always Lie to you: They will never tell you the truth about their dating life, their Friday plans, their problems, or if you ask them for the feedback!
  • Make you feel guilty: If you hang out with your other friends without them, they might make you feel guilty about doing it! It won’t matter even if you asked them to join, if they can’t come, they wouldn’t expect you to go either.
Why to get rid of a Toxic Friend?
Why to get rid of a Toxic Friend?
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As they say, toxic people always pollute everything around them! This exactly what a toxic friend does! They will befoul the vicinity around you and will make you feel like you don’t matter.  If you stay around them, you might start to feel emotionally drained and unhappy. A toxic friend, putting you down constantly will make you question your own self-worth. Their pessimistic energy might make you feel low all the time. Since a toxic friend is always jealous of you, they will always tell you that your dreams are invalid & unrealistic! Who needs that kind of energy in their life?

A toxic friend will restrict you from doing things, and you may feel compelled to listen to them because there is a constant fear of validation from them. They manipulate your decisions, trying to control your life. Moreover, when you achieve something they wouldn’t be really there to celebrate the occasion but draw all attention towards them. With your toxic friend around, you constantly try to make them happy and honestly, nothing works.
Having a toxic friend definitely effects your mental health! Feeling worthless, always in competition, and stressed out might affect all aspects of your life. You might feel tangled up and complicated all the time. And anyone who doesn’t make your life better but worse, you certainly don’t need them! Anyone who does not have good intentions, you don’t need them in your life! You do not owe anything to anyone.

Rather than squandering your time & energy on a toxic friend, take care of yourself! The very reason to lose that friend is: You need to love yourself!

How to Get Rid of the Dementor- Toxic Friend?
How to Get Rid of the Dementor- Toxic Friend?
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You’ll meet new people, and you’re going to lose some! That is what adulting is about. Since you will eventually lose people, why not lose the dementors & parasites? Here are a few ways to get rid of the toxic friends:

  • Set Boundaries- It is said that one can get in your head, only when you let them! You need to start standing up for yourself in front of your friend and let them know that you aren’t comfortable. Since dementors prey on weak, you’d see that your toxic friend will start to disappear because you aren’t giving them the sadistic pleasure of ruling you.
  • Be Truthful- Well, if you have the courage to tell them that you don’t want to be around them anymore, go ahead! Be honest with them and let them know.
  • Put Yourself First- Your obnoxious friend is used to all the attention you give them, once you start putting yourself first, they wouldn’t really want to hang out with you.
  • Make New Friends- When you make new friends, you may spend more time with them. This would make you feel more positive and happy, and there would be no time left for the toxic friend!
  • Use the Fade Away Technique- Stop messaging and calling them. Start telling the dementor that you are busy! Every time they try to make a plan, tell them you’re busy. They might eventually take a hint and back off!’
  • Ghost Them- Not an ideal way but, it definitely works!
  • Start Asking Them for Help- The dementor never likes to help! Every time you ask your friend for help, they will have a reason to back out. When you start asking for help frequently, they will drop you like a bad habit.
  • Contradict & Question them- Toxic people love to be right! It is almost like their drug. If you start questioning them and contradicting them, this will drive them away.
  • The Tit for Tat Technique- Start acting as they do! This will repulse them away.

It is essential for you to lose the dementor in your life, for your own mental health & peace. Remember, a toxic friend can harm you more than an enemy ever can!

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