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Who doesn’t want to fall in love? Every face that you see in a crowded metro or busy street – from the shy ones to the ones shouting over the phone – need love at the end of the day. Some get lucky while some don’t. Some perhaps attract love, enjoy love, but cannot keep it. And then there are some who not only attract, enjoy, and keep love but also radiate love. Feng Shui or the Chinese geomancy – the pseudoscience originating in China has the resolution for almost any problem in your life. It is all about channelizing the positive energy in the proper direction and reap good results out of it. So, if you follow some interesting Feng Shui Tips, you may attract more love and romance in your life.

Know the Feng Shui Love & Romance Special Tips for a Happy Life Ahead
Crucial Southwest Direction of Your Home
Crucial Southwest Direction of Your Home
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Southwest is the direction that is related to love and romance and thus you must take special care of this area. Southwest direction resonates with the Earth element and earthly colors should populate this area of your home as they will promote tenderness. You may also keep objects related to Earth or Fire element to activate the Earth element in this area. Soft yellow or soft brown color or natural crystal stones in Southwest direction would enhance more love and romance in your life for sure.

Cozy Seats
Cozy Seats
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You should not keep one chair at your place. If you are in love or in a relationship, then, clearly, there should be two chairs and a cozy and comfortable one. If not, then, it will signal that you are not prioritizing the presence of the other person in your relationship.

Pictures Say A Lot
Pictures Say A Lot
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Remove all those pictures, sculptures, or paintings, or photographs that are gloomy, show loneliness, speak of a long wait, or depicts sadness. These are the things that will block the positive energies traveling your way towards achieving a successful love life. See the trick is when you want someone special in your life, the things at your place be it a painting or sculpture should radiate that “desire”. Keep a happy couple painting in your home and see the results.

No TV or Mirror In Bedroom
No TV or Mirror In Bedroom
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There should not be any TV in your bedroom. When you have TV, both of you may tend to watch a match, series, or movies and that will eat away the time you should spend with your partner. Plus, when you put the TV off, the reflection of you or your bed would fall on the TV screen and that is a taboo in Feng Shui. Similarly, the mirror should also be avoided. But you can also keep the mirror in such a position so that the reflection of your bed doesn’t fall on it. They invite infidelity in love relationship and that’s why they must be avoided.

The Choice of Bed Sheets
The Choice of Bed Sheets
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Regular washing of your bed sheets, quilt covers, pillow covers, or cushion covers is an essential part of your routine. And these things affect love life a lot. The smell of fresh or new bed sheets always relaxes the mind and invites more love and romance. Choose the soft shades of pink or red like coral, rose, salmon, etc. colors and decorate your bedroom. You will notice the changes soon!

Keep The Bed Away From The Wall
Keep The Bed Away From The Wall
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If you keep your bed against the wall, then, there is hardly any chance for love to expand in your life. The wall acts literally here and doesn’t allow your love to grow leaps and bounds. So, arrange your bed in such a way that there is space on all sides to walk.

Flowers for Singles
Flowers for Singles
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Those who are single and want to be in a relationship should start keeping a vase of peonies in the living room. In case, you don’t find peonies, then at least keep a photograph or painting of vase filled with peonies in your living room. But don’t keep them in the bedroom. And remember that this tip is only for the singles, and not for the engaged or “in a relationship” or married people – they may attract someone else in their relationships then!

Positive Energy in Bedroom
Positive Energy in Bedroom
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Stress is the prime factor in the decrease of love, romance, sweet-talks in your relationship. So, you have to populate your bedroom only with those things that alleviate stress and any kind of negative thoughts. Bring in fragrant candles in yellow or multicolor shades, dim lights, and soft music and enjoy a quiet, soothing, and romantic time with your partner. These things help couples to connect to each other rapidly.

When in love, actions definitely speak louder than words. The phrase ‘I love you’, over the years has lost its charm. But what works like magic are a few gestures that are not only romantic but can convey your love swiftly. These are the signs that you know someone’s head-over-heels in love with you. And if your partner does nothing like these, we’re pretty sure they love you but maybe in a different way!

Now if you want to express your love through your actions, these are the things that you need to follow. Or if you want to know if he/she feels anything for you, you can tick them off from this list!

1. Love Letters

Love Letters
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Now, these old school love expressions have faded away over the generations. Nevertheless, they are actually pretty adorable. Pouring your heart out on a piece of paper is the easiest way of letting your feelings out of your system. Make your partner read them and let them know how much they mean to you. Love letters are precious and can be treasured for life!

2. Making a Playlist

Making a Playlist
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Sharing the same love for a particular music genre is a steal! If you and your partner can listen to the same playlist and enjoy, then go ahead and make one with all the songs that express your heart’s sayings divinely. You can combine the lyrics of their favorite love songs into one song!

3. Three Taps

Three Taps
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Whenever you are out in public, hold their hand and tap thrice. They’ll know, they adore you at the moment and want to say ‘I love you’ but cannot! Isn’t that adorable?

4. Ride Together

Ride Together
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Take a ride together to work! If you both work, and live separately. Just drive together. If he/she shows up after work to pick you up just because they want to see you is an absolute heart melting gesture!

5. Back Rubs

Back Rubs
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Back Rubs work both ways. If your girlfriend/wife is on her periods or if your boyfriend/husband is sick, rub their back for a little relief. The big relief is they will know they have you! Now even if you’re tired at the end of the day, rub their back to sleep. The feeling of having someone to take care of us is so romantic!

6. Hold Hands

Hold Hands
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Holding hands all the damn time gives a sense of touch which makes your heart warm & relaxes at the same time. Go out on random walks holding hands! Explore places whilst holding hands! The sudden demonstration of affection will definitely have your partner smiling from ear to ear.

7. Forehead Kisses

Forehead Kisses
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Forehead kisses scream love! I personally love them. No intimate gesture is as romantic as this one. This romantic gesture speaks volume of your feelings or your partner’s.

8. Cook up a Storm

Cook up a Storm
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Chill, it’s an idiom. If you’re bad at cooking or specialize only in boiling water, then you surely can nail this gesture. If your partner enjoys food cooked by you, they surely are in love with you. It’s a thoughtful gesture of cooking for someone when you don’t know how to cook, but it’s more about the other person if they don’t complain! Embracing our partner’s flaws and accepting them is the true meaning of loving someone.

9. Random Texts

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When in love, they’re our favorite notification. And receiving random texts from them is the highlight of any regular day. Now the text could be anything, text that says miss you, love you, thinking about you, kiss & hug emoji, or something that they want to talk to you about. It simply means, you matter! They’re thinking of you at that very moment. Don’t only receive them, send them too! They too deserve to know they’re special! Calls work the same charm as texts!

10. Getting Gifts

Getting Gifts
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Who doesn’t love gifts? It’s as amazing as receiving texts or calls. Show that they mean the world to you with getting them gifts. One doesn’t need occasions to shower your lover with gifts. Spoil them with their favorite things, tickets to someplace they want to go, gadgets for your man, make-up or a dress for your lady, book if they love reading. It’s definitely the thought that counts here.

If you aren’t brave enough to say those three magical words, just think of gestures that can convey the same. But at times, it’s important to let your partner know with words as well because it’s always special to hear those little somethings that aren’t little!

Friendship is a relation that we develop out of choice and something which is not provided to us. Finding someone with whom we can share our secrets, joy, and sorrow is priceless.

A best friend is someone who accepts us for who we are and respects our choices without any judgment. And if you have a great friendship with someone from the opposite sex, it’s an added advantage. Apart from having someone who understands you, there is a great opportunity to explore more about both genders.

But with opposite-sex friendships, there’s always a fine line between loving your friend and falling in love with them. Well, the feelings can be really intense in the latter scenario and you may not know how to exactly deal with them. So, here are some tips to help you decide your next step in such a scenario:

Analyze Your Feelings

Sit. Relax. Think. It is also possible that you may be just infatuated to your best friend and mistaken it for love. So, think about your feelings just to make sure if it is actually love or you are just being emotional or it is just a passing phase of your life. It may be possible that you are jumping to conclusions based on some momentary reactions. Like, your friend was looking hot one night, and suddenly you started drooling all over them. Because in that case, it is just a feeling and not actually love.

Don’t Drop the Bomb on Them

We know it’s hard to keep your feelings when you’re in love. But make sure you don’t scream at the top of your lungs to declare your love for your friend. If you have made the choice to tell them how you really feel, then wait for the right time to talk about it. Probably when you two are alone and spending time together. Start showing your affection in sweet little gestures and then observe how your friend reacts to it.

Be Honest About Your Feelings

If your friend responds to your gestures and feelings, then be honest to acknowledge your feelings. Sit and talk about how you feel for them and want something more than the friendship you two share. Without actually destroying the friendship that is the very foundation of your relationship. There may be confusions in the beginning, but if you two are really good friends who understand each other, then the wind will definitely clear in a while.

Respect Their Response

If your friend lets you know that the feelings are not mutual and they do not see you as anything other than a friend, then respect their decision. Don’t be pushy or try to convince them to be in a love relationship with you. It may ruin your friendship. There is someone waiting for you. You just need to wait for the right time. If their response is positive and things are great, then work towards building a loving relationship that doesn’t come on your way of friendship. Always remember you are friends first and then lovers!  And let it nurture your relationship.

Falling in love with your best friend can be a blessing or a curse. If you ever end up in this situation, then count your blessings, analyze the risks involved and take your decision wisely.

Your girlfriend is mad at you & you don’t know why? Why is she acting passive aggressive?

Or maybe you just think she is mad but you are afraid to ask because this would awaken the beast. You decide to ignore and hope this phase passes away. Well, that will only make her madder!

Also, you’ve been noticing that this happens way too often. You send her a good morning text with a kiss but she replies with a plain “Morning!” or texts you that she is going to bed early, like at 8 pm. When you do ask her what’s wrong? She replies with a “Kuch Nahi” text. And you wonder what’s bothering her? Is it something you did or is something else troubling her? Sometimes you shrug it off thinking she must be pmsing! Well, Don’t!

She is probably mad because you gave her a reason to and you are unaware of it. You may ponder- Why isn’t she telling me? Because she doesn’t want to seem needy & clingy.

Let me open the gates to the secret world of real emotions & overthinking for you guys! Here are a few things you may be doing that pester her:

Taking Too Long To Reply
Taking Too Long To Reply
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She understands that you are busy, but not replying to her texts is not right. It has been 2 hours since she texted you, she posts a picture on Instagram & you double tap. You still haven’t replied to her texts, but you got time to be on scroll your Instagram feed? Or maybe you have been online for 5 mins over WhatsApp, but you haven’t replied or seen her texts. Well, she will be a little mad!

Saying That You Will Call Her But Don’t
Saying That You Will Call Her But Don’t
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Do not do it! I repeat do not do it!

You say that you’ll call her in the evening or maybe at night but then you didn’t. You decide to strike a conversation over text messages and wonder why she is sending you one-word replies. Maybe you forgot or are too tired to call her, but you have to let her know. This will not only make her mad but make her overthink things. Girls care more about this stuff than guys!

Forgot To Delete Your Tinder
Forgot To Delete Your Tinder
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Do you seriously need a reason for that? You have tinder in your phone, maybe not an account but the app is still there, and there is no justification for that! You may have forgotten to delete it, but you are dead meat! She may forgive you, but she won’t stop thinking about it. How would you feel if she has the app on her phone?

Praising Your Ex or For That Matter Any Other Girl
Praising Your Ex or For That Matter Any Other Girl
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You definitely can praise other girls, but don’t overdo it! If she is spending the weekend with you, you’re allowed to talk about how great some other girl is just 3 times! Don’t do it again otherwise, she will start to think that you don’t appreciate her or are comparing her.

Warning: Don’t praise your ex-girlfriend AT ALL!

Taking The Blanket But Not Cover Her Up
Taking The Blanket But Not Cover Her Up
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You are sleeping next to her, you wake up at night because you were feeling cold so you take the blanket and cover yourself, but not her! Do you think that is the right thing to do? If you’re feeling cold, then she must have been cold too! Now when she wakes up feeling cold, she will see that you have hogged the entire blanket and will end up laying in the bed cold. She will definitely be all grumpy in the next day!

Inappropriate Replies To Heartfelt Texts
Inappropriate Replies To Heartfelt Texts
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When she writes a long heartfelt message for you and pour her heart out or maybe she sent you a song, you are supposed to reply with affinity. When you reply with an Okay, I see, Acha or Say that is great & change the topic to something like “Did you see the trailer to that movie?”

You definitely are making her mad! You may have understood, and absorbed her emotions but she needs to know that you appreciate it. It took a lot of effort for her to write something special for you, value it!

When You Do Not Tell Her What’s Wrong
When You Do Not Tell Her What’s Wrong
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Being in a relationship with someone means you can share all your problems with them truthfully. Guys tend to keep their problems to themselves and take time opening up which is okay! But, you got to start sharing things with her. She shares all her problems with you and expects nothing less in return. When you go all tough & hide your problems, she feels like you don’t trust her enough.

Open Up With Her!

When You Make Plans & Forget
When You Make Plans & Forget
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So, you told her that you will take her out to this Thai Restaurant next week for a date, but you forget! You may have forgotten, but she didn’t. She probably canceled her plans for Saturday, took a half day & thought of the dress she would be wearing on the date. Don’t say it if you won’t be doing it!

Not Asking Her “What’s Wrong?”
Not Asking Her “What’s Wrong?”
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She texted you Good Night early saying that she is tired, and you’re like Okay! She wants you to ask her what’s wrong! Be a little sensitive!

Using Your Phone When She Is Sleeping Next To You
 Using Your Phone When She Is Sleeping Next To You
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You are supposed to be cuddling not scroll through your Facebook feed or play a game! She feels less desirable and unwanted. So, keep your phone aside and hold her.

Joking About Dating With Her Friend
Joking About Dating With Her Friend
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Never Do It! You may have a small crush on your girlfriend’s friend, but you are not supposed to act on it. You are not supposed to joke about it either. You may jokingly ask “What if I dated your friend?” She may act casual, but she definitely will be fuming inside!

“I Am With A Friend”
“I Am With A Friend”
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You tell her that you’re out with a friend but don’t tell her who is it. She is going to be a little upset. We girls wouldn’t get mad even if you’re out with a girl, but not naming them makes her think “why?”

Refuse To Tell Her About Your Past
Refuse To Tell Her About Your Past
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It is possible that you are not comfortable talking about your past, but after a while in the relationship, you should be comfortable sharing things with her. She may respect your privacy and not ask you about you ought to tell her someday. Being weird about this stuff would make her upset. She wants you to trust her!

Are You PMSING?
 Are You PMSING?
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Do not ask her that! Maybe she is, maybe she isn’t! When you ask this question, she is definitely going to be furious.

Well, these are the few innocent things you are doing which make her mad. You might not even know & feel these things are absolutely normal, but to her, it’s not. She would forgive for things like forgetting her birthday, but these little things you do may make her feel neglected & ignored. You need to be more considerate even if she’s acting crazy, after all, you love her!

Marriage is an institution based on the strong foundation of companionship. But there are some bouts of the squabble in every marriage that even the oh-so-in-love couples cannot avoid.

Yes, the silly, stupid fights where married couples get angry with each other over complete nonsense. Sometimes these fights can be really funny that has no solution, but married couples still fight over them all the time. But in the end, these fights always bring them closer to one another more than ever.

So, here is a list of silly things that married couples often argue about:

  1. Every day and night they end up fighting over the AC temperature. Like how hot or how cold the room needs to be. Two different bodies need two temperatures. And that mean temperature that suits both of them just doesn’t exist.
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2. The universal issue that leads to a fight between couples all the time. What to watch on TV? I mean the fight is sure to happen when the wife wants to watch a Rom-com while the husband is a huge fan of the action thriller. These are the two choices poles apart.

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3. Who would have thought that people can actually fight over how to arrange dishes in the dishwasher? Well, married couples certainly make it look easy! They always pick up a fight about whether the dishes must be pre-cleaned before placing them in the dishwasher or just hope that the dishwasher will itself clean them efficiently.

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4. Who will answer the door when maid rings the bell first thing in the morning? Because our bed is so precious to us that we just never want to leave it and would even pick up a fight with our partner for an extra 5 minutes sleep.

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5. The curious case of ‘keeping things from where they were taken out.’ Every wife is tired of reminding this thing to her husband a thousand times a day but men won’t change and they’ll still leave things where they are not supposed to be.

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6. Those irritating, loud snores at night that sometimes make you want to strangle your partner. And the worst part is that your partner would never accept that they actually disturb your sleep with their bad snoring habit. In that case, the fight is bound to happen!

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7. What? Did you just say your parents want to visit us? But they went back last month after staying with us for a full three months. Yeah, the same old story where every woman goes into the state of despair after knowing that her in-laws are visiting. I mean, there’s nothing personal but nobody likes to be corrected about doing things the right way or should we say according to the in-law’s way.

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8. There’s no doubt that sometimes men baffle their wives with their inappropriate dressing sense. I mean checks over checks for men’s dressing is quite a weird choice. That is sure to make their wives ask, ‘What are you wearing?’ And there goes another hour of argument over a pointless issue, which could have been easily avoided in the first place.

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9. To attend or not to attend family functions! Sometimes both the partners do not agree on attending a family function. One thinks that it is important to go and socialize with the people who are an important part of their life while the other one just wants to pass and spend some relaxing time at home instead. And guess what the final decision is never easy to make without getting in a fight.

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10. What to order? This happens all the time and with every couple. You are too tired to cook dinner after a busy day at work and just want to order from outside. As simple as that. No, actually not! To order food, first, you need to decide what you want to eat and then it should also match with your partner’s choice, which doesn’t happen most of the time. Your partner wants to eat Chinese but you do not because that’s what you ate last week. You like Mughlai but your health-conscious partner cannot afford to eat all the oily stuff. And that’s how food discussion ends up in a silly argument.

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11. Falling asleep on the couch can be your favorite thing to do but you can only imagine how much it annoys your partner. Because you end up ruining the setting of the sofa cover that your cleanliness conscious partner absolutely hates.

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12. Leaving wet towels on the bed. Men do it all the time. Now, the sheets are wet. The towel smells bad. And your partner’s temper is an all-time high. You are in trouble man. Save yourself if you can or maybe just change your habit!

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13. The million dollar question, who is going to get back out of bed to turn the light off? I mean you can just take turns and call it a truce. But that’s not the most viable option with couples, I guess. They’ll fight over it for another half hour and then the person who has to get up early in the morning will go and turn off the light.

 

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No matter how big or pointless arguments get, married couples still have them all the time and end up getting a good laugh about them later.

Love and romance have become the thing of the past. This is the world of modern dating where relationships have become a way to pass time instead of having something substantial in life with an actual goal.

People meet on dating apps, exchange numbers, and get in a casual relationship sans any commitment. When things don’t work out they call it off over a text. Surprising? But that’s the truth of modern dating. However, love in old school days was really special that made relationships happier in the past than they are in the modern world.

Here are some significant reasons why we believe old school romance is better than modern dating.

Those Were the Times of Romantic Love Letters

In the old times, when there were no Whatsapp, FB messenger, or emails, love letters were the only means for lovers to express their feelings for each other. There were no emoticons to express instant emotions but only handwritten love letters with teardrops on them that expressed a vast ocean of feelings without saying anything.

The Charm of Occasional Meetings

There was no such trend of going on dates every weekend or partying till the wee hours. Lovers back then had to make a lot of arrangements to meet each other just once or twice in a month. But even that one meeting meant so much to them. And every moment they spent with each other gave them memories galore to cherish till their uncertain next meet.

There Were No Dating Apps

Yes, there were no dating apps like Tinder, bumble, and Happn in old times still the relationships were quite sorted. People actually used to meet in real life to get to know each other better. And on the basis of their compatibility quotient, they would get into relationships.

Relationships Used To Grow Organically

In old times, getting into a relationship was more about finding a companion with whom you can share your feelings, happiness, and sorrows. Holding hands, exchanging glances, and stealing kisses were the initial steps that lead to physical intimacy after a long term of understanding and knowing each other. Unlike modern romance that is based on the foundation of physical attraction rather than emotional connection.

Relationships Were Meant To Be Enjoyed Not Controlled

In the modern dating process, everything happens so fast that people hardly get any time to enjoy and absorb its beauty. One little mistake can ruin the entire relationship within seconds. While in old times, people used to be very forgiving of their partner’s little mistakes. Instead of fighting over silly things they used to work on their weaknesses to make their relationship better. People used to enjoy each other’s company even if their relationships were full of unpredictability. They never knew till when they would be together, still they used to enjoy it as much as they can that made their relationship more passionate.

Relationships Were Not Meant To Show Off

Declaring love on social media platforms has now become a relationship rule. The more you show it off on Facebook or Instagram or any other social media platform, the truer your love exists for your partner. Or at least, this is what millennials like to believe. While in old times, people didn’t feel the need to announce their love to the whole world. It was more like a sacred thing between two people that the world didn’t know about. It made old school romance more magical and priceless.

Pain & Gain of Commitment Is Missing

Commitment- the biggest phobia that every millennial has which keeps them away from any sort of long-term relationship. We understand relationships are not always about love, roses, and mushy conversations. There are challenges, failures, and barriers but they can be overcome if you try a little harder. In old times, relationships used to be the priority of people and they were fully committed to it. They teach us that you cannot let go of an important person in your life simply because he/she has some weaknesses. Always remember, nobody is perfect and everybody deserves a second chance.

Office romance! We all have fallen into the guilty pit at some point in our lives! If not, then we may have thought about what would it be like? Well, those who fell into the pit and now are finally out of know the reason why it is a mineshaft.

Why do we work? To earn & have a career, right? Then why do we find ourselves getting distracted by our attractive co-workers? We spend 8 hours a day in the office which means 40 hours a week, that too from the major portion of our day. We see our colleagues more than we meet our friends. Which is why these faces eventually turn friendly! Since our major portion of our day is spent in the office, it is likely to get charmed by them.

You should avoid falling into the mineshaft for the following reasons:

Office Rumors & Gossips
Office Rumors & Gossips
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You could be a victim of office gossip! If you think you can hide it, you are probably wrong. Someone will find out for sure or doubt, and there starts the gossip. People will constantly judge you & wouldn’t stop talking about you. The scrutiny is hard to escape.

Work Strife & Jealousy With Your Partner
Work Strife & Jealousy With Your Partner
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You may love your partner and respect them a lot. But let’s be honest, everyone is working towards their goals at work. We are always in competition with our co-workers for promotions, appraisals & appreciations. Now imagine competing with your partner for the promotion you’ve been waiting for a really long time! Would you give it up for them? No? Thought so!

Even if you decide to handle it like “May the Best Man Win”, the one who loses will end up feeling envious.

Dating Your Senior? That’s A Sin!
Dating Your Senior? That’s A Sin!
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So if you’re dating your boss, then every time you get appreciated for something, your co-workers are going to be like “It is because she is dating the boss.”

If you get promoted or get an appraisal, you will turn into the office bitch. Your hard work would go neglected.

Dating Your Junior? You’re a fool!
Dating Your Junior? You’re a fool!
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Yep, that is right! People wouldn’t stop judging you, regardless of your gender. If you are dating your junior, then they’d call you a fool!

It Might Affect Your Performance
It Might Affect Your Performance
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When you’re in love, that one person could be on your mind all the time. Imagine having them around. It would be hard to concentrate on anything! You might want to take longer lunch breaks and often may find yourself thinking about your partner.  Again, what about your career goals?

Claustrophobia Much?
Claustrophobia Much?
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If we think about it, it is really romantic to be around someone you love. All the office shenanigans, it can get really stressful. Someone present there to support you constantly can be really great. But after a while, it can get claustrophobic! You may find yourself in a situation where you wouldn’t be able to talk to anyone but your partner. A possessive partner may restrict you talking to other people & take most of your time.

Office Is No More Your Thing!
Office Is No More Your Thing!
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Remember how Rachel told Ross that she likes how he is not a part of her office life. How she feels it is something she owns, something which makes her feel independent, and she liked it. We feel accomplished at our workplace, and those accomplishments are just ours! It is very important for humans to feel this way, it keeps them motivated. Having your partner around could ruin things for you.

No Individuality
No Individuality
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Humans crave for individuality. We all want to have a personality of our own. Who would like to be referred to as “his girlfriend” or “her boyfriend” at their workplace & not by their name?

You will mostly be referred to as a couple!

Co-Workers Treating You Differently
Co-Workers Treating You Differently
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Your co-workers may start treating you differently. They may call you names & may mock you for not spending time with them but only your significant others. They might even stop asking you for hangouts! In all the start looking at you very differently.

Post-Break-Up Shenanigans

Office romance may or may not last. Humans change their mind, get over people & breakups may happen.

Living With Your Ex In The Super Market
Living With Your Ex In The Super Market
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Those of who have seen Friends, know what I’m talking about! Those of you haven’t, remember when you bumped into your ex in the supermarket? It was super awkward! Now imagine living in that supermarket with your ex!

Spilled Secrets
Spilled Secrets
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People do crazy things in love & crazier stuff after breakups! You may trust someone blindly while you are attracted to them and tell them all your life secrets. After break up, your ex might just go around the office telling everyone your business.

You could be the target of office gossip because you broke their heart!

Please Stop The Rumors
Please Stop The Rumors
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Your ex might end up spreading malicious rumors about you around the office. There is no way to stop them. Because people may believe them as they spent a lot of time with you! These rumors may even jeopardize your career.

Moving On Becomes Harder
Moving On Becomes Harder
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It is difficult to get over a break-up! Now, if you see your ex every day it will become 1000 times harder to move on. And if you weren’t the one who broke up, every time you cross paths with your ex, you will end up missing them even more.
In case, if your ex starts seeing someone else in the office, it will become really difficult for you to not feel desolate.

Legal Hustles
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In case if one person decides to change their mind but the other one isn’t ready to give up, there are high chances of the HR getting involved in your personal mess. Who needs that kind of drama in their life?

I am not saying that all workplace relationships fail. Some go beyond the hardships and turn into enduring relationships. But most of the times it is tough to sustain them. You need to be very vigilant about who you date, take these risks for someone who is totally worth it.

The team of Zoya-Reema has often been ridiculed for showing the lives of rich people on screen but I don’t buy those opinions. The human emotion of love, hate, jealousy, regret, and greed are the same everywhere. 8th March – on the International Women’s Day “Made In Heaven” got its digital release. With the trailer of the web series on Amazon Prime, it garnered some attention. This time Alankrita Shrivastava has teamed up with Zoya Akhtar & Reema Kagti to present the tale of the “rich” people again. Unlike Gully Boy, this time Zoya-Reema have tried to play safe as no one can narrate the lives of the rich people better really!

Made In Heaven is the name of a wedding planning company owned by Tara & Karan who are best friends. In each episode, you will see a new wedding assignment and through these brides, grooms, & the wedding events, various topics are pricked – greed for money, fake social prestige, acceptance of same-sex relationship, dowry & the filth around it, etc. Simultaneously, with that, the tales in the lives of Tara & Karan also forges ahead.

The 9 episodes web series talked about too many things under the sun and here is my observation of some practical relationship lessons that it preached in absolutely “non-preachy” tone.

Your Parents Also Have A Life
Your Parents Also Have A Life
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Being raised in this Indian culture, most of us cultivate two thoughts about marriage – firstly, you should marry only once and secondly, once you are married, you should love only your married partner even after the death of him/her. But what if your parents want a companionship? You are not always there with your parents as you have your projects, assignments, and perhaps your own marriage or relationship. So, think broadly for once and let your parents live their life. The society was never nice before and it won’t be so kind even now. And to stay happy, you should not think of society! Your parents have raised you, gave you life, and prepared you to face every challenge in life and after all, that when you are an adult, they should also take some rest and live life just as they want.

Accept Your Children
Accept Your Children
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There was a heartbreaking scene when a teenage Karan is mercilessly beaten with a cricket bat by his mother. Why? Because his mom came to know that her first born child is gay. She is petrified to face her son and the whole baggage of facing the family or outer world when they will come to know about this make her angry. But seriously, beating up your child would leave a scar in his/her mind forever against you. He/she will always try to run away from you, hide smallest to biggest things from you, or will always live under the impression that his/her parents don’t love. This is vehemently wrong. If you being the parent cannot accept the “sexual choice” of your son/daughter, the whole world won’t! If you didn’t support them today, they will turn out to be an average person with zero confidence for life tomorrow. So, accept them as they are and never try to manipulate their thoughts too!

Mistakes Happen & That’s Ok
Mistakes Happen & That’s Ok
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Episode No. 2 shows the marriage of Harsimran (bride), princess of Dubai, and Jogi (son of a rich hotelier in Delhi). Harsimran is a bright young girl who speaks in an accent and loves the Bollywood hero Sarfaraz Khan. So, in their pre-wedding bash, the star is called by Jogi. Now, Sarfaraz is a womanizer and it is not difficult for Harsimran to sleep with him especially when she has a crush on him. She wakes up and finds a scandalous picture on social media which leads to many hassles later on. So, the wedding planners come up with a nice idea to stop the negative buzz on social media. She fell in love with Jogi properly when she realized how easily he forgave her and thus during Mehendi she was in guilt. Harsimran starts vomiting & crying realizing she is about to enter a new life with a lie. Karan says to her, “it’s ok, it’s your life, keep this little secret with yourself”. Every one of us has some kind of secret and there is no need to feel guilty for that mistake – perhaps that was ok for the moment.

Never Ever Settle With Hypocrites
Never Ever Settle With Hypocrites
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Most of us or all of us do try to fake certain things while we start dating and that’s ok. But with time, we all get into our real skin and that’s when the relationship either crashes or rises to the next level. This point “never settle with hypocrites” is meant mostly for the girls. As inspired by one of the brides in this series, take a stern decision to walk away from your relationship even when you are just on the verge of the marriage. It is much needed to stand up and make a valid statement right now rather than spending the whole life in thought “I didn’t love this man”.

As per the story, the bride and groom organized their wedding and spending their hard earned money on it. The parents are also helping in certain segments and the groom is an IAS officer who wants to do something for the society. But that’s just the superficial layer. His baraat won’t enter the venue until the “dowry” settlement is done. This topic of “dowry” was never discussed and the groom’s family says “I thought you know that it is a tradition”. Yes, this kind of people still breathes in this world. The wedding planner being a woman herself decides to tell this thing to the bride just before she was about to take the saat-pheras and the bride walks away saying the most beautiful line – “I am not going to pay anyone to marry me”. Imagine how hard life would have been if the marriage was complete!

What You Do To Others Comes Back To You
What You Do To Others Comes Back To You
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What you do to others, how you behave with others, everything actually comes back to you. So, it is important to be nice & polite to people. There is no need to start a foul play as you never know it may hit you harder. That’s what happened with Tara who took all the wrong routes to be rich. She desperately wanted to be one among the “cream of the society” and that made her do all the planning to break Adil’s engagement. She does all that just to be married to a big shot Adil Khanna and lives a comfortable & luxurious life. And see how life gets back to her! Adil later happens to romance Tara’s best friend Faiza until Tara find that out leaves the marriage.

This web series of 9 episodes is one of the finest things to happen to this new wave of Indian web series world. It will be remembered even after 20 years down the line for its amazing cinematography, tactful story-telling, stupendous dialogues, and of course, for giving a glimpse of the reality!

Romance is oxygen in love relationships. It is a strong adhesive that keeps the couple intact. In fact novelist, Elinor Glyn said that “Romance is the glamor which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze”. Romance is thus a much-needed element in a successful relationship. Whether you are in a live-in relationship or are married for years – romance should be there in your relationship. Without romance, things may fall apart. Actually, when you observe a lack of romance in your cute love story, you don’t feel the strength in your relationship anymore the way you felt when you started. If you see the following symptoms in your relationship, then, darling, those are signs of the dying romance that you once shared with your partner.

Read and analyze your relationship and do something about it now!

  1. He/She Is No More The 1st Person To Share The Big News

There is a place for your best friends in your life. But the reality is when you are in love or in a serious relationship with someone, then, that person quite generally becomes your best friend, companion, and secret-keeper. And that’s quite a common phenomenon across the world. You always feel the urge to share the big news or breaking news like losing a major client, winning a lottery, getting promoted, or getting a free pass to a concert, etc. with your partner. If you observe (both in your & your partner’s case) that all the big news are shared with a best friend, a new friend, or a family member, then, probably there is a lack of romance.

  1. Thinking of A Break-Up Constantly

If nowadays, the thought of a “break up” is constantly buzzing in your head, then it is a serious warning that romance has already died in your bond. Deep down in your mind, you always know the truth but the acceptance of that reality takes a long time to transform. If your gut feeling is saying “break up” quite often, then probably you should now take a step forward.

  1. The Feeling of “Loneliness” In His/Her Presence

Nothing can beat this one truly. There are two types of couples basically. The first kinds are the ones are extremely opposite to each other & have different choices, yet, they share a room/home and feel complete in each other’s presence. They both may be enjoying two different movies or books but there is a comfort in that silence and difference. The other kind of couple is the one who is perhaps watching the TV or the same movie & one is enjoying while the other is not. Or they are eating at the dinner table and one is expecting attention and conversation while the other is totally investing in his/her phone or tablet. If you belong to the second category, then buckle up, please. Always remember that in a romantic relationship, the differences are meant to be respected and not ignored.

  1. Weakness Pushes The Strengths Away

In the initial phases of your romantic union, everything seems good. The differences, behavior, sleeping pattern, the taste of food, or cleanliness – everything seems “cute” and you just “AWWW” those moments. But then of late, if you see these things more than the understanding and the romantic evenings spent together, then, definitely there is a problem.

  1. Avoiding Spending Time With Each Other

For any relationship to prosper, spending time with each other is mandatory. If you or your partner is avoiding or re-scheduling or canceling the promised times to spend together, then, you should worry. Is he/she spending more time on social media than spending time with you? What is there on social media that real people cannot fill? Find that out if he/she has started to talk to random people on facebook or insta. Maybe he/she is bothered with something and feeling afraid or shameful to talk to you which is resulting in this turmoil. If you don’t find suitable answers, then you are smart enough to figure out what to do – isn’t it?

  1. Are Your Conversations Boring?

After a considerable period of time, the conversations between partners turn to these – “have you bought the medicine?” “Didn’t you feed the dog?” “Where are the groceries for the week?”. But that’s ok also like both of you have to run a house. The problem is if you are not talking beyond these things. If there is silence after these question and almost monosyllabic answers, then, definitely you should worry. You must have spent some amazing times together, shared laughter, and made jokes at each other. Start all that again and if you see a reluctance in your partner, then, of course, talk it out so that romance can be back again.

  1. A Significant Change

Yes, it is true that “change is the only thing permanent in this world”. You must not forget that a little of both of you have changed since your relationship started. More than “change” that is called adaptation and adjustment to accommodate love & romance in life. But if you have recently noticed a significant change in your partner, it could mean romance has started to evaporate from your love for sure. You may see your partner change his/her entire wardrobe, visiting family & friends more than before, spending more time in the office, shifting the taste of music & movies, or spending money on very unusual things that are totally opposite to that person’s dictionary. These are symptoms that either he/she wants a new life, found a new love, or simply is done romancing with you!

When you fell in love that may have not been because of any reason but when you end up with them that definitely has some back story. Break Up by actual terminology mean the separation of something into several pieces or sections. After a relationship ends, there are 100s of questions dancing in our head. One very prominent one is “Should we stay friends? Or can we stay friends?” The answer to that question is NO! Why? Well here are 5 reasons why you cannot be friends with your ex!

1.    The heart wants what it “Needs”!
 The heart wants what it “Needs”!
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When you separate from your partner and decide to stay friends, it impacts your healing process. To let go & move on you need to distance yourself from your ex and grieve the breakup. Your heart needs to heal from the separation to have a better next. In order to have a better next, you first need to grieve about the present situation.

2.    Friendship = Friction!
Friendship = Friction!
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To have a better next-relationship afterward you need to cut the ordeal with your ex. Being friends may cause friction in your next. Your new partner might feel slight insecure or threatened with your awkward friendship with your ex. In order to have a healthy relationship, one must cut the ties with their exes.

3.    You’re Inviting More Pain!
You’re Inviting More Pain!
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While being friends with your ex can be casual & cool, it isn’t easy when you cling onto hopes & expectations. You’re simply inviting more pain for yourself. It was difficult in the first place, and then clinging onto hopes of winning them back might get you messed up. It only gets worse after the break up because you’re clearly not over them and they have moved on. Now, what joy it is to see someone you loved one is in love with someone else? Do all your loved-ones around you a favor and please move one. Saying it is easy but is equally difficult. But it isn’t doing any good to you.

4.    Simply NOT “Necessary”!
Simply NOT “Necessary”!
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The world is full of nice people who’re looking for love & friendship. Why do you want to cling onto the past? All that “Let’s be just friends” drama isn’t at all necessary. Be open to opportunities, you never know what or who may surprise you! And if not, life’s all about learning & growing. I’m sure you’ve heard of “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince!” So, get your lazy-sad bum moving and go find some frogs before you find your Prince!

5.    Boy, Bye!
 Boy, Bye!
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This one isn’t exactly a reason to not be friends with your ex but just something that actually makes sense. All these exes teach us lessons or make us realize our flaws (if one wants to accept). When you’ve learned about yourself, you might want to find someone better to match your standard (no offense). With all ‘Knowing self-worth’, you really don’t want to waste your time anymore on the last one, right? So don’t be friends with your ex!“

There you go with reasons to not be friends with your ex. Is there any good reason to stay friends with your ex, kindly share. We’d love to know.

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