FOMO is an abbreviation for Fear Of Missing Out. It is a phenomenon that is becoming increasingly common and can affect anyone. FOMO, in general, refers to the feeling that others are having more fun or experiencing better things in life than you are.
The feeling of FOMO generally starts with a slight bothering among people when they miss out on something, which in turn can create anxiety and lead to the feeling of inferiority.
The advent of social media has made FOMO an even bigger issue especially among young people who are always online checking posts and updates by their friends. They get addicted to social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram to an extent where checking up on what others are doing, where they are travelling or what they are eating consumes all their time. So, when they miss a party or a vacation, it makes them feel a little less cool and inferior to people who were actually present there and posted photos online.
The consequences of FOMO can be quite harmful at times:
People suffering from FOMO keep their attention focused on others and forget to live their own lives
They may lose their sense of identity and suffer from low self-esteem
FOMO affected people have a lower level of satisfaction in life, which makes them vulnerable to serious mental health concerns
They have a constant urge to compare their lives with others
The more time people spend on social media keeping track of others’ lives, the higher is the level of stress and depression in their lives.
If this FOMO becomes massive, these people may end up with anxiety and depression too
How to cope with FOMO?
People with FOMO can keep a track of negative thoughts and feelings and determine what they need to change to feel better about themselves in life
When they find themselves saying something negative to themselves, they can replace the thought with something positive to divert their mind from going down the dark path
Take a break from social media every once in a while to erase the negative feelings that FOMO causes
It is important to have the self-realisation that they cannot possibly be everywhere and do everything. But this also does not mean that they are missing out on something
They can practice focusing on what they are doing at the moment rather than concentrating on others’ lives
They should understand that not everything they see online is true. No one lives a perfect life even when social media allows them to pretend that they do.
Last but not the least, they should learn that life is far bigger than a mere social media handle.
From Darr to Tamasha, Bollywood has come a long way. I am not saying the movie Darr was bad, it was a classic but our beloved Rahul Mehra was clearly a psychotic obsessive lover who probably had Borderline Personality Disorder and possibly had OCD. He was in no way a charming villain. Maybe the directors and producers meant to shed a light on his mental illness, but they completely missed the point. No one thought that their beloved Rahul Mehra could use a little help from therapy.
Entertainment is fine, but now that a study conducted by National Care Of Medical Health), states that at least 6.5% of the Indian population suffers from some form of the serious mental disorder, and that is just the number which has been reported. The stigma of mental health needs to removed. People need to be motivated to seek help without the fear of judgment. What better way to inspire the Indian population than Bollywood?
Here are 5 Bollywood Movies that shed light on Mental Health:
15 Park Avenue
Schizophrenic Mitali was unable to draw a line between reality and imagination. She is supported by her family, her ex-lover, and has been shown visiting the psychiatrist often. This movie not only portrays the disease flawlessly but shows how you can support someone suffering without calling them “Yeh to retard h!”
A movie all millennials must watch! Sometimes we are suffering and we don’t even recognize it. We ignore the little things by terming them as stress, and when we do reach out for help to our loved ones they tell us the same- it’s just stress, you need a vacation. Dear Zindagi normalizes Therapy and that every little problem matters, even breakups.
Taare Zameen Par
Indian parents will never agree that their child needs help. They will say he just needs to be a little more disciplined, send him to military school, or a boarding school but will not agree that their kid might be suffering from an unbearable mental pressure. Taare Zameen Par sheds light on this behaviour and how you can deal with it. Ishan had Dyslexia, he was lucky enough to find to come across a teacher who understood.
The movie is based on the Congruence Theory by Carl Rogers. The theory describes how if actual self and ideal self are in alignment, they experience a state of congruence (harmony). If not, then they experience incongruence. Ved experience a great amount of incongruence. While he was a disciplined corporate employee in real life, his ideal self was someone expressive, fearless and outgoing. I believe this is a very common problem faced by the world today. We wish to normalize the “Be Yourself” slogan, but not for ourselves.
Many may have missed a point in this movie. To many, it was a thriller and to others, it was a horror movie. Radha was suffering from Dissociative Identity Disorder, and people in the village believed a ghost existed. What fool would walk up to Radha and tell her that she has a disease, at the same time explain to the villagers that all the ghostly things were done by Radha, not a ghost? Sometimes you need to create a delusion to deal with another.
In an era where looks matter the most. One just doesn’t have to be physically appealing to make impressions but it’s sort of running up to a way of living & earning. Stuck in such generation are those who are trying constantly to escape issues like depression, anxiety, panic disorder and more such mental disorders due to ample reasons. Reasons that begins with personal issues to endless reasons. There isn’t a particular cause for deteriorating mental health. People focus on staying healthy & fit by going to the gym, exercising, eating healthy, to enhance their physical appearance. What we don’t realize is mental health is as important as physical health! After reading this blog, you’ll have 5 easy & effecting ways to keep your mental health fit.
1. Practice Self-Reflection
Out of all the things that affect our mental health, not knowing ourselves affect us the most. Once a person knows themselves. They’ll know how to tackle the problems that the world throws at them. Every day take out at least 15 minutes of your day to self-reflect. By self-reflect, talk to yourself because no one is judging you. Spend some time alone, let out your emotions, and cry if you wish to. Self-reflection helps in learning about our fundamental nature, purpose & essence. Stand in front of the mirror and assess what you see in the reflection. Assessing a reflection is helpful in learning what you perceive.
2. Know Yourself
Identify your weaknesses & strengths. Try and gather information about yourself, such as how do you react to certain things, how do you work & grasp things while learning. When you know your weaknesses, you can work on them. Set up some goals for yourself to overcome those weaknesses. Knowing your strength you’d know where to work and how much you can work without overexerting your brain. Individuals need to know their strong & weak points in order to attain what they actually need while moving further in life.
3. Work Out or Brain Muscles
As much as working out is important for physical health. It is equally important for mental health as well. While we’re working out our body muscles, this process delivers oxygen to our brain which further helps in improving memory, reasoning abilities & reaction times. Working out brain muscles also mean work your brain out too. For this, you can watch game shows, quiz shows. While you watch and get entertained try answering the question to exercise general knowledge.
4. Find a Hobby
Diverting our mental energy toward learning something new, you can stay mentally fit & active as well. Learning something new or developing a liking for something new gives they ‘Grey Matter’ a workout and builds neural pathways in the brain. For those who will wonder what grey matter is, it’s a part of CNS (Central nervous system) Go out, start reading if you like reading. Find new books of your interest. With finding a new hobby for yourself you can cover the previous point as well. While you learn a new hobby you can work out as well. Look out for a hobby like dancing, swimming, aerobics, opting for your favorite sports.
5. Love Life
Out of everything that you may do this one works the best and for the best! Coming from my personal experience, unless you love and appreciate what you have been blessed with you won’t make much far. We have been blessed this life, wake up every morning rather than checking Instagram, WhatsApp or any other social platforms, appreciate the fact you woke up. We forget to appreciate life, the process of living life while busy making money and running after things that won’t add to our life experiences. Meet your friends, spend time with your family & friends, fall in love, meet and make new friends, join a club, have a random conversation and get to know people you come across. There’s so much more to life than what we think or what we run after.
Mental health is important, an essential part of our lives revolve around how we perceive things and react to them. Efforts taken to stay physically fit has to be equal to efforts taken to keep your mental health fit.
It wouldn’t be entirely incorrect to say that social media has taken over our lives. Be it the boardroom debates or bedroom discussions, people unknowingly tend to introduce social media to every part of their life, which becomes unavoidable after a certain point of time. And talk about the stress of keeping up with the glamorous lifestyle of others portrayed in social media, which is far away from the real truth most of the time.
According to a survey, an average person spends a minimum of 1 hour 50 minutes per day browsing internet and scrolling through apps. The wastage of time is just one of the many side effects of addiction to social media. It twists your version of reality and lends a superficial perspective of things that stop you from gaining a deeper insight into important aspects of life.
Of course, we cannot ignore the multiple benefits of social media that make our lives cool and convenient. But one also cannot simply overlook the stress and pressure it brings on a daily basis, which can be quite overwhelming at times. Therefore, social media hiatus every once in a while is a must.
Here are a few mental health benefits of the temporary social media detox.
Reconnect With the Real World
You may have hundreds of friends on Facebook and thousands of followers on Instagram. And you might connect well with them online. But have you ever tried to connect with those people in person? The social media restrict in-person human contact and sometimes leaves us feeling lonely and isolated. Taking a break from it lets you reconnect with the people who matter to you and are an important part of your life.
Save Time to Try Out New Things
Admit it or not, we are all guilty of wasting time on social media. Think of all the hours you’ll save yourself from social media cleanse? It can be utilized in doing something creative and productive like reading, writing, trying adventure activities or pursuing hobbies that improves your life. Taking a break from social media is the best way to spend time doing what you love to do.
Your Privacy is Intact
Posting pictures on the social media of every event or check-in to every holiday destination is not necessary? But people still do it willingly without even analyzing its repercussions. Social media might be a convenient way to stay in touch with your people but at the cost of access to your personal information. That keeps your privacy at a risk. Taking a social media detox involves deleting the unnecessary apps and accounts that help provide with the best possible privacy protection.
No More FOMO
Social media is addictive. It keeps you updated on what your friends are up to, the new things they are buying or the new activities they are trying. That ultimately becomes your obsession. You want to know about everything they are doing in their life, which gives birth to the fear of missing out (FOMO) on certain things that they are doing or the places they are going but you cannot somehow. Maintaining a distance from social media for some time keeps FOMO at a bay. It helps you maintain a happy and balanced real life.
By witnessing the achievements of their friends and loved ones on social media, people end up comparing themselves to everyone they know. That has a severe impact on their self-esteem. The use of social media also gives birth to the feeling of unhealthy competitiveness that can cause anxiety and depression. On breaking up, people stalk their exes on social media. That keeps them stuck in their past and makes it really difficult to recover from a breakup. Leaving social media for a while gives you space to relax and move on with your life.
Less Social Media Means More Sleep
Talk about all the sleep you lose while stalking your crush’s pictures on Instagram that takes you to a random video, which ultimately leads to binge-watching Netflix before you even notice. Forget about the beauty sleep, you don’t even get the necessary 6-hour snooze, which leaves you tired and cranky the entire next day. Avoiding late night internet surfing will let you have a sound sleep at night. It will have an amazing effect on your mental as well as physical health.
You Live In the Moment
The rat race of posting each activity or life event on Facebook can be a bit too much at times. There are even people who updated their relationship status immediately after getting married or posted live videos of their wedding day. It looks like these days everything people do is to showcase on social media. That can be a mental burden at times and take you out of the moment. Cutting cords with social media for some time helps you live in the moment to the fullest. Without the unnecessary burden of taking a few pictures and showing it to your followers online.
Take a break from social media to actually live life and create memories with your favorite people!
It has been said correctly- Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. The deteriorating physical health can make you look physically weak but the failing mental health such as anxiety or depression changes your entire outlook. It affects your thought process, the way you perceive things and deals with everyday difficulties. Therefore, it is important to take small yet vital steps to improve your mental health on your own. After all, a sound mind and a sound body are very much important to live a balanced life. Here are a few useful tips to boost your overall mental health that will add enjoyment to life.
You become what you think about. Fill your mind with positive thoughts and keep negativity at a bay. Staying positive will have a powerful effect on how you feel about yourself. It will promote feelings of self-worth and give you the much-needed confidence to face every situation with affirmation.
Be Grateful For the Good Things in Life
There is a thing about pain – it demands to be felt. And when we are in pain we tend to magnify our problems and overlook all the good things happening around us. An objective analysis is required at times when you feel low to get the hold of the situation and see the big picture clearly. Do appreciate small yet important things that bring happiness to your life!
Live In the Present
Forget past! Don’t stress about the future! Just live in the present and take life as it comes. Because you cannot change your past, no matter how hard you try. And there is no point in worrying about the future that is not under your control. Living in the present will reduce tension and keep your mind free of useless doubts.
Take Good Care Of Your Body
A sound mind resides in a sound body. Eat healthy food enriched with essential nutrients required by your body. Exercise regularly because when you sweat it out in the gym, along with toxic elements your body gets rid of the frustration and stress that otherwise have a negative impact on your mind.
Share Your Feelings
Whenever you are sad, feeling depressed or helpless, talk to someone you think can understand. It can be a friend, colleague, partner, sibling or any reliable person in your life. Because talking to them will let you vent out all the pain and frustration. They may not come up with an apt solution for your problems or life issues but their emotional support will offer much-needed relief.
Take a Break
Routine gives birth to monotony. Take a break and try something new every once in a while. You can go on a trip with your partner or buddies. Try new activities based on your interest that you always wanted to do but never got a chance to do. Visiting new places and meeting new people give you a perspective and help you explore more about yourself.
Get a Psychiatric Help When You Need It
Sometimes when stress and anxiety are not handled at the initial level they may take up the shape of clinical depression. That lowers your spirit for life, make you isolate yourself from the rest of the world, and lowers your self-esteem. Don’t ignore the signs. Ask for professional help! Consult a psychiatrist. After knowing all the issues, they will start working from the ground level and help you recover from weak mental health.
Take good care of your mental health. If someone around you is facing any mental issues, do lend a helping hand at the right time!