Telling everything to our mom, feeling like she can make everything okay by just a hug! Yup, that feeling is amazing, but now that we’ve grown up, we need to stop doing that. Maybe your mom is super cool and lets you do whatever you wish to, you still have to own up for your life and stop telling your mom a few things.
The Fun Things You Did
Never tell your mom about the fun things you did while you were in college or school. Your stories might be super funny and adventurous to you, but to your mom, those are dangerous stories. What is funny to you is a cultural shock to her! Trust me, telling your mom about your adventures will turn out to be an hour lecture for you! That is what the generation gap is all about.
Small Tiffs With Your Friends
We have been sharing everything with our parents since our childhood! When it comes to our problems, we end up sharing them with our mother, which is a very good thing. But you don’t have to tell her everything. We all have fights with our friends, and at times these small fights may seem like the end of the world! Knowing that Desi moms can be overprotective about their kids, would start disliking your friend. We may make up with our friend later on, but our mom never will!
About Your First Intimate Experience
This is a big NO! You may think that you’re a grown-up now and can tell your mom about your school/college boyfriend and your first intimate experience, well just don’t!
To them, you are still a child, do not even think about sharing these details with her. If you do it, you’re inviting drama.
Tough Times At Work
Okay, I understand that one ought to share their office shenanigans with someone. It makes us feel lighter, we are always looking for advice, and who could be better understand us than our mother?
Well, did you forget that her love for you is going to tell you to quit your job because her child is the best in the world!
Moreover, she is constantly going to worry about you, when you certainly can deal with office-hassle on your own.
Every Guy You Date
It is always good to keep your parents in the loop when you’re seeing someone. I am pretty sure that your mom loves to know things about your love life and her advice are incredible, yet you should not tell her about every guy you’re seeing. At times, we are just trying to figure out things, or maybe casually dating them. Your mom would not understand. If you tell a desi mom you are seeing someone, their mind wanders to Shaadi instantly! Don’t tell a desi mom about your significant other, unless you are 100% sure about them.
Secrets Your Siblings Told You
It was so much fun blackmailing your siblings. We all have exploited our siblings for money & other benefits by threatening them to reveal their secrets to mom. You don’t have to do that anymore! You got to stay loyal to your siblings. They are your strongest allies. Telling your mom about what your sibling is up to, you’ll hurt your mom and your sibling at the same to time.
Your Financial Stability
Your mom is always going to look at you as a child. She will always worry about your financial well-being because it is often a part of her modus operandi.
Unless your parents are still paying your bills or supporting you financially in any way, you shouldn’t tell your mom about your financial status. Good or bad, at some point, you have to be responsible for yourself and start making decisions yourself. You might feel like investing in something which is actually good but your parents think is a bad idea. Sure, they know better, but sometimes we got to learn from our mistakes, take risks and explore financial sectors your parents never did.
Every Detail About Your Mental Health
Mental Health is a very delicate topic. Anxiety, Depression & Stressed have crept into our lives slowly, and we don’t know what to do! Well, do share them with your mom because she would understand & support you for sure. But your mom is not a mental health professional, which is why you don’t have to share every detail with her. If you feel like you need help, talk to a professional, not your mom. The only thing that’s going to happen if you share every teeny-tiny detail would be making her anxious!
About Your Experiments
Experimented with your sexual preferences or maybe altering substances? Well, if you just experimented once or maybe twice and found out it is not for you, you should not tell your mom about it. It was just a silly phase which is over, and now there is no point telling your mom. Again, you’ll end up making her anxious!
P.S. If you’re addicted to something, you ought to tell her for the help you need!
We are close to our mothers and often feel the obligation to tell them everything. A mother’s love is unconditional which is why we feel telling her everything will make everything okay. That isn’t true! We being adults, need to keep a few things to ourselves and try to overcome our own obstacles. Unless things get out of hand, we don’t really have to make her worried about things. She has been taking care of us since our childhood, now it’s our turn. She never told us, about the hurdles she faced. Why? She didn’t want us to worry, not it is our turn to protect her.