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Life without any stress is impossible. In today’s world, this problem is cropping up more than it used to be. When you or your partner is stressed – the relationship may go through a tough patch and cause many other emotional damages. What are the possible causes of that stress? Maybe the work-life is loaded with sky-high targets, maybe the finances are not prosperous, maybe there is some health-related issue, etc. The cause of stress can be anything – personal or professional. Being a dutiful lover, you must know certain simple things that can relieve your partner.

Here are a few simple things to do when your partner is stressed. Apply these things and show your care for your lover which will strengthen your bond.

Identify The Signs of Stress:

You are lucky if your partner is an extrovert and shares every single thing happening in his/her life with you readily. But all are not the same. That’s why you need to understand the signs of stress. The change in regular habits is one of the prime signs of a stressful life. Your darling may be facing sleeping issues, there can be a recurring headache, or he/she may be keeping too silent – observe these things minutely to understand the situation. Once you see the changes – you can tackle things better.

Let Them Vent Out:

Sit with your partner and talk with kindness and patience. Let them vent out whatever is going inside their head and heart. Until and unless your partner releases the tension bothering him/her from within – things cannot go normal. That’s why you have to create a situation where he/she can talk without any inhibition. Play an emotional movie so that he/she connects with such a situation and then it will be easier to talk. And while your partner is talking – never ever pass your judgment. Your only job in that situation is to listen carefully and attentively (keep your phone and other distractions away).

Encourage Physical Activity:

You can do some physical activity together like going to a dance class, going for a morning walk or running, or learning sword fighting, etc. These physical activities increase the production of testosterone and that in turn reduces the stress hormone. He/she may or may not talk to you about what lead to stress but one thing is sure that your partner will be able to de-stress. Other ways of increasing testosterone are to encourage him/her to go and meet old friends, attend parties, or have sex.

Talk Calmly & Be Patient:

You have to understand the fact that something important is bothering your partner and that’s why you have to be clam while talking to him/her. You cannot lose your temper, raise your voice, or be adamant in this situation otherwise things will worsen in your relationship which you will lament later. Whatever he/she is asking – just fulfill them and when you cannot – be polite and compassionate in addressing that.

Take Your Partner To a Spa:

You cannot undermine the benefits of a spa session. The massage with aromatherapy oil, the soothing music playing behind, the floral bath, and the whole ambiance of spa relaxes people. The aches in joints, the stress clouding the mind will be erased and the heart will be filled with happiness. Even doctors suggest going for a spa session when life becomes stressful. So, book a day for your partner in the nearby spa centre and let him/her heal.

Plan A Gateway:

Traveling is always a great medicine to handle grave situations of life. The problem that your partner is facing may not be solved with a trip but surely he/she will get a great amount of positive energy to tackle the stress-causing factor. There’s plenty of amazing places in our country to choose from. Take a break from work to be with your partner and plan a gateway from mundane work life.

Give Some Space Too:

Personal space is very important in successful relationships. The simple thing to understand here is that your partner is going through a stressful time and not you – that’s why you can just help him/her from outside. Ultimately, your partner is the one who has to take the final action to come out of that situation. Therefore, give that space to your partner to think and evaluate after you are done with all the above points. Then again some people don’t like to share sorrows or challenges readily with anyone – if your partner falls in this category, then, you should respect that and give the required space.

It’s difficult for someone to deal with anxiety and it gets even more difficult when someone else has to suffer the consequences. Dating someone with anxiety can be awfully horrible. You cannot help to whom you fall for, but you can choose to fight and stick by each other. Anxiety is like the third person that wriggles in between you & your partner making it difficult for the relationship to thrive.  This person constantly sows doubt & confusion. There isn’t anyone out there training you with how to deal with the problems but with understanding anxiety in general can make you connect and love in a new way.

WHAT IS ANXIETY?

Anxiety disorders causes nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. These disorders alter how a person processes emotions and behave, also causing physical symptoms. Mild anxiety might be vague and unsettling, while severe anxiety may seriously affect day-to-day living.

Anxiety is a normal and an unpleasant part of life. One where an individual feels worried about the fears. When it comes to relationships, the anxiety is generally about the other person’s behavior & wellness. Certain questions that an anxious person might over think about are:

  1. What is he doesn’t love me as much as I love him?
  2. What if he’s lying to me? What if he’s lying to me?
  3. What if he’s hiding something from me? What if he’s hiding something from me?
  4. What if he’s cheating on me?
  5. What if he likes someone else better? What if he likes someone else better?
  6. What if my anxiety ruins our relationship? (Anxiety about Anxiety)
  7. What if we break up?
  8. What if he doesn’t text me back?
  9. What if I’m always the first one to reach out?
  10. What if he leaves me?

A lot of you wouldn’t agree because these seems like normal questions that one might think. But trust me when we say its anxiety, this gets pretty deep and intense with each thought. Few of the individuals show extreme caring nature which to an extent is their concern but after that it’s their fear taking over.

If you’re dating someone with anxiety, these are the thoughts that runs through your partner’s brain. And they most likely spend time worrying and ruminating about anything and everything that can possibly go wrong with the relationship.

ANIXETY & IT’S CONSEQUENCES

ANIXETY & IT’S CONSEQUENCES
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You might get stressed & agitated with the constant nagging, doubts and confusion but it’s much more than that for that one person. Anxiety is real mental health issue and nothing made up. It is normal, everyone has it but it’s an issue when it’s severe. One cannot imagine about how anxiety can be debilitating illness for one to function a normal life. Situations can make them experience fight or flight reactions and stress about their partner cheating and leaving. An individual suffering with anxiety disorder can over think about the pettiest of things and consequences that can be life threatening. Anxiety doesn’t have a fix cure to it. One’s who have it wish they didn’t have it. They oftentimes feel like a burden on people that they are connected with. There are anxiety-motivated behavior that people experience:

  1. Anger and irritability
  2. Being Controlling
  3. No focus and being distracted
  4. Avoidant or passive aggressive behavior
  5. Perfectionism

5 Tips That Can Help You Deal with Your Partner’s Anxiety

  1. Trying Couple Therapy with Your Partner
Trying Couple Therapy with Your Partner
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When you truly care for someone and you want to encourage them to battle with their stress, trying couples therapy can be a huge help. You can gently guide your partner to see a therapist for it doesn’t harm anyone. The therapist can work on their anxiety as there might be reasons from the relationship as well. Therapy not necessarily has to be for your partner. Couples therapy offers you tasks and issues that you both work on together, making you understand the condition with your partner and for them it makes them stress a little less.

  1. Creating a balance
Creating a balance
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We often go back and forth assessing over what needs our attention the most; our partner’s attention, ourselves, or the need of the relationship. It’s fulfilling when we fill these needs respectively and accordingly. But when our partner is suffering from something that isn’t going away, we don’t have to ignore our own needs because then with time it gets greater. Balancing the needs accordingly is what is required. You need to work on your own needs that require immediate attention and then your partners. It’s rightly said, set your priorities right! (Not in a negative way)

  1. Be supportive
Be supportive
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With that constant fear of losing you, comes the immense need of affirmation that you’ll be there or you’re there. Showing that you care and supporting your partner with the suffering can not only make a difference to them but on the relationship. All they need is for you to be around them. With today’s technology, you can still be around even when you’re not.

  1. Stay Positive!
Stay Positive!
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Focusing on the positive parts of the relationship can be the biggest attributes of the relationship. Doesn’t matter how your partner is feeling, you don’t have to focus solely on the suffering. That is the time when you need to remind yourself the many reasons why you care for them in the first place.

  1. TALK!
TALK
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There’s nothing that a conversation cannot resolve. Talking to them about their fears can make them feel that they’re heard. There’s someone to listen, there’s someone to hold on to. Talking is the first and the foremost way of taking the fears out the mind. And in fact it might make it easy for you to understand what you’re partner’s going through. There are chances that the conversation may not go well but that is when you need to focus on the words and not the gestures & actions. Communication is the key to any relationship. For you, you might be busy but for them, they feel disconnected!

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Anxiety doesn’t have to put your relationship in jeopardy. By using the right coping strategies, you can have a healthy relationship and stop anxiety from causing too much stress.

Relationships are complex. And that’s the truth about them. No matter how loving, caring or supportive your partner is, conflicts are an unavoidable part of every relationship. We all are born with a natural need for love and attention, which when not met trigger negative emotions of anger and sorrow. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship or a perfect partner. Yes, even those always smiling couples holding hands together that you see on Facebook go through their fair share of relationship turbulence. Because realistically it is never possible to meet all the needs of your partner. But how you handle your relationship issues says a lot about how long it is going to survive.

You should pick a partner who is ready to work with you towards building a strong and long relationship. Below given are some of the qualities to look for in a life partner that will ensure the survival of your relationship during tough times.

Humor Goes a Long Way

Humor Goes a Long Way

There isn’t anything better than having a partner who can make you smile. Every relationship goes through difficulties and bummers in life. So it’s important to have someone who can hug you and say “All is well.”

Supports Your Decisions & Passions
Supports Your Decisions & Passions
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One important quality that you surely needs to have in your partner- Supportive. Whether you have to take an important life decision, accept a job offer or start a new endeavor, your partner should always stand by your side. And encourage you to go ahead and realize your dreams.

Matches Your Level of Craziness
Matches Your Level of Craziness
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Incompatibility is one of the major causes of relationship breakage. Because it is something that has to be in a relationship and you can’t really work on it. So, make sure your partner has similar interests or likes to make your relationship survive longer.

Loves You for Who You Are
Loves You for Who You Are
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Always go for a partner who accepts all your flaws and loves your natural being. If you need to change any of your qualities because your partner is not comfortable with them that may create a problem later. You shouldn’t feel restricted or suppressed in a relationship and should be free to be your true-self.

Values Your Opinions
Values Your Opinions
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We all have opinions. That sometimes may not go down well with our partners. But that doesn’t mean your partner makes a fuss about it. He should be mature enough to respect your thoughts. This quality goes a long way in enriching your relationship.

Loyalty Is Must
Loyalty Is Must
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Fidelity is the key! You cannot expect a relationship of doubts and mistrust to survive longer. If your partner is not loyal, you will keep doubting his actions that will eventually poison your relationship. So make sure your partner is loyal and do not hide things from you.

Willing To Compromise
Willing To Compromise
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Every relationship is built on a strong foundation of compromise. There will be several times when both you and your partner may disagree on something. At that time, both of you need to act mature and be open-minded to each other’s needs and wants.

Brings Out the Best in You
Brings Out the Best in You
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People who love and appreciate you truly always encourage you to follow your passions and bring out the best in you. That’s the kind of positivity you need in your partner and life. Be with someone who helps you shine by overcoming the clouds of darkness.

Able To Communicate
Able To Communicate
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Communication in a relationship is a must. Because minus this there will be no exchange of thoughts or views. You won’t be able to understand the needs of your partner or what is going on in his mind that will eventually suffocate your relationship. Having a partner who can communicate well will make you comfortable and allow to discuss issues that are important for the organic growth of your relationship.

Gives You Space
Gives You Space
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Even being in a mushy and romantic relationship you need space to do things of your own that gives you a sense of satisfaction. Which is always a good thing as it gives you room to explore more and grow. And your partner must be supportive of it. He should not be clingy all the time and give you enough space to explore your interests

Do look out for these qualities in your life partner!

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