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Feeling like there are butterflies fluttering in your stomach? You most probably are in love! Being in love & feeling lust for someone are two completely different things, but the “signs from the universe” come naturally the same! In this blog, you’ll get to relate to the occurrence of feelings when you’re falling in love, or majorly crushing on someone. Having said that, I’d also like to add that every individual feels different, well obviously. Considering that fact, not everyone would agree to these but hands down, love can make us go crazy. Let’s figure this out…

All Things KJo

All Things KJo
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Apparently according to Karan Johar from Indian Cinema love feels incredibly beautiful. You might hear violins in the background when you see ‘Your’ person talking (That’s one sign of hallucination and not love). A satin-silky cloth will fly all over your face making you feel the presence of that person so magical (Magical like a unicorn? Who are you falling in love with, human right?) Love does feel easy, right and natural but it’s not love until after all the petty arguments, and those silly fights you want to still be there with that person. I’d suggest you look over those signs that are similar to Bollywood. Once you feel the “want” for that person after hardships? That’s LOVE!

You’re In A Romantic Sit-com

You’re In A Romantic Sit-com
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Initially, when we’re connecting with that person we tend to stay connected all the damn time. Over the phone, thanks to the evolution of technology for video calls, texting, DM’ing over Instagram, sending snaps on Snapchat for streaks, sharing memes, all these nuances of love makes you sleepless and lose your appetite and happy at heart. To be honest, love doesn’t have to feel that way. Staying connected and dedicated is good. Communication is helpful. What’s the point if love can distract you from your own good? I believe love brings out the best in people. Losing sleep can make you insomniac, losing appetite can make you weak, and what if the right person stays connected with you and you two actually focus on the future while you enjoy the present? Romantic but meaningful. Love doesn’t have to be crazy enough to make you go crazy. Make the most of it while you fall for each other. Just when you feel the need to make the other person feel good about themselves in order to nurture and flourish, you’re in love!

Why Don’t You Be You & I’ll Be Me

(Heading reference- Let it go by James Bay)

Why Don't You Be You & I'll Be Me
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Beauty lies within. And in the eyes of the beholder. Let the other person look at how beautiful your heart is. The most beautiful & happiest part of being in love is when you can be yourself. How about your woman dresses up just how she likes it, lets her hair down, enjoys the music like she’s in a music video, dances like nobody’s watching not even you, blurts out anything that strikes her head? Similarly, how about your man being crazy about his favorite sports, wants to have his friends over his place with a crate of beer, leaves the wet towel on the floor, and doesn’t stay organized & tidy? All these silly things that make you, you, and if a person can love them about you is definitely love! Let them be comfortable around you and if they are, that’s a clear sign of love.

Little Things Aren’t Little

Little Things Aren’t Little
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The urge to share those little things that make us happy is real. Having someone to share your happiness is a blessing. It makes things so much better. Rightly said, every good thing gets better when you’re in love. Things that make us smile gets better and furthermore special when you share the joy. Sorrows feel like a burden. It seems little when we want to share every little thing because when you’re in love little things aren’t little. They matter and how. When you have someone to share your sorrows, doubts, and pain, the shoulder feels lighter. It’s crazy how a person can make every little thing better when in love. As stated before these things could be anything that brings your happiness and something that causes pain, this one person by your side subdues the pain and elevates your happiness in a magical way. Going shopping, running errands together, working together, or even doing the daily chores with him/her- all these little moments suddenly becomes romantic and makes you happy, you’re in love.

Here you have the universal signs that you’re in love. Go ahead and confess your love that you feel and make it even better because sharing makes it magically extra happy.

Self-Relationship – the relationship with your own self is inarguably the most important relationship in your life. No other relationship is as special as this one. Be it your parents, siblings, best buddies, love interest, spouse, boss, colleagues – your all other relationships would be based on how you treat yourself. Quite early in development, your relationships with others shape your relationship with yourselves. There are inherent tendencies about the relationship with the self as well. As you grow up, the way you were and are treated by others, and the way those others deal with themselves, serve as important factors influencing how you address yourselves as adults.

With years, you meet various people and many people change your lives in different ways. All these things affect your personality. With heartaches or changes in life, many of you start to neglect the self and build a wall around you. Sometimes, it is hard to climb that wall even for yourself. Sometimes, you also cannot identify yourself. Clearing a communication with the self is very important to enjoy your stay on this planet.

The more balanced the relationship you have with yourself, the more productive you would be to yourself, to family, to society, and to the nation.

Here are some ways to improve your relationship with yourself.

Sketch Some “Self-Love” Habits
Sketch Some “Self-Love” Habits
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It is always better than “self-pity” and crying around saying “nobody loves me”. Sketch some nice habits like going on a long drive with yourself, walking alone on a weekend, thanking yourself for cleaning the kitchen or making the bed, spending time and asking your heart how it is feeling on a daily basis, saying positive words loudly, etc. By developing these habits, you would see a stark change in your attitude towards yourself & others and this would change your life forever!

Learn To Forgive
Learn To Forgive
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It is sometimes hard to forget certain incidents – true. But holding on to someone and not forgiving that one person would lead to self-torture. You might question that “why would I forgive that person who brought trauma or who did everything wrong to me?” Well, the deal is if you keep on hating that person and cultivate an unforgivable attitude, then that would block certain positive energies coming your way. By forgiving, you bring peace to your mind, heart, and soul. This peace then helps you reach better heights in honing the self. Remember, the more refined you are from within, the easier you are able to talk to yourself.

Walking Barefoot
Walking Barefoot
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You know walking bare feet on the earth, over the grasses drenched with dew drops, feeling the soggy soil beneath your feet – these things connect you beautifully to Mother Nature. This activity actually counterbalances your energy and allows you to release any negative energy directly into the earth. Therefore, as a result, you will feel lighter, happier, and calmer than before. Make it a practice to do this on a daily basis.

Nurture The Habit of Writing
Nurture The Habit of Writing
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Writing here doesn’t mean that you have to be a Tagore or Gulzar. It simplistically means writing down all those feelings crossing your mind. It can be good or bad but once you have written about a certain situation, incidence, or person on the pages of your diary – you would feel a lot lighter. You must read what you have written and try to understand the written words are the exact mirror image of your thoughts or botheration or not. If not, then bring more clarity to your writing and see how beautifully you connect not only with yourself but also with others.

Meditation
Meditation
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Have you ever thought why Sadhus and Sants (Saints/Holy Men/Priests/Spiritual Leaders) are so calm? You would never see a fold on their foreheads and their system doesn’t know how to frown at all. They always have a pleasing smile on their faces and the fact that “they are at peace” reflects on their behavior. Meditation is the key to achieve some peace if not peace up to their level. Meditation is simply “doing nothing” and allowing your thoughts to flow freely keeping your eyes shut and mind open. Fix a time to practice meditation and with time you would see a positive change in yourself.

Live Real World & Leave Virtual World
Live Real World & Leave Virtual World
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The craze of social media is soaring higher day by day. It is nearly impossible to stop this craze and with time this craze would just enhance. Taking a day or half day off this virtual world and living life doing all the normal work would give you some relief. The more you are on social media, the more you are susceptible to “negative thoughts” lie jealousy! Most of the people fake their joy and happiness in this virtual world and you should not buy it because real happiness lies in the real world.

“Once I called my friend, and before I could say hello, she told me that the phone is on the loudspeaker and her mom is sitting next to her! We all laughed after 5 years!”

There are many moments when our parents start talking to us and, the only thing in our mind is “Oh dear god! Please kill me now!”

Don’t get me wrong. It is one of those moments when our parents start an innocent conversation, but it is super awkward for us. They might not understand why but it is probably because we can’t tell them the truth or lie to them. We just don’t know what to say? Like when your parents ask:

“Beta Geeta Aunty says she saw you with Anjali. Is she your girlfriend?”

“Beta, I was washing your clothes and found a condom in your pants. Is it yours? Why do you have it?”

“Beta Yeh Tinder kya hota hai?”

“Do you smoke? Do you have a boyfriend?”

And then they go on with “Arey beta hai toh bata do. We wouldn’t say anything. We are your friends!” Like why? Then moments when they’re trying to educate you about sex. You can’t even say “I KNOW EVERYTHING! I AIN’T JON SNOW!”

It is moments like these when I wish I had Harry Potter’s Invisibility Cloak.

Here are a few ways you can escape these awkward conversations with your parents:

  • Pretend You Got A Phone Call
Pretend You Got A Phone Call
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Now, this seems easy but really isn’t because you need to be really sneaky. At times your parents would just sit there, waiting for you to finish the phone call. You got to be really sneaky and careful. Take the phone call, and pretend like it is really important so you could slowly leave even if they won’t!

  • Crack a Joke
Crack a Joke
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So, when you notice the conversation is getting awkward and making either of you uncomfortable. Take charge and lighten up the conversation with humour. Like Chandler uses humour as a defense mechanism.

  • Nod Your Head
Nod Your Head
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Seems easy, right? Just don’t sit there nodding your head like Noddy! Understand what they’re saying. Comprehend it and know which ways to nod your head. If the conversation is awkward, do not make it worse by saying something. Pretend that you understand and agree with everything. It is not like you have to do as they say right on the spot!

  • Do Not Shout
Do Not Shout
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No matter what happens, do not shout. We often make the mistake of letting our parents know that we are irritated or embarrassed. Do not let them smell your fear. This will have serious repercussions. Firstly, they’ll know that something is up. And secondly, they will make you talk! They would never let the topic rest.

  • Shift Their Attention to Your Siblings
Shift Their Attention to Your Siblings
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So, if you have a sibling, this one will be a piece of cake for you. Shift their questions to your siblings. This is certainly not a very nice thing to do but, you got no option. You got to save yourself.

  • Tell Them Something You Achieved
Tell Them Something You Achieved
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If you’ve had a recent achievement like a promotion, aced the test or anything which will make them slightly happy with you. Shoot the news at them! There wouldn’t be a better time to do it. They will instantly forget about the awkward topic.

  • Stall The Conversation
Stall The Conversation
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Stalling isn’t a really good thing but sometimes when you got no other option, you got to do it. Do not refuse to talk about the topic, politely let them know that you want to talk about it but can’t right now.

Use something like “As much as I would love to talk about it, I got this paper due tomorrow. We can talk about it after I am done with my paper if that is okay with you.”

  • Throw in a Compliment
Throw in a Compliment
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Flattery is a way out of a lot of things & situations! And who doesn’t likes to be praised? As soon as the conversation starts to get awkward try and throw a compliment at your parents. Make sure you slip it in really carefully. Don’t make it too obvious otherwise, they’ll know what you’re doing!

You can’t avoid awkward situations & conversations with your parents, but you can try escaping them. Go ahead and try them out cheetahs! But be careful because they gave birth to you and “Baap toh baap hota hai!”

So finally the day has arrived when you get to meet your girlfriend’s parents. You must be stressed, scared, nervous, and confused all at once. After all, this one meeting is going to decide the fate of your relationship. And you have no other option than to impress her parents in this first meeting.

First of all, take a deep breath and relax! If you both have come together so far and decided to take your relationship to the next step, then half of the battle is already won. And the other half can be easily won with a little bit of practice, efforts, and confidence.

Here, we are not trying to tell you the things you must try to impress your girl’s parents. You must probably know that. We are going to put the light on factors that guys generally ignore and get all wrong when meeting their girlfriend’s parents.

Don’t Be Late

Don’t Be Late
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First and foremost rule- always be on time. Trust us, apologizing for being late when everyone is waiting for you eagerly is not the kind of the first impression you would want to have. Consider the distance and traffic conditions, and try to leave a little early to make it on time.

Don’t Dress Messy

Don’t Dress Messy
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Dress to impress! Button down shirt and wear polished shoes if you plan on going formal. Remember, the wrinkled shirt is a big no-no. If you want to go casual, make it look smart and avoid loose clothes. Because Ranveer Singh’s dressing style may look cool on screen but not when you are trying to impress your girlfriend’s parents.

Avoid Engaging On the Phone   

Avoid Engaging On the Phone   
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We all know how obsessed millennials are with their cell phones and social networking. When meeting your girlfriend’s parents avoid engaging in the phone, even if it is for work. As that may send the wrong signal of your lack of interest in the conversation. And there is no harm in breaking the relationship with your phone for a few hours for the sake of your sweetheart.

Don’t Over Praise     

Don’t Over Praise     
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There is a fine line difference between trying to impress and going overboard while doing so. Avoid the extra or unusual flattery during the conversation and just be yourself. Stop worrying about being polite and just be who you are in front of your girl’s parents.

Don’t Be A Know It All

Don’t Be A Know It All
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You might know your girlfriend well, but not better than her parents who birthed her. From her childhood habits to her favorite meal – they have all the information within the tips of fingers. So take a chill pill and don’t try to put a demonstration of all the wonderful facts you know about their daughter.

Don’t Be Touchy

Don’t Be Touchy
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We understand if you and your girlfriend are the lovebirds who can’t keep hands off each other. But avoid doing it in front of her parents. Being affectionate will do but PDA should be avoided. Holding hands and a little hugging will work but for God’s sake spare her parents the horror by engaging in a passionate kissing act in front of them.

Avoid Discussing Politics

Avoid Discussing Politics
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Kindly avoid discussing serious political issues with her parents in the first meeting. Everyone has their own political views, which you may or may not agree with. Don’t go on bragging your political beliefs and showing how your preferred candidate is the best. There are chances of this conversation going out of your hands and ruining your chances to impress them.

Don’t Boast Of Your Achievements

Don’t Boast Of Your Achievements
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You must be the most reliable employee of your team at the workplace or genius in your friend’s group. But it is completely inappropriate to boast of your accomplishments in front of your girlfriend’s parents. They are a lot older and wiser and if you have the potential, they’ll be able to gauge it themselves and appreciate that in you.

Do Not Lie

Do Not Lie
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Lying in front of your girl’s parents is never a good choice if you are serious enough to meet them again. Don’t just mention golfing and skiing as your hobbies to impress her father, if you don’t even know the basics of these sports. Because if he asks you to accompany him on his golf sessions, your truth will be very much out in the world and that wouldn’t do any good to you.

Don’t Drink Too Much

Don’t Drink Too Much
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If her parents are generous enough to offer a drink, then be gentleman enough to not get drunk. Just the slip of the tongue can bring out a lot of inappropriate information, which you would never want to share and they would never want to know. So, take a few sips to de-stress and be the best version of you in front of them.

P.S. – Avoid these silly yet important mistakes to increase your chances of making a good first impression on her parents. And you never know you may get invited to the next dinner very soon.

Like any other millennial, Riya and Kabir left home after studies for their jobs in the city. Being a young, modern couple, they never actually shied away from accepting their relationship in front of anyone. In fact, they were popularly known as the ‘It Couple’ of the college. Ranging from compatibility, understanding, passion to loyalty their relationship had everything that anyone could ask for. That’s why moving into a live-in relationship was the only next feasible step they took when they shifted to Bangalore from Chandigarh.

It was all hunky dory in the beginning with love overflowing in their hearts for each other. From cooking together to sharing household chores, they enjoyed every bit of it. They used to pamper each other with little surprises every now and then. Be it the unconditional emotional support or physical intimacy, nothing was less than what you call perfect in their case. Saying that they were at the peak of their relationship would do justice to the magic they both were experiencing in their new live-in phase.

How Live-in Relationship Helps Riya & Kabir (Pros of a Live-In Relationship)

A live-in relationship not just keeps Riya & Kabir physically close, but also assure them the unrestricted emotional care of each other. They both get fair chances and enough time to know more about each other such as each other’s qualities and habits. That enhances the level of love and intimacy between them. With a deeper level of understanding, both Riya & Kabir give enough space and respect to each other. That increases the factor of both security and freedom in their relationship.

Pros Of Live in
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They share the financial burden which leaves both of them with enough savings to follow their passions. Both of them are committed to each other. But there is no pressure or responsibilities like people have in the marriage that burden their relationship. Being in the live-in relationship offers Riya & Kabir the opportunity to test their commitment towards the long-term relationship without the pressure of making it work anyhow. With physical proximity, no financial dependence on each other and enough space, it is easier for them to live peaceful lives with fewer conflicts.

The Struggles Riya & Kabir Face in Their Live-in Relationship (Cons of a Live-In Relationship)

Being in India where live-in relationships are not accepted openly and considered a taboo, Kabir & Riya faced severe challenges while finding a decent accommodation. Boy, talk about the glances they received from a number of landlords. On being told that both of them are planning to live together without being married. They still get unfriendly glances, face judgmental eyes and asked uncomfortable questions. By everyone ranging from their landlords, neighbors and sometimes colleagues as well. The small fights or disagreements between Kabir & Riya increases the probability of either of the partner walking out of the relationship. That gives birth to the factor of uncertainty in their live-in relationship.

Cons of live-in
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In the worst case scenario, they fear the trust issues and emotional setback after the break-up that they will end up having for the rest of their lives. Especially for Riya who being a woman is more emotional. She sometimes highly fear the ill after-effects in case of their separation. Though being together helping Riya & Kabir know each other better but the comfortable setup may end up delaying marriage for them. Or they fear that having discovered so much about each other will lessen the spark in their relationship.

Both Riya & Kabir understand that relationships are quite twisted and complex to understand. Therefore, they are letting things happen at their own pace. They both are trying hard to strike a balance in their live-in relationship by enjoying each other’s company. Never do they stop surprising each other that keeps the spark alive in their relationship. And make it strong enough to take things to the next level when time and their hearts allow.

“Love Is When You Find A New Address In Someone’s Heart & Make That Your Comfortable Home For Forever”.

One cannot undermine the role of love in life. Love is the only thing we survive for. Love is the driving force behind everyone. Everyone loves the feeling of being in love. It is the most beautiful feeling to return to a special person every day after work. But ever wondered why do people fall in love? Apart from your physical appearance, your financial status, family prestige, and your luminous career, there is a certain psychological aspect to love. The common human psychology is to be around people who are alike in some way. People also tend to be around those who give a feeling of safety, who are happy and welcoming, and who are problem-solvers. In short, those people who inspire others to push their limits and become a better person are always preferred as lovers.

You may own some wonderful qualities which make your partner proud of loving you. There are actually no convenient all-inclusive explanation or any proven formula for why people fall in love. But, some common psychological reasons can be cited below.

  1. The Similarity of Choices
The Similarity of Choices
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It is one of the most natural reasons to fall in love with someone. Each and every one has a set of choices, likes, and dislikes. So, when these likes and dislikes match with someone in the vicinity, we very easily become comfortable with that person. The similar likes may lead to watch a sports tournament, go for a movie night, set out to explore a variety of food in the city, etc. It is very normal to like and go on loving someone with whom you share a similarity of choices. Also when it comes to the ideologies in life or the value system – similarity is an important factor to fall in love.

  1. Playing Hard to Get
Playing Hard to Get
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When someone is casually approaching you, and if you say a “YES” instantly, that might kill the interest. On the other hand, if you are “playing hard to get” – that is what makes the other person chase you and eventually fall in love with you in a crazy way. But this may not apply to some people who love to live a simple life and for whom YES and NO means plain Yes and No.

  1. Being Happy & Cheerful
Being Happy & Cheerful
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Nobody wants to be around mundane, irritating, and unhappy people. The happy, cheerful, and smiling people are popular because they spread positivity among people around them. This is thus one of the prime reasons behind people falling in love. Everyone wants to return home to a person who would lift up their spirits with a happy and cheerful smile and a positive conversation. So, it can be your happy and cheerful vibe that might lead people to fall in love with you.

  1. The similarity with Ex
The similarity with Ex
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Different people have different ways of handling their past relationships. But it is a common phenomenon to fall in love with someone who shares a similarity with an “EX”. The similarity can be in the appearance, clothes, choice of perfume, hairstyle, the color of eyes, fondness for a type of food, etc. There are also people who wouldn’t think twice before running from the vicinity of someone who shares some kind of similarity with an “EX”. But for some this “similarity with Ex” can be a reason of beginning a new chapter in life.

  1. Attention
Attention
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If you are attentive towards what the other person is saying, there are large chances of the other one finding you the most suitable one to fall in love. Listening to all the big and small talks and participating in all the topics he/she brings on the table – helps one to depend on you. With your attentive nature, the other person feels comfortable and safe in your company.

  1. If You Own A Pet
If You Own A Pet
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Well, that might sound a little bit weird. But a research says that people find pet-owners more caring, loving, and reliable when it comes to commitments. The research was done on women in Israel who found men with dogs more suitable as lifelong partners. Maybe people with pets are happier, relaxed, and more approachable than the rest.

  1. Kind Attitude & Liberal Mind
Kind Attitude & Liberal Mind
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For any love relationship to sail forward, it is very important to own a liberal mind and a kind heart. A kind attitude towards anyone who is in need or underprivileged is praiseworthy. People always feel guarded and relaxed in the company of such kind hearts. Owning a liberal mind that permits people to be different and be respectful towards the difference is the fine quality one looks in a love-partner. If you have these two qualities – you must be having many lovers!

  1. A Great Sense of Humor
A Great Sense of Humor
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Humor is very important to make someone feel happy and alive. Maybe you own a great sense of humor which is a source of strength after someone’s bad day. They say that a good laugh and good sleep are two medicines for every disease in the world. A good laugh often leads to a sound sleep later. People forget their tensions and worries while they are with someone who cracks a joke every moment. And again this quality is also essential for a long-term relationship.

Said truly by David DeAngelo, “Attraction is not a choice.” You have no control whatsoever to whom you get attracted to but there are always reasons. And the solid ones that make you fall for the opposite sex. It’s no secret that younger women fall for older men all the time. We have several examples in front of us such as the iconic Bollywood couples Saif & Kareena & Alia & Ranbir. The women out there seek older men to have a stable and long-term relationship. Popularly known as the May-December Romance in the western world as the month of May represents springtime when a woman is her youngest at heart and December represents the start of winter when the man is past his prime.

So let’s find out further why older men are more desirable to the younger women.

They Are More Confident
They Are More Confident
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It’s a thing about older guys that they just know who they are. Gotten over their young age insecurities, they exude confidence and charm wherever they go. Their higher level of maturity is the topmost reason why younger women enjoy their company and like to date them.

They Are More Experienced
They Are More Experienced
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Time is the best teacher. With time, men get more experience in their life, work, and relationships. They learn to handle situations with more maturity and better than before. They are sure about what they want in life and aim for it with the right mindset and preparation. And the most important thing that any woman expects from man- they carry themselves very well in both personal and public surroundings.

More Established & Financially Stable
More Established & Financially Stable
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It is a common fact that women prefer men who are financially stable. And this holds true for self-sufficient, financially independent women as well. Logically, you cannot expect a guy in his 20s to have enough assets and money. When he can barely afford the minimal necessities with his salary. That’s why women go for financially-stable older men who are able to start a family and support his kids.

They Know How to Please & Handle Women
They Know How to Please & Handle Women
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Older men had gone through their fair share of short-term and unstable relationships at a young age. Which gives them more experience on how to handle a relationship and keep women happy. They become more sensitive to their partner’s needs and develop skills to please women, which younger men generally lack.

Look For a Serious & Stable Relationship
Look For a Serious & Stable Relationship
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They say the 20s are for experiments and that’s why you see young guys moving in and out of relationships in a jiffy. But older men, they seek more serious and stable relationships. They are not afraid of commitment and ready to get into a long-term relationship with the right person.

They Know How to Cook
They Know How to Cook
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A mature, confident, and stable man who can cook. Listening, all you ladies out there! Having a partner who can cook and is really good at it is the dream of every woman. And by cooking we don’t mean boiling potatoes or making scrambled eggs. We are talking about real food like chicken, lasagna, and things like that. Where young men rely on their mothers to cook for them, older men can really surprise you with a three-course meal for a candlelight dinner. Well, who would you choose? Don’t tell us. Decide for yourself.

They Have Better Communication Skills
They Have Better Communication Skills
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Communication is the soul of every relationship! With age, men excel the art of listening and expressing, which is rarely seen in young men. You can actually expect to have a meaningful conversation with the older men about anything and everything. They have a very sharp perspective about everything that attracts women towards them.

Excel In Physical Intimacy
Excel In Physical Intimacy
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Apart from excelling in bed, older men know what they are doing and they do it well. Mark these words. It’s not just their own satisfaction that matters during physical intimacy. They try equally hard to please their partner and surprise them with their exciting moves from time to time.

They Are Chivalrous
They Are Chivalrous
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Every woman expects her man to open doors for her and pull the chair in a restaurant. But chivalry is not just limited to that. It is a fine art that older men cultivate over the years and show towards women as and when required. And not to mention the gesture of chivalry makes the women feel significant.

They Never Try To Change a Woman
They Never Try To Change a Woman
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What could be better than having a man in your life who accepts you for who you are? An experienced older man never tries to customize a woman as per his convenience. Rather look for a woman who compliments him. The older men are less controlling, less complex, and are not intimidated by the smart and strong-willed women.

An older man doesn’t mind going an extra mile to make his woman happy and satisfied. If dating an older man, consider yourself in for an amazing relationship experience. From selfless love, care and respect to freedom, good laugh, and stability, you will get everything in a relationship with an older man.

Relationships are not like living in a rainbow land where everything goes as planned. Relationships are about getting through every situation of life together without giving up on each other. Life is too short to stay stuck in a toxic relationship. So, if you feel you are in one, you can either work upon improving it or move on. There is no point sitting around and resisting! Take charge of your own happiness.

Was your relationship all good in the beginning but it’s simply stressful now? If your being with your partner gives you stress and you can’t be yourself around them, you are probably in a toxic relationship.

What is a Toxic Relationship?

A relationship is supposed to make you feel happy and relaxed. If it does not, then you don’t have to be with that person. A toxic relationship is the one which makes you feel stressful, dumb, contaminates your self-esteem, and fills your heart with remorse and pain. A toxic relationship is the one where you feel emotionally drained and the constant fear of judgment creeps in when you are with them. It is very necessary to identify the signs of a toxic relationship because it can damage you in more ways than you think! Here are 10 signs of a toxic relationship:

1) Jealous in Every Sense
Jealous in Every Sense
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Many times we ignore the signs of toxicity thinking it is pretty normal. Well, Jealousy is one of those signs. Being jealous in a relationship is normal, isn’t it? Some might even find it cute! But, there is a very thin line between jealousy and toxicity. If they are jealous of people who flirt with you, it is natural. But if they are jealous of every person who talks to you nicely and with the slightest of threat, they ask you to stop talking to them that is toxic! You’re a human too and can’t stop living your life for them. Your partner needs to trust you and your love.

2) Criticism & Comparison
Criticism & Comparison
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You are never too good for them! All you’re ever going to hear is “Why don’t you dress up like her?” “Her boyfriend made this grand gesture for her, why don’t you ever do it?” or “You need to lose some weight, you look awful!”

Well if they criticize and compare you to other people then, they clearly don’t see you for who you are. They have an ideal image of you and want you to fit into that. This ain’t healthy!

3) Communication is a Big Deal
Communication is a Big Deal
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Communication is the building block of a relationship. Being in a relationship with someone means that you can talk to them about anything and everything fearlessly. Isn’t that’s what significant other is supposed to do? Understand you? Well, if you can not talk to them without thinking or without the fear of being judged then you are definitely in a toxic relationship.

4) They Don’t Encourage You To Grow
They Don’t Encourage You To Grow
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You grow a little every day. While you grow, you change in many ways. Someone who truly loves you will support you through those changes and hurdles of life, while your insecure partner will try to hold you back and become a hurdle in your personal growth. They will be jealous of your achievements, will not support your interest and always make you feel like you do not matter. They may often mock you & make fun of you!

5) Passive Aggressive Behavior
Passive Aggressive Behavior
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This is the most commonly approved behaviour in relationships. Fighting isn’t a good thing but staying silent and dropping hints is even worse. If something is bothering you, talk to them about it than avoiding the conversation. This harms relationships the most. Your partner may feel unwanted. Ignorance isn’t bliss and tantrums aren’t fun.

6) Constant Fear of Break Up
Constant Fear of Break Up
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Do you think it is worth being in a relationship where you constantly fear losing your partner? Being worried about losing the other person is not the sign of a healthy relationship. You may fear because they constantly threaten to break up with you, flirt with other people a lot or maybe you feel really unwanted. Either way, it is going to disturb your peace of mind and nothing is worth it!

7) Non-Stop Narcissism
Non-Stop Narcissism
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People often masquerade narcissism as self-love. If your partner is always talking about themselves and hardly care about what’s happening with you, it ain’t a healthy relationship. Self-Love is a good thing. If you don’t love yourself, you can not expect someone else to love you. But, when you commit to the other person, you need to love them just as much as you love yourself because your significant other matters!

8) Constant Need of Being Perfect
Constant Need of Being Perfect
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Everyone is mortified on their first date. We try to be perfect and try our best not to do or say anything stupid. It is okay! The problem is when you always try to be perfect around them. You hide your flaws all the time when you are around them. Have a constant fear of being judged and this makes you uncomfortable in being yourself around them. You need to be with someone who makes you feel comfortable so you can be yourself, with all the flaws! You need to let your guard down.

9) Competition & Scorecard
Competition & Scorecard
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In a healthy relationship, your partner is going to listen to your problems and forgive & forget your mistakes. In a toxic relationship whenever you share your problems or achievements, your partner is going to compare it to their own. If you say “You had a really bad day at work”, instead of sympathizing or asking what happened they will start to make you feel that their day was worse. No matter what you say, they are just going to compete with you. Your partner may even have a scorecard of where they compare ‘who made more mistakes?’

You need to understand that it is a relationship and not an academic project!

10) Privacy? What Privacy?
Privacy? What Privacy?
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Even when you are in a relationship, you are an individual and deserve some level of privacy. If your partner trusts you, they will respect your privacy. If you find your partner constantly checking your call logs, emails, text messages & social media inboxes then they definitely do not trust you. Everyone has a personal life and keeping a tab on your SO is a major sign of a toxic relationship. You are an adult and do not need a babysitter!

11) Restrictions
Restrictions
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People always think it is okay to tell your partner what to do and what not to do. Reality check, it is not okay! Every individual has their own life and one can’t be restricting them from doing stuff. If you find your partner controlling your every move, asking you not to talk to people, giving up on things you enjoy & controlling everything you say, welcome to a classic toxic relationship.

12) You Are Simply Not Happy
You Are Simply Not Happy
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If you don’t feel empowered and happy in a relationship then you aren’t with the right person. Your significant other is supposed to make you happy. You are supposed to become the better version of yourself with the person you love and, if you can’t then you have to find out why.

Every relationship has ups and downs. Relationships aren’t walking in the park on a sunny yet breezy day, they are about walking in the park in every season and protecting each other. Relationships aren’t all happy or all sad, balance is very important. It is very easy to land into a relationship but difficult to maintain one.

P.S. If you feel you are the toxic one in the relationship, you are not a bad person. You just belong with someone else. Let the other person go!

People often wonder what puts off a woman and makes her lose interest in a particular person. Ever wondered what makes a good guy? While physical attraction plays a great role but there’s a lot more going on in that head to pick out one guy for herself. Oftentimes, it’s the little things that make the most of the impact rather than some grand gestures. So, to go further and get that pretty woman for yourself, focus on the good to get rid of the bad.

Here are some of the deal breakers for a woman. Start making notes you boys!

Unhygienic Stud!

It doesn’t matter if you go to the gym, work-out, look good and all of that jazz but if you’re not hygienic then my boy, you’re definitely out of the game even before it starts!

Braggart!

Well, are you the one who keeps talking about yourself and your awesomeness? You really need to consider going back to school to learn what confidence and overconfidence actually mean? Stop bragging about your grand plans!

Ignorant

You DO NOT want to fall into this category. Ignoring your woman and being adamant about what to she has to do and what she needs to decide. Decide for yourself not for her. Don’t be a snob! You’re not right, not always! You can figure these ones out from a distance if you find them fighting over the “RIGHT” thing because they cannot be proven WRONG!

Baggage

Men with an awful schedule, life routine, messed up sleep timings or some weird family issues. They come with a baggage. A woman has to think real hard about how to talk to them or be with them. Generally, they aren’t worth the trouble! Move on, Darlings!

Male Chauvinist

Talking about these makes me feel eecky! They feel they’re the elite breed because they’re MEN! Well, guess what, we’re women. We’re elite but with brains (Something that you lack). If you disrespect a woman just because of the fact they’re women and all they could do is cook, give birth and die, you are, out of all, the worst one!

Wanderer
Wanderer
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It isn’t about traveling. It’s about his eyes. The lecherous eyes that wander around and gleefully check out other women. What-a-shame! Definitely a turn-off.

Womanizer
Womanizer
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We all know one or two. And they know all other women. All of them are their “Friends”.

They eye all types or women. These ones can never be satisfied with one woman.

Touchy
Touchy
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Why so clingy bro? Boys who keep touching their partners, cheeks, shoulder, thighs & try indulging in serious PDA are a big NO! There are things that are fine within the four walls. So much of touch can piss off any woman.

Chivalry
Chivalry
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Knock on the door, pull a chair out, hold the door, offer help, be gentle and kind, be polite with people in need, are some basic etiquettes that have to be taught while growing up. Women like men with manners.

Social Filter

This might get embarrassing if you’re dating one. Someone who blurts out everything that’s on his mind without giving it a second thought. These people require social filters.

Full of Himself
Full of himself
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I know I have mentioned a type before above. But it’s different here. These types are actually “FULL” of themselves. They do not care even if you’re breathing (Okay, too much!), they don’t care if you’re even present there. All they be doing is talk about themselves, think of themselves, plan things for themselves or what they like without keeping you in consideration. It’s like YOU DO NOT MATTER. And that’s annoying.

Timid

If that man isn’t a man of principles? He cannot be your man. He can never stand for a woman. You don’t need them. Period.

Compulsive Liars
Compulsive liars
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They do one thing, you question them and there comes another lie from that dirt mouth. It’s may get disturbing after a while for you to deal with all the lies that come out naturally from their teeth.

Possessive…OVER Possessive!

Being possessive is cute at the time. But being over possessive about everything that you do is annoying. “Don’t do this, don’t wear this, don’t go here, don’t talk to him” says people who don’t have a life of their own. They’re buzzkills, BIG TIME!

Horny? Ok, PLEASE!!
Horny? Ok, PLEASE!!
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Another one featuring all those men who like to get intimate in every possible situation and any given moment. No sense of time and place. And if you’re not around they look for alternatives like we all know we shouldn’t be getting indulged in. Kick these ones out right away!

Addicted to His Addictions
Addicted to his addictions
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Lastly, someone who’s addicted to drugs and substances. Alcoholics would work if it’s occasional. Smokers too. Addictions can turn out a girl or anyone for that matter. It’s hard to keep them going along.

Traits that are deal-breakers from a women’s perspectives. At the end of the day, you want the best for you. Women don’t need to compromise with something just to be there. If you’re unhappy with any of the deal breaking traits, leave and stay happy. There’s definitely something good for everyone out there.

Relationships are complex. And that’s the truth about them. No matter how loving, caring or supportive your partner is, conflicts are an unavoidable part of every relationship. We all are born with a natural need for love and attention, which when not met trigger negative emotions of anger and sorrow. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship or a perfect partner. Yes, even those always smiling couples holding hands together that you see on Facebook go through their fair share of relationship turbulence. Because realistically it is never possible to meet all the needs of your partner. But how you handle your relationship issues says a lot about how long it is going to survive.

You should pick a partner who is ready to work with you towards building a strong and long relationship. Below given are some of the qualities to look for in a life partner that will ensure the survival of your relationship during tough times.

Humor Goes a Long Way

Humor Goes a Long Way

There isn’t anything better than having a partner who can make you smile. Every relationship goes through difficulties and bummers in life. So it’s important to have someone who can hug you and say “All is well.”

Supports Your Decisions & Passions
Supports Your Decisions & Passions
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One important quality that you surely needs to have in your partner- Supportive. Whether you have to take an important life decision, accept a job offer or start a new endeavor, your partner should always stand by your side. And encourage you to go ahead and realize your dreams.

Matches Your Level of Craziness
Matches Your Level of Craziness
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Incompatibility is one of the major causes of relationship breakage. Because it is something that has to be in a relationship and you can’t really work on it. So, make sure your partner has similar interests or likes to make your relationship survive longer.

Loves You for Who You Are
Loves You for Who You Are
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Always go for a partner who accepts all your flaws and loves your natural being. If you need to change any of your qualities because your partner is not comfortable with them that may create a problem later. You shouldn’t feel restricted or suppressed in a relationship and should be free to be your true-self.

Values Your Opinions
Values Your Opinions
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We all have opinions. That sometimes may not go down well with our partners. But that doesn’t mean your partner makes a fuss about it. He should be mature enough to respect your thoughts. This quality goes a long way in enriching your relationship.

Loyalty Is Must
Loyalty Is Must
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Fidelity is the key! You cannot expect a relationship of doubts and mistrust to survive longer. If your partner is not loyal, you will keep doubting his actions that will eventually poison your relationship. So make sure your partner is loyal and do not hide things from you.

Willing To Compromise
Willing To Compromise
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Every relationship is built on a strong foundation of compromise. There will be several times when both you and your partner may disagree on something. At that time, both of you need to act mature and be open-minded to each other’s needs and wants.

Brings Out the Best in You
Brings Out the Best in You
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People who love and appreciate you truly always encourage you to follow your passions and bring out the best in you. That’s the kind of positivity you need in your partner and life. Be with someone who helps you shine by overcoming the clouds of darkness.

Able To Communicate
Able To Communicate
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Communication in a relationship is a must. Because minus this there will be no exchange of thoughts or views. You won’t be able to understand the needs of your partner or what is going on in his mind that will eventually suffocate your relationship. Having a partner who can communicate well will make you comfortable and allow to discuss issues that are important for the organic growth of your relationship.

Gives You Space
Gives You Space
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Even being in a mushy and romantic relationship you need space to do things of your own that gives you a sense of satisfaction. Which is always a good thing as it gives you room to explore more and grow. And your partner must be supportive of it. He should not be clingy all the time and give you enough space to explore your interests

Do look out for these qualities in your life partner!

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