In present times, social media is everywhere and unavoidable. For some, it is an occasional fun escape or source of entertainment while for others it has become a way of life. And if you happen to be in a relationship with a social media addict, you must know that the challenge is real. Your partner’s obsession with social media can negatively influence your romantic relationship, especially when you don’t like to spend much time in the virtual world.
Here is a compilation of the common struggles that all the people would relate to who are in a relationship with a social media addict.
Food should be clicked before eating
No matter how hungry you are or how tempting the meal looks that you’ve ordered, your social media addict partner won’t let you take a bite before clicking an insta-worthy picture of the food.
Because check-in jaroori hai
Check-in at every fancy restaurant, market or movie theatre is a must for them. Because are you even doing it if the world doesn’t know about it.
Stress of getting maximum likes & comments
The hours of thinking and analysing goes behind putting the perfect status update and keeping the check of likes and comments.
It’s hard to get their attention
It’s almost impossible to get heard at once. Because your partner is too busy keeping track of what’s happening in the world via social media. If you’re really lucky, you may get his/her attention in the second go.
Nervous breakdown when phone’s battery is about to die
Been there, seen that. Yes, the social media addicts are too close to get a nervous breakdown when their phone’s battery is about to die and they can’t find a charger.
Designated photographer at every party
Too busy clicking pictures and making videos at parties that your partner often forgets to have fun with you.
Always tagging you in embarrassing photos
Because for a social media addict, every moment, be it happy or sad has to be clicked and shared online for the world to know.
Well, raise your hands if you relate to these struggles and let us know in the comments section below.
I grew up watching Bollywood movies, which means I had the most dramatic childhood. Waiting for Shah Rukh Khan to appear on the screen and narrate his romantic dialogues. Everything Salman Khan ever said about romance was like a bible, while every romantic song featuring Rishi Kapoor took my breath away.
When Imran Hashmi stopped Sonal Chauhan’s office cab, to propose her despite her refusing him several times, 15 years old me went like “Awwwwww..” (Reference Movie: Jannat)
So, you see where the problem is? Bollywood romance is great on the reel but not in reality. Since I grew up watching them, it totally ruined my idea of romance.
Here is how:
“Taani started to Love Raj after he took off his glasses”– Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi
It is not happening in real life for sure. Firstly, if someone does not love you, they don’t. You can not pester someone to love you. Secondly, taking off your glasses won’t give you the ability to dance or be unrecognizable to your wife. I legit thought that once my braces are off, it would change my luck in relationships.
“Sanjana persistently pursuing Laxman, and ignoring Percy”– Main Hoon Na
You got to be kidding me. Bollywood has consistently shown how the college stud, who isn’t really a great guy ends up with the chic. Girl, Percy will not only be rich in the future but will treat you better. To date, I end up friend-zoning every Percy (well, subconsciously).
“Geet trusting Aditya, and then Aditya trusting her in return”– Jab We Met
As far as I remember, my parents instructed me never to trust anyone while travelling. I am still scared of strangers while travelling alone. How and why? Geet literally asked a stranger to drop her home, spent a night in a hotel with him, and in return, Aditya tells her that he is super-rich. (In the middle of nowhere, where she could have easily killed him for his money). Oh yes, he falls for her, which of course was one-sided.
“Bunny gives up his career just to stay with Naina”- Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani
While my boyfriend can not give up his sleep, this guy blew his entire dream. I can not give up my space, yet Naina did not do anything when Bunny constantly disrespected her choices. Millennials need to understand “pyar vyar sab dhoka hai padhle beta mauka hai” is true.
“You are supposed to cry on Airports, especially when you are dropping off your better half”– Literally Every Bollywood Movie Ever
Parting from your partner can be painful. The first time I dropped my long-distance boyfriend at the airport, I couldn’t cry, neither could he. I literally thought there was something wrong with us, but then you know we were supposed to meet next month. It is okay not to cry every time you part from your partner, sometimes mature adults can accept the situation and move on.
“Sameer beating the hell out of numerous people because they teased his girlfriend.”– Mujhse Shaadi Karogi
I remember when I was walking down the street with my boyfriend, and a group of guys started to stare. When I told him, he switched sides with me and asked me to keep walking. As per Bollywood logic, he should have stopped and beat the hell out of those people. In reality, 8 people were staring at me, it would have been really stupid to fight them. While in reality, fighting 8 people would have been stupid.
“Badrinath stalking Vaidehi, and she eventually falls in love with him”- Badrinath Ki Dulhania
Firstly, doesn’t he understand the meaning of no? Secondly, where is my pepper spray. Thirdly, no I am not giving up my successful career to get married. Why would anyone?
“Bumping into a stranger, falling in love, then marry someone else, and eventually marry him because your husband died”– Hum Tum
How many times will Karan and Rhea bump into each other? Fact: An annoying stranger sitting next to you in the flight is not your future husband.
“Rahul loves Aarohi, but he loves Alcohol more, so he ends up killing himself” – Aashiqui 2
I believe we all know what is wrong with that movie. If you love her, give up the damn alcohol, and if you can’t, break up with her. Why kill yourself? Moreover, have you ever seen an alcoholic make such a big sacrifice for their better half? I am sure 90% of the people would answer with a big NO.
“Dancing in the rain with your beloved is the key to romance”- Every Bollywood Movie Ever
I tried that once and ended up in bed with 102 fever. And trust me, if you think you would hear music in the background, and it would be a good idea to dance with your better half, it’s not. People around you won’t join you, instead, they would end up passing really mean comments.
So, Bollywood romance is not a real-life romance. In my cases, having similar expectations not only failed but has been a reason for friction in my relationship. But again, I would never stop watching these extremely stupid yet amazingly romantic movies.
Commitment! It usually scares the hell out of all-male species, isn’t it right men? You may love someone deeply and the thought of them being with someone else would scare you. But when the same person talks about their future with you, you’d be scared. You would tell her that you are not sure about settling down and that you are not ready to have that talk.
If you have been dating for a really long time, it’s time to ask yourself if she is the one, the one you want for your entire life and the one you’d love forever.
This is how you know is she is one for you:
You feel comfortable around her
You don’t fear to be yourself around her. You can say whatever you wish to, and you don’t fear to be yourself around her. Of course you fight over things, but you know that she would accept all your flaws.
You’d say sorry Just to make her happy
It does not matter who is right, you’ll say sorry voluntarily. You may argue with her, telling her that she is at fault but then you’ll eventually give in for that one smile. Your heart wants her!
You want her to be there
Going out with colleagues, friends, and acquaintances is fun. Even when you’re having the best time of your life, you would want her to be there with you. It’s like you would imagine scenarios of her being next to you.
You want to be a better man for her
If she makes you want to be a better person, then she is the reason why your dopamine & oxytocin hormones peek. You want her to have the best and moreover she inspired you to be a better man. That’s right, she’s got your heart racing!
No Awkward Silences
There are no awkward silences around her. You are even comfortable being silent with her, and it doesn’t matter of it is over the phone, video call or in person. Just the essence of her is comforting enough.
You think about her while taking life decisions
You might not admit it in front, but if you find yourself thinking about her before taking a life decision, then she is definitely the one. It could about changing your job, buying a house, or maybe just taking a foreign trip. You would find yourself thinking about her.
You want to help her in every way you can
You want to help her at every step of her life, and it is not because she is your girlfriend. If she is stuck somewhere in her career, you’d want to help her. If she is stuck with a family problem, you would want to help her. If she is having health issues, you would find yourself looking for solutions.
She compromises for you & You are willing to do the same for her
Everyone wants a partner who would is willing to adjust and make things work. If she is the one who makes compromises to make you happy, and you wish to do the same. She is a keeper!
She is your best friend
When you had a bad day, she makes you feel comfortable. If you have good news, you wish to tell her right away. And you know, no matter what, she would not judge you. You feel like she is your best friend like you enjoy her company.
You can imagine your future with her
While you may not be sure if and when you want to get married, but you can imagine your future with her. The thought of having her as your partner comes easy to you.
You start missing her as soon as she leaves
Looking at her picture, reading her old text messages, and thinking about what she said, all of it makes you smile. You start to miss her, as soon as she leaves, and you often crave her presence.
Falling in love is the most beautiful feeling, and if you have found someone who is worth sticking around, make sure they know it.
Valentine’s Day gifts must be playing in your mind because the love season is round the corner. Isn’t it? With each passing year, you want to surprise the love of your life and celebrate this romantic day in some unusual ways.
Since visiting a restaurant or chilling at a party is a very common thing nowadays, you can simply plan something romantic that includes only the two of you. So, here are 5 ideas to make Valentine’s Day celebrations truly special:
Stay at home and Cook favourite food together:
Good food makes everything better! Have you ever cooked together? Shop for your favourite groceries together and dive into the kitchen to make soul-satiating food together. Believe me, cooking together and then eating it will give you exactly what you want this 14th February- “quality time”.
Go for a trip or on a long drive:
Traveling as a couple and experiencing a new place together is another level of joy. According to research, traveling or going on a trip makes the relationship healthier and adventurous. So, celebrate this day of love with going out on a long drive or on a trip to see the beauty of love together & forever.
Dinner Date in your own Dining Room:
Oh! Yes, why not? You can celebrate this romantic day simply staying at home and enjoying near your dining table. Plan a dinner date night and share a romantic meal with your beloved. If you don’t want to cook, order online.
Plan Valentine’s Spa date:
Couple Spa dates are so much in fashion. Couples really find this creative, satisfying, and romantic. Just search online for various couple spa packages and enjoy your day together.
Listen to favourite music and dance:
Music plays an important role in every love story. Remember those songs that match your love story strongly. Make that playlist, listen to it and dance like no one is watching.
Love brings you closer, nothing else. This love season brings that charm back, make your sweetheart feel loved.
Being in love is a magical feeling. It feels like you are floating on a cloud. Having someone by your side makes you feel special all the time. Being smitten with the love bug fills the life with beautiful moments. But while falling in love seems the best feeling in the world, it can cause people to do stupid things as well. Read further to find out the stupid things people do in the name of love.
Celebrate monthly anniversaries
Yes, you must have friends or colleagues flooding your Facebook or Instagram timeline with their 1-month, 2-months, 6-months or 9-months relationship anniversary. Every month their celebration of the relationship is followed by a cake-cutting ceremony and exchange of gifts. Forgive them, they are just two people too much in love with each other and want to show it to the whole world out there.
Give silly nicknames
Babu, Shona, Cutie pie, Buttercup, Sweety pie so on and so forth. No, these aren’t the cute baby names. These are the silly nicknames that newfound lovers give each other. They love calling each other by these nicknames in front of friends just to show how lovely their love is.
Lot of PDA
PDA is a weapon that lovers use to drive people away from their vicinity. Just kidding!! But yes, you can often find lovers displaying their affection for each other in public places and bugging other people off. They forget the concept of time and space and start to believe that the whole world is nothing but their love nest.
Talk about their relationship all the time
If you have a friend or a colleague who just got into a relationship, then it is very obvious that they tell you about it at least 10 times a day. Magically, everything happening around reminds them of their relationship or partner somehow. And then you have to listen to every little detail of how they feel about it and blah blah blah.
Lose sleep over late-night calls
Lovers do lose a lot of sleep at night over endless phone calls. There’s isn’t anything important that they have to tell each other. They just want to stay connected with each other even if it is just over a call. Just asking and telling the same mundane things every day.
Get matching tattoos
Getting matching tattoos is another level of stupidity that lovers tend to do. Because being practical and giving it a thought what if their relationship doesn’t work out is too mainstream. They just go and get inked for a lifetime to support their love for each other.
Listen to love songs on repeat
Oh God, yes. This is the favorite thing that first-time lovers love to do. Listening to all the famous love songs on repeat. Whether they are eating, taking a shower or working on a project, you’ll always find them listening to mushy romantic songs and associating them with their love life.
Lose touch with their friends
Mesmerized by the affection and beauty of their partner, people often tend to neglect their friends after getting into a relationship. They keep finding excuses to spend time with each other and forget that there’s a world outside their love nest.
Sharing passwords of your emails or social media accounts with someone is not just technically unethical but unsafe as well. But what could you possibly tell two people who are in love and believe that everything they own or possess belongs to their partner?
Think of getting married
First-time lovers often believe that their fairy-tale has come true and they are meant to be together. So, they jump upon the idea of marriage and get their whole life planned in their heads. Marriage seems the next feasible step to them so that they can spend their entire life together.
So, these were some of the stupid things that we believe lovers often do. If you have anything to add on to the list, do let us know in the comments.
You must have always heard that a book is a man’s best friend. That’s true because reading opens many chains of thoughts in minds of people, builds confidence, broadens the horizons, and reduces stress. If you happen to be liking a reader off late and still contemplating to go ahead with this romantic relationship or not, then, you must sit down and think about it again. Why? Because readers are extremely humble persons with great understanding and patience. They are intelligent and witty people and that’s a killer combination that many people want in their lovers. It is true that readers are also the ones who enjoy solitude and can start reading a book anytime and anywhere which might make you feel unattended or unnoticed sometimes. But there is so much more that you can absorb from a reader.
Read below to know why you should date or continue dating a reader:
Readers Are Romantic People:
Oh yes, if you want dollops of romance in your life, you should definitely not let go of that boy or girl who reads a lot. Lovers of books, these readers are huge admirers of things that takes back to the old-world charms. They don’t crave for instant love but intensely and passionately romantic love. They are the ones who will drag you out on a rainy day to soak in the rain together. Readers are the ones who will sometimes surprise you with a candlelight dinner. And sometimes if you find a lovely poem in your pocket or bag – don’t be surprised. You will always get a sense of fulfillment while in a love-relationship with a reader because the romance in them never dies.
No Materialistic Demands:
They will never bother you with high-maintenance demands that will make a hole in your pocket. All they need is books to keep going apart from the essential things in life. They are practical-minded people who have a great understanding of money and expenses too. A reader will never bombard you with a materialistic or luxurious list of things and thus you can save a lot and be thankful towards him/her.
They Will Never Cling On You:
If you say that you cannot make it to the promised date or cannot spend the weekend together, they won’t complain. Because they always have their books to lean on and they always have much to read and learn. One of the many problems that makes regular couples part ways is that neediness to stay close and this is the problem you will never face while dating a reader.
Not At All Superficial:
Ok so when you are dating a reader, remember that everything he/she says has a deep meaning. They are not at all shallow or superficial people who go for show-offs. Being pretentious is just not their cup of tea. These readers know a lot and that’s why the depth of mind and heart they carry is something you just cannot find in others.
The biggest advantage of dating a reader is that they will always listen to your minutest details. They can never leave you unattended because they love to listen and know more about everything that is entwined with their lives. So, whatever you are feeling or experiencing you can always a have shoulder to lean on and talk fearlessly.
The way a reader speaks is way different than anyone else. Being voracious readers, they have a great romance with words. So, you will be astounded with the great vocabulary he/she always puts in the speech. This way you can also improve your vocabulary. You will always learn a new word and its history. Isn’t that exciting?
The best quality of a reader is that they understand you like no one else ever did. They patiently listen to all your problems, understand them deeply, and offer a nice solution. Readers read regularly and that’s why they are wiser than the rest, they think more and understand more than any regular person. It is always easy to deal with them.
Easy To Please:
Whenever there is a special occasion, you don’t need to sit and scratch your head and think about how to please him/her. You know the latest book or anything related to reading like a bookend, handmade bookmarks, or a reading lamp can please your reader lover. It is always so easy to decide to gift such a person.
Readers are creative people because they have read a lot, learned a lot, and have a great sense of understanding. Whenever you are stuck somewhere they are there with their creative brains to offer you a solution. The one-liners about worldly affairs, the captions to your photographs, or the poems about you – they always prove their creativity.
One thing is assured when you are dating a reader and that is you will never get bored of him/her. There is always so much to talk about. Rather than fighting over stupid things, arguing about your schedule, or getting angry on habits of each other, you will always end up having healthy discussions that will have a constructive effect on your personality.
So, if you are getting up, close, and personal with a reader, then, don’t leave him/her.
A friend can tell you things you don’t want to tell yourself.
Frances Ward Weller
With good friends around, life becomes an occasion that never runs out of happy moments. When the clouds of sorrow appear, friends make them go away with the light of their love. They make you smile, shine, and sail through the hardships of life. Friends are the people who accept you for who you are and stand by your side, even when the whole world turns its back on you. You can pretty much be yourselves in front of your pals without the judgment of being judged.
But what do you do when your best friend moves to another city/country and you end up becoming long-distance friends? Yes, much more painful than being in a long-distance relationship. Because one moment you two were together deciding your party dresses. And the other moment they are gone away to another place, which is not even in your time zone. Having a long-distance friendship becomes tough when you are not even able to catch up once in a while. But it’s not impossible to preserve what you had and try to stay in contact even being miles away.
Read further to know the ways to maintain a long-distance friendship.
Make Good Use of Technology
No matter whether your friend is in another country or continent, you two are always just a text away. Well, thanks to the Internet. So, use the technology to your advantage and keep surprising your dear long-distance friend with sweet text messages and random pictures from time to time. This way, the physical distance will become like a virtual barrier between you two.
Plan an Annual Meet
It might be probably tough to meet your long-distance friend frequently. But try and plan at least an annual meet. Something that you can look forward to. A day when you two can get together, talk about things happening in your life, and cherish good old memories.
Video Chat Often
Regular texting is a good option to stay in contact with a long-distance friend but it is also important to see them once in a while. And that’s what Skype and Facetime are for. A five-minute video chat every week or at least once in two weeks is enough that’ll make you feel more involved with your friend.
Remember Important Occasions
Birthdays and anniversaries become even more special in long-distance friendships. Remembering these special occasions go a long way that nurtures the friendship and keep it intact. Keep track of your friend’s birthday or anniversary and try to send a card or gift to make them feel loved and cared.
This may sound a little bit old school but nothing can replace the charm of opening the mailbox and seeing a letter from your long-distance BFF. The words in the letter will make more sense than a simple text. And it will stay with your buddy forever just like the sweet memories of your friendship.
Stay Connected Through Little Things
Pick a movie or series, watch it at the same time and keep texting each other your thoughts throughout the entire session. It’s just like having your BFF by your side that will give you the feeling of enjoying things together even when you are miles apart.
Take Trips Together
Travelling with someone allows you to know that person better and explore their personality. Explore the world with your friend one at a time. Take trips to new places. It will be like a mini-reunion where you’ll get to see each other. Amidst the long talks and long walks, you can have all the fun and adventure like you used to have earlier.
Rejuvenate your long-distance friendship and keep its charm intact with these amazing tips.
Relationships can be broadly categorized into two – one, that is formed right at birth (family and relatives) and two, that we choose ourselves. Relationships bind us with people, make us more responsible, and make us learn about patience, the joy of sacrifice and many such things. But again, some relationships can be toxic or hazardous. Instead of contributing constructively, these relationships destruct people from within. A little bit of hurting or fighting happens in every relationship and people get over them, patch up, forget and forgive each other. But that is not the character of a toxic relationship. There comes a point when “taken for granted” becomes the rule in this relationship and all that this relationship can then ignite are a pain, suffering, sadness, anger, and frustration.
Additionally, there is always an inexplicable kind of tension running in the head when you are in a toxic relationship. One cannot enjoy properly, sleep properly, or work properly, because of the presence of toxicity in life. Coming out of such a relationship seems like the only solution and one must do that. If a relationship feels like a hell hole, then, there is no expectation of beauty there – right? But once you are out of such a relationship, never forget the lessons that you have learned from that.
Here Are The Learnings That You Can Take Away From A Toxic Relationship:
Understanding Self Worth:
The relationship might have been physically or mentally or emotionally jerking which left you with a scar for life. One of the basic characters of every toxic relationship is that you are not aware of your self-worth at all. During your toxic relationship, you were at an all-time low because your partner always made you feel like a dust particle. In fact, during that relationship, you have perhaps never wanted to see things differently or understand your real worth. Now when the relationship in the graveyard, you are a new person altogether who understands the meaning of “self-worth”, “self-confidence”, or “self-esteem”.
Considering Your Happiness First:
Now, when you have started to understand self-worth, you also know that considering self-happiness is the most important goal of life. Pleasing the people around you is also good but there is also an extent to do that. The moment you cross that line – people start to neglect you or take you for granted. Therefore, you now learn to take good care of yourself and keep your happiness in front always.
Understanding the Arrival of Danger:
It’s not like initially, you never understood the arrival of red flag or danger in your relationship. You simply used to ignore them. That’s where things actually faltered – now you know that too well. Be it possessiveness or shouting at public places, or any other signs of toxicity in the mind of your partner – addressing that issue right at the first time is the best solution and no one knows it better than you now. In a certain way, you also become more intuitive in sensing the arrival of danger.
Relying More on Friends & Family:
The group of close friends and family members can always judge who would be a better person for you. Because they know you more than you think you know yourself. Perhaps your friends and family members have disapproved of this person you dated but drunken in new love, you didn’t listen to them at all. And now when you have faced a bad phase in your life for that love- you tend to rely more on the choices of your friends and family members.
You Develop Confidence:
In the case of alarming situations in life, intuitions and instincts play a major role. They tell us what next is waiting for us. After breaking up from your toxic relationship, you now are more confident about your gut feeling. You now seem more confident about every step in your life and you never ever miss the call of your instincts.
You Now Draw Boundaries:
It is very important to have boundaries in a relationship. Initially, you thought that you need to share yourself, your life, your choice, etc. with your partner. But now as that relationship didn’t live well, you now know to set your boundaries. It is not at all ok to overstep those boundaries.
There are people who have never ever stood up for themselves. Are you one of them? Then, obviously, a toxic relationship must have taught you the most important life lesson – right? That is if you don’t take up a stand for yourself – no one else will. To conclude that bad relationship, you had to stand up, push back, and go away. Now, this self-mechanism will always live with you.
These important lessons from noxious relationships will definitely make you a better version of yourself. And now that you know about the outcome of these relationships, you can also share your learnings with those who need help.
Ross Geller & Rachel Greene entered our lives 25 years ago on 22nd September 1994. The most popular TV show ever made in the world – Friends has touched our lives intensely. We all wanted a friendship bond like the six of them. Among the six friends, Monica & Chandler and Ross & Rachel became lovers later. But the love story of Ross & Rachel was crazier and dramatic as compared to the other one. Ross always had feelings for Rachel since the school days but back then she was not interested in him (blame his Afro hairdo!!!). Years later when they find their lives condensing in New York Central Perk coffee shop – they not only became best of friends but also found comfortable love in each other.
Like all love stories, their journey was also not a cakewalk. They also had to face challenges and many a time they broke up. But in the end, after covering 10 years of their adult relationship, they also realized that they simply cannot run away from each other. Because a certain string of strong emotion binds them.
Check These 6 Important Things That Ross & Rachel’s Story Teaches Us:
You Simply Cannot Give Up:
Love just like life is not meant to be smooth always and that’s all right. Despite the incessant muck ups, the idea that perseverance unavoidably wins the hearts of lovers finally got them together. Fighting for what you really want is never passe. Ross was about to marry for the second time and Rachel was there to try to stop that (although she couldn’t). Rachel got a job in Paris and Ross had to stop her from leaving New York which he did quite dramatically. They were on a break, they were dating other people but no one could actually slip into the space of where they were.
Surprisingly Things Come Together:
Things were pretty complicated between Ross & Rachel. There was a drunk marriage, dating, divorce, and a child together. In spite of the biggest glue in their love story – the baby who they name Emma, Rachel agreed to go to Paris and pursue a new life. But until the last moment when she saw Ross expressing his love by almost stopping her flight, she didn’t realize the depth of their relationship. Great things perhaps take time to happen and when it happens it surely surprises you.
Hooking Up Is Not The Solution:
Ross & Rachel both have multiple hookups after they broke up and also after having a baby together. But what they find in each other was never completed by those prospective lovers. They hated each other at a point but that hate also came from deep love. Ross’s failed marriage with Emily or Rachel’s attempt to date other guys always failed miserably. They desperately wanted to move on but somehow certain bonds never wither away and that’s what Ross & Rachel’s story teaches us.
Certain Dreams Do Come True:
As per Phoebe, lobsters are mates for life. So, when you find your lobster, err… someone with whom you want to spend your “forever”, you should hold on to them and never let them go. Ross fell for Rachel in school days and never thought that one day he will be the father of Rachel’s child. Some dreams do indeed come true and that’s why you should never stop believing in your dreams.
Time Takes Time:
From the hopeless romantic school crush to the time when Rachel really got off the flight to Paris- there were plenty of crazy times this couple goes through which leaves them wondering if they were actually meant for each other? But the best part is this couple finally get their acts together and promises not to leave each other again. Time actually takes time and that’s the way to think when you are crazily and deeply in love with someone.
But…. Friendship First:
It is not necessary that your relationship has to be based on love. You can be best of friends, support each other relentlessly, and understand each other like no other – and then let love gradually come to you. Starting into the space of romantic love might not be always relaxing but with friendship as your foundation, you will always find the right kind of comfort. Ross had a huge crush on Rachel but love happened gradually over time. That’s how it should be – right?
In the end, I would love to quote Ross from the last episode “I don’t want to get over her…I want to be with her”. That’s what this sweet and valiant love story teaches us in the end. You simply cannot get over your true love and with each passing day this love just increases.
Life without any stress is impossible. In today’s world, this problem is cropping up more than it used to be. When you or your partner is stressed – the relationship may go through a tough patch and cause many other emotional damages. What are the possible causes of that stress? Maybe the work-life is loaded with sky-high targets, maybe the finances are not prosperous, maybe there is some health-related issue, etc. The cause of stress can be anything – personal or professional. Being a dutiful lover, you must know certain simple things that can relieve your partner.
Here are a few simple things to do when your partner is stressed. Apply these things and show your care for your lover which will strengthen your bond.
Identify The Signs of Stress:
You are lucky if your partner is an extrovert and shares every single thing happening in his/her life with you readily. But all are not the same. That’s why you need to understand the signs of stress. The change in regular habits is one of the prime signs of a stressful life. Your darling may be facing sleeping issues, there can be a recurring headache, or he/she may be keeping too silent – observe these things minutely to understand the situation. Once you see the changes – you can tackle things better.
Let Them Vent Out:
Sit with your partner and talk with kindness and patience. Let them vent out whatever is going inside their head and heart. Until and unless your partner releases the tension bothering him/her from within – things cannot go normal. That’s why you have to create a situation where he/she can talk without any inhibition. Play an emotional movie so that he/she connects with such a situation and then it will be easier to talk. And while your partner is talking – never ever pass your judgment. Your only job in that situation is to listen carefully and attentively (keep your phone and other distractions away).
Encourage Physical Activity:
You can do some physical activity together like going to a dance class, going for a morning walk or running, or learning sword fighting, etc. These physical activities increase the production of testosterone and that in turn reduces the stress hormone. He/she may or may not talk to you about what lead to stress but one thing is sure that your partner will be able to de-stress. Other ways of increasing testosterone are to encourage him/her to go and meet old friends, attend parties, or have sex.
Talk Calmly & Be Patient:
You have to understand the fact that something important is bothering your partner and that’s why you have to be clam while talking to him/her. You cannot lose your temper, raise your voice, or be adamant in this situation otherwise things will worsen in your relationship which you will lament later. Whatever he/she is asking – just fulfill them and when you cannot – be polite and compassionate in addressing that.
Take Your Partner To a Spa:
You cannot undermine the benefits of a spa session. The massage with aromatherapy oil, the soothing music playing behind, the floral bath, and the whole ambiance of spa relaxes people. The aches in joints, the stress clouding the mind will be erased and the heart will be filled with happiness. Even doctors suggest going for a spa session when life becomes stressful. So, book a day for your partner in the nearby spa centre and let him/her heal.
Plan A Gateway:
Traveling is always a great medicine to handle grave situations of life. The problem that your partner is facing may not be solved with a trip but surely he/she will get a great amount of positive energy to tackle the stress-causing factor. There’s plenty of amazing places in our country to choose from. Take a break from work to be with your partner and plan a gateway from mundane work life.
Give Some Space Too:
Personal space is very important in successful relationships. The simple thing to understand here is that your partner is going through a stressful time and not you – that’s why you can just help him/her from outside. Ultimately, your partner is the one who has to take the final action to come out of that situation. Therefore, give that space to your partner to think and evaluate after you are done with all the above points. Then again some people don’t like to share sorrows or challenges readily with anyone – if your partner falls in this category, then, you should respect that and give the required space.