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A friend can tell you things you don’t want to tell yourself.

Frances Ward Weller

With good friends around, life becomes an occasion that never runs out of happy moments. When the clouds of sorrow appear, friends make them go away with the light of their love. They make you smile, shine, and sail through the hardships of life. Friends are the people who accept you for who you are and stand by your side, even when the whole world turns its back on you. You can pretty much be yourselves in front of your pals without the judgment of being judged.

But what do you do when your best friend moves to another city/country and you end up becoming long-distance friends? Yes, much more painful than being in a long-distance relationship. Because one moment you two were together deciding your party dresses. And the other moment they are gone away to another place, which is not even in your time zone. Having a long-distance friendship becomes tough when you are not even able to catch up once in a while. But it’s not impossible to preserve what you had and try to stay in contact even being miles away.

Read further to know the ways to maintain a long-distance friendship.

Make Good Use of Technology

No matter whether your friend is in another country or continent, you two are always just a text away. Well, thanks to the Internet. So, use the technology to your advantage and keep surprising your dear long-distance friend with sweet text messages and random pictures from time to time. This way, the physical distance will become like a virtual barrier between you two.

Plan an Annual Meet

It might be probably tough to meet your long-distance friend frequently. But try and plan at least an annual meet. Something that you can look forward to. A day when you two can get together, talk about things happening in your life, and cherish good old memories.

Video Chat Often

Regular texting is a good option to stay in contact with a long-distance friend but it is also important to see them once in a while. And that’s what Skype and Facetime are for. A five-minute video chat every week or at least once in two weeks is enough that’ll make you feel more involved with your friend.

Remember Important Occasions

Birthdays and anniversaries become even more special in long-distance friendships. Remembering these special occasions go a long way that nurtures the friendship and keep it intact. Keep track of your friend’s birthday or anniversary and try to send a card or gift to make them feel loved and cared.

Write Letters

This may sound a little bit old school but nothing can replace the charm of opening the mailbox and seeing a letter from your long-distance BFF. The words in the letter will make more sense than a simple text. And it will stay with your buddy forever just like the sweet memories of your friendship.

Stay Connected Through Little Things

Pick a movie or series, watch it at the same time and keep texting each other your thoughts throughout the entire session. It’s just like having your BFF by your side that will give you the feeling of enjoying things together even when you are miles apart.

Take Trips Together

Travelling with someone allows you to know that person better and explore their personality. Explore the world with your friend one at a time. Take trips to new places. It will be like a mini-reunion where you’ll get to see each other. Amidst the long talks and long walks, you can have all the fun and adventure like you used to have earlier.

Rejuvenate your long-distance friendship and keep its charm intact with these amazing tips.

Relationships can be broadly categorized into two – one, that is formed right at birth (family and relatives) and two, that we choose ourselves. Relationships bind us with people, make us more responsible, and make us learn about patience, the joy of sacrifice and many such things. But again, some relationships can be toxic or hazardous. Instead of contributing constructively, these relationships destruct people from within. A little bit of hurting or fighting happens in every relationship and people get over them, patch up, forget and forgive each other. But that is not the character of a toxic relationship. There comes a point when “taken for granted” becomes the rule in this relationship and all that this relationship can then ignite are a pain, suffering, sadness, anger, and frustration.

Additionally, there is always an inexplicable kind of tension running in the head when you are in a toxic relationship. One cannot enjoy properly, sleep properly, or work properly, because of the presence of toxicity in life. Coming out of such a relationship seems like the only solution and one must do that. If a relationship feels like a hell hole, then, there is no expectation of beauty there – right? But once you are out of such a relationship, never forget the lessons that you have learned from that.

Here Are The Learnings That You Can Take Away From A Toxic Relationship:
Understanding Self Worth:

The relationship might have been physically or mentally or emotionally jerking which left you with a scar for life. One of the basic characters of every toxic relationship is that you are not aware of your self-worth at all. During your toxic relationship, you were at an all-time low because your partner always made you feel like a dust particle. In fact, during that relationship, you have perhaps never wanted to see things differently or understand your real worth. Now when the relationship in the graveyard, you are a new person altogether who understands the meaning of “self-worth”, “self-confidence”, or “self-esteem”.

Considering Your Happiness First:

Now, when you have started to understand self-worth, you also know that considering self-happiness is the most important goal of life. Pleasing the people around you is also good but there is also an extent to do that. The moment you cross that line – people start to neglect you or take you for granted. Therefore, you now learn to take good care of yourself and keep your happiness in front always.

Understanding the Arrival of Danger:

It’s not like initially, you never understood the arrival of red flag or danger in your relationship. You simply used to ignore them. That’s where things actually faltered – now you know that too well. Be it possessiveness or shouting at public places, or any other signs of toxicity in the mind of your partner – addressing that issue right at the first time is the best solution and no one knows it better than you now. In a certain way, you also become more intuitive in sensing the arrival of danger.

Relying More on Friends & Family:

The group of close friends and family members can always judge who would be a better person for you. Because they know you more than you think you know yourself. Perhaps your friends and family members have disapproved of this person you dated but drunken in new love, you didn’t listen to them at all. And now when you have faced a bad phase in your life for that love- you tend to rely more on the choices of your friends and family members.

You Develop Confidence:

In the case of alarming situations in life, intuitions and instincts play a major role. They tell us what next is waiting for us. After breaking up from your toxic relationship, you now are more confident about your gut feeling. You now seem more confident about every step in your life and you never ever miss the call of your instincts.

You Now Draw Boundaries:

It is very important to have boundaries in a relationship. Initially, you thought that you need to share yourself, your life, your choice, etc. with your partner. But now as that relationship didn’t live well, you now know to set your boundaries. It is not at all ok to overstep those boundaries.

Self-Defense Mechanisms:

There are people who have never ever stood up for themselves. Are you one of them? Then, obviously, a toxic relationship must have taught you the most important life lesson – right? That is if you don’t take up a stand for yourself – no one else will. To conclude that bad relationship, you had to stand up, push back, and go away. Now, this self-mechanism will always live with you.

These important lessons from noxious relationships will definitely make you a better version of yourself. And now that you know about the outcome of these relationships, you can also share your learnings with those who need help.

Ross Geller & Rachel Greene entered our lives 25 years ago on 22nd September 1994. The most popular TV show ever made in the world – Friends has touched our lives intensely. We all wanted a friendship bond like the six of them. Among the six friends, Monica & Chandler and Ross & Rachel became lovers later. But the love story of Ross & Rachel was crazier and dramatic as compared to the other one. Ross always had feelings for Rachel since the school days but back then she was not interested in him (blame his Afro hairdo!!!). Years later when they find their lives condensing in New York Central Perk coffee shop – they not only became best of friends but also found comfortable love in each other.

Like all love stories, their journey was also not a cakewalk. They also had to face challenges and many a time they broke up. But in the end, after covering 10 years of their adult relationship, they also realized that they simply cannot run away from each other. Because a certain string of strong emotion binds them.

Check These 6 Important Things That Ross & Rachel’s Story Teaches Us:

You Simply Cannot Give Up:

Love just like life is not meant to be smooth always and that’s all right. Despite the incessant muck ups, the idea that perseverance unavoidably wins the hearts of lovers finally got them together. Fighting for what you really want is never passe. Ross was about to marry for the second time and Rachel was there to try to stop that (although she couldn’t). Rachel got a job in Paris and Ross had to stop her from leaving New York which he did quite dramatically. They were on a break, they were dating other people but no one could actually slip into the space of where they were.

Surprisingly Things Come Together:

Things were pretty complicated between Ross & Rachel. There was a drunk marriage, dating, divorce, and a child together. In spite of the biggest glue in their love story – the baby who they name Emma, Rachel agreed to go to Paris and pursue a new life. But until the last moment when she saw Ross expressing his love by almost stopping her flight, she didn’t realize the depth of their relationship. Great things perhaps take time to happen and when it happens it surely surprises you.

Hooking Up Is Not The Solution:

Ross & Rachel both have multiple hookups after they broke up and also after having a baby together. But what they find in each other was never completed by those prospective lovers. They hated each other at a point but that hate also came from deep love. Ross’s failed marriage with Emily or Rachel’s attempt to date other guys always failed miserably. They desperately wanted to move on but somehow certain bonds never wither away and that’s what Ross & Rachel’s story teaches us.

Certain Dreams Do Come True:

As per Phoebe, lobsters are mates for life. So, when you find your lobster, err… someone with whom you want to spend your “forever”, you should hold on to them and never let them go. Ross fell for Rachel in school days and never thought that one day he will be the father of Rachel’s child. Some dreams do indeed come true and that’s why you should never stop believing in your dreams.

Time Takes Time:

From the hopeless romantic school crush to the time when Rachel really got off the flight to Paris- there were plenty of crazy times this couple goes through which leaves them wondering if they were actually meant for each other? But the best part is this couple finally get their acts together and promises not to leave each other again. Time actually takes time and that’s the way to think when you are crazily and deeply in love with someone.

But…. Friendship First:

It is not necessary that your relationship has to be based on love. You can be best of friends, support each other relentlessly, and understand each other like no other – and then let love gradually come to you. Starting into the space of romantic love might not be always relaxing but with friendship as your foundation, you will always find the right kind of comfort. Ross had a huge crush on Rachel but love happened gradually over time. That’s how it should be – right?

In the end, I would love to quote Ross from the last episode “I don’t want to get over her…I want to be with her”. That’s what this sweet and valiant love story teaches us in the end. You simply cannot get over your true love and with each passing day this love just increases.

Life without any stress is impossible. In today’s world, this problem is cropping up more than it used to be. When you or your partner is stressed – the relationship may go through a tough patch and cause many other emotional damages. What are the possible causes of that stress? Maybe the work-life is loaded with sky-high targets, maybe the finances are not prosperous, maybe there is some health-related issue, etc. The cause of stress can be anything – personal or professional. Being a dutiful lover, you must know certain simple things that can relieve your partner.

Here are a few simple things to do when your partner is stressed. Apply these things and show your care for your lover which will strengthen your bond.

Identify The Signs of Stress:

You are lucky if your partner is an extrovert and shares every single thing happening in his/her life with you readily. But all are not the same. That’s why you need to understand the signs of stress. The change in regular habits is one of the prime signs of a stressful life. Your darling may be facing sleeping issues, there can be a recurring headache, or he/she may be keeping too silent – observe these things minutely to understand the situation. Once you see the changes – you can tackle things better.

Let Them Vent Out:

Sit with your partner and talk with kindness and patience. Let them vent out whatever is going inside their head and heart. Until and unless your partner releases the tension bothering him/her from within – things cannot go normal. That’s why you have to create a situation where he/she can talk without any inhibition. Play an emotional movie so that he/she connects with such a situation and then it will be easier to talk. And while your partner is talking – never ever pass your judgment. Your only job in that situation is to listen carefully and attentively (keep your phone and other distractions away).

Encourage Physical Activity:

You can do some physical activity together like going to a dance class, going for a morning walk or running, or learning sword fighting, etc. These physical activities increase the production of testosterone and that in turn reduces the stress hormone. He/she may or may not talk to you about what lead to stress but one thing is sure that your partner will be able to de-stress. Other ways of increasing testosterone are to encourage him/her to go and meet old friends, attend parties, or have sex.

Talk Calmly & Be Patient:

You have to understand the fact that something important is bothering your partner and that’s why you have to be clam while talking to him/her. You cannot lose your temper, raise your voice, or be adamant in this situation otherwise things will worsen in your relationship which you will lament later. Whatever he/she is asking – just fulfill them and when you cannot – be polite and compassionate in addressing that.

Take Your Partner To a Spa:

You cannot undermine the benefits of a spa session. The massage with aromatherapy oil, the soothing music playing behind, the floral bath, and the whole ambiance of spa relaxes people. The aches in joints, the stress clouding the mind will be erased and the heart will be filled with happiness. Even doctors suggest going for a spa session when life becomes stressful. So, book a day for your partner in the nearby spa centre and let him/her heal.

Plan A Gateway:

Traveling is always a great medicine to handle grave situations of life. The problem that your partner is facing may not be solved with a trip but surely he/she will get a great amount of positive energy to tackle the stress-causing factor. There’s plenty of amazing places in our country to choose from. Take a break from work to be with your partner and plan a gateway from mundane work life.

Give Some Space Too:

Personal space is very important in successful relationships. The simple thing to understand here is that your partner is going through a stressful time and not you – that’s why you can just help him/her from outside. Ultimately, your partner is the one who has to take the final action to come out of that situation. Therefore, give that space to your partner to think and evaluate after you are done with all the above points. Then again some people don’t like to share sorrows or challenges readily with anyone – if your partner falls in this category, then, you should respect that and give the required space.

Every relationship asks for something or the other. And everyone, be it a man or a woman has basic expectations out of their romantic relationship. This question waltz in everyone’s brain when they are in a relationship. “What does he want?” is what every woman seeks an answer to.

This question has been asked by women in the past, today, and it will always be asked in the future too. Reason being no one really knows what they want. But these basic cornerstones to form a healthy or a stable foundation for any relationship is what you could know & keep in mind.

There are times when your relationship gets rocky and you don’t know what went wrong. This is when the question arises, you ask your partner multiple times what do they want and they have no answer. Your partner goes all mum because they really don’t know how to make you understand what they want. Talking about Understanding, let’s start listing the 4 things that a man expects from his relationship (P.s. I assumed this is what they want)

1.  Understanding
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The basic requirement of any relationship is “mutual understanding.” Men expect their lady to understand them (even if they DON’T). It’s expected out of you that you understand why your man was late to the date night or why hasn’t he answered your calls. But keeping aside the silly reasons, he really expects from you to understand if he had a long tiring day when he’s occupied with a pile of work or anything that requires his attention. He wants you to ‘GET’ him like no one else. And if your partner lacks this cornerstone, the best exercise is to communicate. The more you communicate and share your life experiences, the more it will help your partner to understand you.

2.  Companionship
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With a better understanding comes companionship. No one likes to be alone. Similarly, men hate being alone. And when they are with someone they expect to spend time with their partner. On one hand, they want their woman to have meaningful conversations and on the other, they also want to have fun dates with them. They love it when their woman loves or even shows interest in what they love to do. Isn’t it exciting when you have similar interests? And then you decide and plan to hang out doing exactly what you both like? But isn’t it important to indulge and know what you partner likes? Men really appreciate when their woman spends time, let’s say, playing games with them (Mind games aren’t appreciated), watching their favourite Football team play, going out for adventures or whatever that your man likes to do. It’s the same when you like him being around while you splurge on shopping or get your nails done (how sexist, eh?) But yeah, this explains the 2nd cornerstone.

3.  Intimacy
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One thing that men really expects or wants from his relationship is intimacy. Quite a lot of men are actually vocal about this topic. Few of them have clear intentions about intimacy, that it is one of the important things in a relationship. But there are a few for whom the relationship revolves around this. For the former part, I’d suggest you stick around and try to learn what & how things evolve to have that intimate relationship. But for the latter, you must pack your bags and leave. Intimacy is a biological need and nobody should be blamed for wanting it. With intimacy, comes a bit BUT (yeah that too, but that’s not the point here). Fulfillment in intimacy is what keeps both happy. It can help them get closer but isn’t the only thing that can keep the relationship last longer. The conclusion is, intimacy is important but isn’t enough. Anyway, it does play a vital role in being the 3rd cornerstone.

4.  Respect
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I know I didn’t start with ‘Respect’ as the first cornerstone, but nevertheless, it’s the most important one. Respect is important for the teenager that just started to experience what a relationship feels like, or for one who had a divorce. Respect is one important cornerstone that builds a relationship stronger, no matter what the relation is. Even a relationship with your pet requires respect (not that I’m comparing your romantic relationship to that). It is for both and not necessarily for men to expect respect out of a relationship. It is required to survive. Men expect that if you allow them to be their selves you’re being respectful to them. If you feel you’re clueless about how to show that you do respect him, here are few ways; don’t judge his thoughts or opinions, don’t make ‘awkward’ gestures when you don’t agree with him, be grateful/thank him for his favors and help.

Practicing these basics can really help your relationship in a healthier way. These are the 4 basic things that I believe men really expect from their relationship. So if you are a man reading this blog, I know you’d agree but if you’re a woman I am with you when it comes to understanding men, just how it’s tough for them to understand “Women”.

And a big thank you if you made it this far while reading this blog. Drop some feedback in the comment section below.

I fall in that group of introverts but also my author bio says with pride that I can gel like an extrovert. Which one is true will be a complicated question. In my defense, I would like to say that for the sake of the so-called “norms”, “rules”, “livelihood”, and “social prestige” – I have to become extrovert at times.

Like all introverts, I also choose the people for my vicinity in a calculative manner. But alas with time and events, I have lost many close ones – some left me, and I left some. Those emotionally crazy moments in my life have broken me for sure but have also raised me valiantly. A small portion of me still has hope in people. But seriously the major part inside me stays away from all the brouhaha. With a single status (which I don’t see changing anytime soon), over the years, I have developed a beautiful love affair with inanimate things – things that are not made up of flesh and blood.

Why? Because with experiences I have found that these “things” have always held me up in my bad days just like the best buddy. When happiness surrounds me – I am bound to get people around me but when calamity hits me – I have often seen the absence of close people. Therefore, my expectation even from my bestest friends has also drowned.

This blog is a personal experience about love and relationships where there is no tangible human face. It is dedicated to all those inanimate heroes who have accepted me whole-heartedly with a promise of forever love.

The World of Movies:

It is a vast world indeed. There are various actors, directors, stories, and languages to lean on over the weekends, vacations, in flight, or amidst the crowd in local trains. Yes, you may say there are intense human faces and human stories etched in these movies. But they don’t jump off in my room – they are always on screen and never off it. The beautiful locales, interesting plots, and brilliant direction of movies engines my creativity, lets me assume the world, and of course, enhances my knowledge about people. Movies are like oxygen to me – I need it more than anything else. I fall asleep while watching movies (yeah, it’s a lullaby too) and I wake up to watch them. When I am working, a part of me is planning “what to watch today?” Can there be any fulfilling relationship like this one?

The Yummy Food Saga:

Initially, I used to like food and that’s why I never tried to prepare them. But now I love food and that’s why I now know to prepare food. The fresh vegetables, variety of spices and condiments, and proper utensils hold a big area in my love life. Those who have eaten my recipes have patted my back and that’s when I understood food & I – we form an amazing couple together.

My Dear Diary:

Being a writer, can I say I don’t keep a diary? The amazing thoughts that run in my head after or while watching movies or having good food – immediately find a place in my “dearest diary”. Sometimes, I feel that no one knows me better than the pages of my diary. They know my strengths and weaknesses, ambition and heartaches – all.

The Pages of Books:

A Bengali and his/her love or addiction for books are very common. From Tagore to Sharatchandra, from Shakespeare to Sunil Ganguly – I have read many pages, fell in love with the writer or the character intensely. Nothing is fulfilling than waking up to a weekend with a hot mug of ginger tea and a nice book for company.

Apart from books, any online article or Wikipedia page of subjects of my interests occupy my time largely. This habit of reading often leads me to think deeper and understand better.

The Happy Lipsticks:

I have lost count of how many of them I own. When I started my obsession with lipsticks, I had a target of buying 2 every month. But now the buying habit totally depends on my mood and the sale running in my favourite cosmetics website. Since childhood, I was fascinated with lipsticks and now, it has grown into a passion. Red is my most favourite shade and I have all types of red I guess in my kitty. With lipstick also comes the pout-pose (which I call poutopia) and countless selfies.

There are times during the weekend or holidays when I get up in the morning and after taking a bath, I apply lipstick, sit with my beloved movie/book/diary and continue my beautiful and gratifying love affair.

Basically, these abstract things make me feel happy and satisfied which I have never felt in my romantic episodes.

Do you love making her smile? I am sure that her smile brightens up your day, and knowing that beautiful smile is because of you is one of the greatest feelings in the world. At times making her smile might be easy, but at times it will be really difficult to turn that frown upside down. Well, that’s what you think! It is very easy to make her smile. It’s not about the big romantic gestures you do but about those little things you do without realizing things which make her feel like you care, and things which she finds adorable.

  1. Asking Her How Is She Doing?

    You may not realize this but you’ve stopped asking her, and that is bound to happen. You talk to her every day, and it is not like you don’t know what’s happening. If there is something wrong, she will tell you, you don’t have to ask her this question formally. At times, she needs to feel like you care. Maybe she was feeling a little low last night when you do ask the next morning “How are you feeling now?”

Trust me, even if she was feeling low, this will uplift her mood.

  1. Send Her a Voice Note

    You might be busy and do not have time to write a text, so you decide to send a voice note. Well, listening to your voice makes her smile. This makes her feel like you’re taking efforts and makes her feel special.

  2. Mid-Day Calls

    You may call her at night when you’re free and have time for her. It is okay to do so, but when you call her in the middle of a busy day just to tell her that you love her, it will make her beam with joy. Even if it is for a minute, it will make her feel important.

  3. When You Get Jealous

    She just came back from the party and starts telling you all about it. She tells you about her friends and then tells you about her guy friends, that little jealousy you have makes her smile. It makes her feel like you value her, and are afraid to lose her. Off course not being extremely jealous but a little jealous.

  4. Share Things with Her

    When we go through problems, we share it with our partners. When you do share your problems with her, she not only tries her best to solve them but feels happy. She feels happy that you trust her enough to share things with her. She feels happy that you consider her as an important part of her life, hence your problems are not a burden for her.

  5. Respect Her Choices

    Be a gentleman, and value her point of view. When you do that, she feels respected and valued. Make her feel like your equal, and she will be happy in true sense.

  6. Send Her Songs

    You’re listening to a song, and it suddenly reminds you of her. Maybe because of the lyrics, or the music but it just reminds you of her. Send her the song, it will make her smile like a fool. She knows that you think about her, and makes her feel secure.

  7. Send Her a Text Telling Her How You Feel

    You don’t have to send a long text with fancy words but simple words telling her how you feel. This makes her feel super special, and even a single line telling her how you feel makes her more special than a 3-page essay. You just need to be true.

  8. Honest Opinion over a Sugar Coated One

    No matter what she says, she loves to hear the truth. This makes her feel that no matter what it is, you will tell her the truth and won’t cheat her because you are not someone who lies. She will always seek your advice because she knows it is genuine.

  9. When You Explain a Sport You Love

    Almost every guy does it! She may not even know the basic rules of football, but when you explain it to her, she loves it. It makes her feel included and honestly the glow in your eyes make her feel happy.

  10. When You Do Silly Things to Get Her Attention

    She may have been busy or angry at you, and you start acting silly just to make her smile or grab her attention. She likes it. You’re taking efforts and she likes it.

  11. When You Remember Something She Told You

    Maybe you got her favorite chocolate or ask her how was her presentation at work? You remember something she told you, and you remember it. This is incredibly adorable to her.

You don’t have to make grand gestures to make her smile, but small things which do not take any time. What do you do, which makes her smile? Comment and let us know!

The personality types of people can be broadly divided into two parts – introverts and extroverts. Introversion is one of the major personality mannerisms identified in many theories of personality. People who are introverted tend to be inward turning or focused more on internal thoughts, feelings, and moods rather than seeking out external stimulation. Introverts are those shy people who have fewer friends and don’t like talking much to people. Instead, they love talking to the self and think on varied subjects. How is it like dating an introvert? Well, you are really lucky if you happen to date any of these shy and quiet bunch of people. Their silence is often taken as arrogance but there are many perks when you are dating them.

Here are some of the benefits that you can enjoy while dating an introvert.

Mostly They Are Readers & Writers:

Most of the introverts are avid readers. Many of them are great writers too. So, they always have beautiful stories to delight you and some amazing words to sweep you off your feet. Also, because they are quite observers and read a lot means they will come up with the best advice for anything and everything bothering you. They will also surprise you with handwritten notes or sometimes describe the regular day into beautiful phrases which will leave you in awe. In total, they will always make you feel good!

Their Sensitive Mind:

These introverts carry a sensitive mind and thus they will understand your pain and agony like no other. If you trust them and tell them about your problems, then, know one thing for sure – they will stick to you through your thick and thin. They are always supportive and will never leave you disappointed. Introverts are the ones who will derive their happiness in your smile. If you are dating an introvert, then, there will be no situation when you feel alone or low because they are very emotional and sensitive.

Eyes of Observation:

Things are bare both in front of you and your introvert love interest – but he/she will see those things which you cannot see rather observe. That’s because these introverts have a keen eye for observation. Their curious gaze lets them unravel many different aspects of things and people around them. They may even say something unique about you which you have perhaps never noticed about yourself. So, in their company, you will always learn something new about yourself and the world around you. Their unique perception about things in the world is so different that you will be amazed at how they can associate so many thoughts with simple things in life. Isn’t that a treat?

They Never Quit:

See the thing is – what is a piece of cake to the extroverts is a long struggle for introverts. It means that mingling with people, being social, and making good friends is the character of an extrovert. Whereas an introvert is never comfortable in social circles and almost pathetic in making friends. They also pick their friends and are very protective of them. So, if you are dating an introvert, he/she will make all efforts to bond with you. When you are having some issues in your relationship this person will try every way to make this relationship work. They will never leave you easily and thus with an introvert partner you can be sure of commitment and loyalty.

Always Attentive:

When you have gained the confidence of an introvert – you have all the attention of them on you. They will always focus on your presence and listen to you minutely. For your introvert lover, you are one of those very few people who can make them comfortable and thus they treasure you. Therefore, they will direct all their energies towards you. You will always be appreciated for all big and small things you do for them and thus you will never feel left out.

Introverts Are Thoughtful:

The most amazing part of an introvert’s character is that they will think a thousand times before acting or reacting to any situation. Therefore fights with them will be devoid of yelling and will be more like an intense discussion over a particular or varied topic. The conversation that you are enjoying/fighting with them has been rehearsed many times in their head. So, when you are in doubts about where the relationship is heading while having a fight, they are already making changes to save it. Apart from that when it comes to happier moments, like a birthday or anniversary celebration, be ready to experience the most thoughtful gifts!

They Listen Carefully & Patiently:

Introverts are always the best people to-go when someone had a bad day because they allow people to speak their mind calmly. So, don’t worry at all – you can come back from work and tear your heart out in front of your introvert partner. That person will not miss a single word uttered by you and after you are done, he/she will surprise you with the kind of coffee or food or movie you prefer so that you tend to feel better. They are that kind of persons who will also appreciate your achievements rather than judging you on your mistakes.

Who doesn’t want to fall in love? Every face that you see in a crowded metro or busy street – from the shy ones to the ones shouting over the phone – need love at the end of the day. Some get lucky while some don’t. Some perhaps attract love, enjoy love, but cannot keep it. And then there are some who not only attract, enjoy, and keep love but also radiate love. Feng Shui or the Chinese geomancy – the pseudoscience originating in China has the resolution for almost any problem in your life. It is all about channelizing the positive energy in the proper direction and reap good results out of it. So, if you follow some interesting Feng Shui Tips, you may attract more love and romance in your life.

Know the Feng Shui Love & Romance Special Tips for a Happy Life Ahead
Crucial Southwest Direction of Your Home
Crucial Southwest Direction of Your Home
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Southwest is the direction that is related to love and romance and thus you must take special care of this area. Southwest direction resonates with the Earth element and earthly colors should populate this area of your home as they will promote tenderness. You may also keep objects related to Earth or Fire element to activate the Earth element in this area. Soft yellow or soft brown color or natural crystal stones in Southwest direction would enhance more love and romance in your life for sure.

Cozy Seats
Cozy Seats
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You should not keep one chair at your place. If you are in love or in a relationship, then, clearly, there should be two chairs and a cozy and comfortable one. If not, then, it will signal that you are not prioritizing the presence of the other person in your relationship.

Pictures Say A Lot
Pictures Say A Lot
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Remove all those pictures, sculptures, or paintings, or photographs that are gloomy, show loneliness, speak of a long wait, or depicts sadness. These are the things that will block the positive energies traveling your way towards achieving a successful love life. See the trick is when you want someone special in your life, the things at your place be it a painting or sculpture should radiate that “desire”. Keep a happy couple painting in your home and see the results.

No TV or Mirror In Bedroom
No TV or Mirror In Bedroom
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There should not be any TV in your bedroom. When you have TV, both of you may tend to watch a match, series, or movies and that will eat away the time you should spend with your partner. Plus, when you put the TV off, the reflection of you or your bed would fall on the TV screen and that is a taboo in Feng Shui. Similarly, the mirror should also be avoided. But you can also keep the mirror in such a position so that the reflection of your bed doesn’t fall on it. They invite infidelity in love relationship and that’s why they must be avoided.

The Choice of Bed Sheets
The Choice of Bed Sheets
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Regular washing of your bed sheets, quilt covers, pillow covers, or cushion covers is an essential part of your routine. And these things affect love life a lot. The smell of fresh or new bed sheets always relaxes the mind and invites more love and romance. Choose the soft shades of pink or red like coral, rose, salmon, etc. colors and decorate your bedroom. You will notice the changes soon!

Keep The Bed Away From The Wall
Keep The Bed Away From The Wall
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If you keep your bed against the wall, then, there is hardly any chance for love to expand in your life. The wall acts literally here and doesn’t allow your love to grow leaps and bounds. So, arrange your bed in such a way that there is space on all sides to walk.

Flowers for Singles
Flowers for Singles
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Those who are single and want to be in a relationship should start keeping a vase of peonies in the living room. In case, you don’t find peonies, then at least keep a photograph or painting of vase filled with peonies in your living room. But don’t keep them in the bedroom. And remember that this tip is only for the singles, and not for the engaged or “in a relationship” or married people – they may attract someone else in their relationships then!

Positive Energy in Bedroom
Positive Energy in Bedroom
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Stress is the prime factor in the decrease of love, romance, sweet-talks in your relationship. So, you have to populate your bedroom only with those things that alleviate stress and any kind of negative thoughts. Bring in fragrant candles in yellow or multicolor shades, dim lights, and soft music and enjoy a quiet, soothing, and romantic time with your partner. These things help couples to connect to each other rapidly.

When in love, actions definitely speak louder than words. The phrase ‘I love you’, over the years has lost its charm. But what works like magic are a few gestures that are not only romantic but can convey your love swiftly. These are the signs that you know someone’s head-over-heels in love with you. And if your partner does nothing like these, we’re pretty sure they love you but maybe in a different way!

Now if you want to express your love through your actions, these are the things that you need to follow. Or if you want to know if he/she feels anything for you, you can tick them off from this list!

1. Love Letters

Love Letters
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Now, these old school love expressions have faded away over the generations. Nevertheless, they are actually pretty adorable. Pouring your heart out on a piece of paper is the easiest way of letting your feelings out of your system. Make your partner read them and let them know how much they mean to you. Love letters are precious and can be treasured for life!

2. Making a Playlist

Making a Playlist
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Sharing the same love for a particular music genre is a steal! If you and your partner can listen to the same playlist and enjoy, then go ahead and make one with all the songs that express your heart’s sayings divinely. You can combine the lyrics of their favorite love songs into one song!

3. Three Taps

Three Taps
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Whenever you are out in public, hold their hand and tap thrice. They’ll know, they adore you at the moment and want to say ‘I love you’ but cannot! Isn’t that adorable?

4. Ride Together

Ride Together
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Take a ride together to work! If you both work, and live separately. Just drive together. If he/she shows up after work to pick you up just because they want to see you is an absolute heart melting gesture!

5. Back Rubs

Back Rubs
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Back Rubs work both ways. If your girlfriend/wife is on her periods or if your boyfriend/husband is sick, rub their back for a little relief. The big relief is they will know they have you! Now even if you’re tired at the end of the day, rub their back to sleep. The feeling of having someone to take care of us is so romantic!

6. Hold Hands

Hold Hands
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Holding hands all the damn time gives a sense of touch which makes your heart warm & relaxes at the same time. Go out on random walks holding hands! Explore places whilst holding hands! The sudden demonstration of affection will definitely have your partner smiling from ear to ear.

7. Forehead Kisses

Forehead Kisses
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Forehead kisses scream love! I personally love them. No intimate gesture is as romantic as this one. This romantic gesture speaks volume of your feelings or your partner’s.

8. Cook up a Storm

Cook up a Storm
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Chill, it’s an idiom. If you’re bad at cooking or specialize only in boiling water, then you surely can nail this gesture. If your partner enjoys food cooked by you, they surely are in love with you. It’s a thoughtful gesture of cooking for someone when you don’t know how to cook, but it’s more about the other person if they don’t complain! Embracing our partner’s flaws and accepting them is the true meaning of loving someone.

9. Random Texts

Random Texts
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When in love, they’re our favorite notification. And receiving random texts from them is the highlight of any regular day. Now the text could be anything, text that says miss you, love you, thinking about you, kiss & hug emoji, or something that they want to talk to you about. It simply means, you matter! They’re thinking of you at that very moment. Don’t only receive them, send them too! They too deserve to know they’re special! Calls work the same charm as texts!

10. Getting Gifts

Getting Gifts
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Who doesn’t love gifts? It’s as amazing as receiving texts or calls. Show that they mean the world to you with getting them gifts. One doesn’t need occasions to shower your lover with gifts. Spoil them with their favorite things, tickets to someplace they want to go, gadgets for your man, make-up or a dress for your lady, book if they love reading. It’s definitely the thought that counts here.

If you aren’t brave enough to say those three magical words, just think of gestures that can convey the same. But at times, it’s important to let your partner know with words as well because it’s always special to hear those little somethings that aren’t little!

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