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Social media started as a platform where we could connect with our friends, meet new friends and express ourselves freely. Remember the good old days of sitting in the cyber café for hours chatting with our internet pal on yahoo messenger, scraps on Orkut, blingy stickers on hi5 or regular status updates on Facebook. All this seems like a hazy memory now!
Social media isn’t the same as it used to be! Why? Because our parents have invaded it!
We love our parents but sometimes they can surprise you.
And embarrassing kids- that tradition has been going on for generations now. We would be doing the same someday!

If we talk about the present day scenario, parents have their new favorite way of mortifying their kids- Social Media!

Here are a few things parents do on social media to embarrass us:

Sending Friend Request To Everyone We’ve Ever Mentioned
Sending Friend Request To Everyone We’ve Ever Mentioned
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Remember that one friend you mentioned to your parents about, the one who sat next to you in kindergarten. Yes! Your parents have sent a friend request to them. They have also sent a friend request to all your other friends, teachers & crush!

 Like, Like, Like. Comment, Comment, Comment
 Like, Like, Like. Comment, Comment, Comment
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We love getting likes & comments on social media, especially from our parents. It may make us feel like they actually approve our things but not on everything! Our parents start to like and comment on everything we post.

 Tagging Us In Embarrassing Pictures
 Tagging Us In Embarrassing Pictures
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We all have pictures which can be referred to as “Blast from the Past!”

Our parents wouldn’t really understand why those pictures if exposed would be a nightmare to us. They refer to those pictures as “cute” and post them on social media & TAG US!

Miss A Call From Them & They’ll Comment On Your Post
Miss A Call From Them & They’ll Comment On Your Post
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In case if you are out, miss a call from them and post something on social media at the same time, you’re doomed! Your parents will comment on your status asking you why you did not pick up your call or maybe the reason why they were calling you. Now your entire Facebook friend list knows that you need to reach home by 8!

Annoying Facebook Posts like “What Are Your Top 3 Qualities?”
Annoying Facebook Posts like “What Are Your Top 3 Qualities?”
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Facebook is now full of these annoying apps which tell you your top 3 qualities or what were you in your previous birth! Our parents share such posts without thinking twice and ask us to like it constantly. On some level, they think it is all true!

Stalking You & The Question Game
Stalking You & The Question Game
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“Please don’t tag me”, “Please don’t post that picture” or “Could you block my parents before you tag me”
If you’ve added your parents on social media, you probably have used all these lines.
They stalk you over social media and then ask you questions about your whereabouts. They even stalk your friends and ask you about them. It is terrifying!

Posting Hoax News and facts
Posting Hoax News and facts
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As per our parents, everything they find online is true & they feel the need to share it with everyone over social media. They end up sharing them and tagging us on it.

Stalk Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Stalk Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend
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It’s a waking nightmare. Wasn’t it enough that your parents stalked you on social media, they somehow find your girlfriend’s/ boyfriend’s profile and start to stalk them. This gets even worse when they send a request to them!

No matter what channel or medium parents use, the tradition of embarrassing your kids has always been there and will go on. Maybe you’d be laughing about these small shenanigans after a few years, but for now, these really mortify you. Since it is a conventional fact, someday you will find your kids all red-faced because of something you posted on your social media!

It wouldn’t be entirely incorrect to say that social media has taken over our lives. Be it the boardroom debates or bedroom discussions, people unknowingly tend to introduce social media to every part of their life, which becomes unavoidable after a certain point of time. And talk about the stress of keeping up with the glamorous lifestyle of others portrayed in social media, which is far away from the real truth most of the time.

According to a survey, an average person spends a minimum of 1 hour 50 minutes per day browsing internet and scrolling through apps. The wastage of time is just one of the many side effects of addiction to social media. It twists your version of reality and lends a superficial perspective of things that stop you from gaining a deeper insight into important aspects of life.

Of course, we cannot ignore the multiple benefits of social media that make our lives cool and convenient. But one also cannot simply overlook the stress and pressure it brings on a daily basis, which can be quite overwhelming at times. Therefore, social media hiatus every once in a while is a must.

Here are a few mental health benefits of the temporary social media detox.

Reconnect With the Real World    
Reconnect With the Real World    
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You may have hundreds of friends on Facebook and thousands of followers on Instagram. And you might connect well with them online. But have you ever tried to connect with those people in person? The social media restrict in-person human contact and sometimes leaves us feeling lonely and isolated. Taking a break from it lets you reconnect with the people who matter to you and are an important part of your life.

Save Time to Try Out New Things
Save Time to Try Out New Things
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Admit it or not, we are all guilty of wasting time on social media. Think of all the hours you’ll save yourself from social media cleanse? It can be utilized in doing something creative and productive like reading, writing, trying adventure activities or pursuing hobbies that improves your life. Taking a break from social media is the best way to spend time doing what you love to do.

Your Privacy is Intact
Your Privacy is Intact
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Posting pictures on the social media of every event or check-in to every holiday destination is not necessary? But people still do it willingly without even analyzing its repercussions. Social media might be a convenient way to stay in touch with your people but at the cost of access to your personal information. That keeps your privacy at a risk. Taking a social media detox involves deleting the unnecessary apps and accounts that help provide with the best possible privacy protection.

No More FOMO
No More FOMO
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Social media is addictive. It keeps you updated on what your friends are up to, the new things they are buying or the new activities they are trying. That ultimately becomes your obsession. You want to know about everything they are doing in their life, which gives birth to the fear of missing out (FOMO) on certain things that they are doing or the places they are going but you cannot somehow. Maintaining a distance from social media for some time keeps FOMO at a bay. It helps you maintain a happy and balanced real life.

Reduces Anxiety
Reduces Anxiety
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By witnessing the achievements of their friends and loved ones on social media, people end up comparing themselves to everyone they know. That has a severe impact on their self-esteem. The use of social media also gives birth to the feeling of unhealthy competitiveness that can cause anxiety and depression. On breaking up, people stalk their exes on social media. That keeps them stuck in their past and makes it really difficult to recover from a breakup. Leaving social media for a while gives you space to relax and move on with your life.

Less Social Media Means More Sleep
Less Social Media Means More Sleep
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Talk about all the sleep you lose while stalking your crush’s pictures on Instagram that takes you to a random video, which ultimately leads to binge-watching Netflix before you even notice. Forget about the beauty sleep, you don’t even get the necessary 6-hour snooze, which leaves you tired and cranky the entire next day. Avoiding late night internet surfing will let you have a sound sleep at night. It will have an amazing effect on your mental as well as physical health.

You Live In the Moment
You Live In the Moment
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The rat race of posting each activity or life event on Facebook can be a bit too much at times. There are even people who updated their relationship status immediately after getting married or posted live videos of their wedding day. It looks like these days everything people do is to showcase on social media. That can be a mental burden at times and take you out of the moment. Cutting cords with social media for some time helps you live in the moment to the fullest. Without the unnecessary burden of taking a few pictures and showing it to your followers online.

Take a break from social media to actually live life and create memories with your favorite people!

Relationships are the most vital parts of human lives. The relationship with family members, friends, colleagues, and other relatives form a major part of life. In any relationship be it with parents or love interest, communication is the key. A healthy communication in every relationship leads to fulfillment and happiness. While less and more communication leads to the death of a relationship. In the yesteryear ages, communication was pricey because there was nothing called phone (read smartphone). People waited for letters to arrive to know about the well-being or development of lives miles apart.

With the arrival of the land phone, distance in communication was shortened and people waited for a call, made a call to release their stress, and talked to make someone feel better. But now in this age of extensive communication, sometimes it feels that life was better back then. We all live in a society where everyone is available virtually – the uncle of USA, the aunty of UP – everyone is active on social media. This is a sign of progress for sure but this has also led to some unwanted and unnecessary tensions in relationships.

The friendships or relationships with people was way better and healthier back in those days. For example, in a long distance train, initially in your younger days, you must have met an uncle, aunty, and their kid and shared food, gossiped about the society, gave your opinion about the current political system, etc. and while saying a goodbye perhaps taken their contact number and called them up sometimes! Or at least, you remember the words and laughter exchanged. But now when you look at the railway stations or airports, everyone is either busy on their laptops or mobile phones checking everything through apps, chatting with virtual friends, shopping online, etc.

The barrage of things like Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. have opened many avenues for many people. When taken positively, they help in constructing people but it is definitely taking a toll on personal relationships!

Here are the ways it is affecting our personal space and relationships:

Expecting Unrealistic Goals From Partner

Social Media posts about celebrities tying the knot in a certain way or about other couples who are spending a great time in some exotic locales or seen proposing to each other in some unconventional manner often create a jealousy in mind. You may start expecting these things from your partner too completely forgetting that your significant other loves you, wants you, and cares for you in the way he/she feels ok. Somewhere, you have forgotten to be happy in your way. Because you are busy comparing your life and relationship with what you are seeing “online”. You forget that people tend to show their better version of themselves on these platforms. So, remember that what you and your significant other want from each other are completely different from other couples and that’s why try to be happy in your own world.

The Untiring World Of Showoff

These social media platforms have become a way of “show off” to people in a big way. Initially, people used to show off only in the marriage functions or social get-togethers with their clothes, jewelry, and of course vanity! But now attending these social get-togethers are not so important. In fact, in a marriage function or any other family meet, all of you are seen busy clicking the spread of food, home décor, and a family picture for that perfect #instapost. The real happiness of meeting people, greeting them, and chit-chatting with them can happen only by keeping the phone away. You have forgotten that! Then again there is something called “official” too. Until and unless you upload a happy couple picture on Facebook, the relationship is not validated at all.

There are couples who are facing a challenge in their relationship. But the “social media” posts speak of that perfect love story! Now, if your significant other keep your relationship a secret online, then that also leads to a fight – which shouldn’t be the case! Your relationship should be accepted by you two because the whole world has got nothing to do with it. And pragmatically your social friend circle won’t be there to take care of you in your emotional breakdown.

Privacy Of Relationships

Privacy and social media are like two parallel lines – simply reluctant to meet each other. There are people who keep on posting about their feelings “online” – feeling heartbroken, feeling betrayed, feeling special, feeling disgusting, etc. The couples in a relationship also post something about each other every hour or day. But, hey! Is every aspect of your relationship is for public purview? As said, the whole world has minimum interest peeping into your personal space. And most importantly when you and your partner are facing a tough time, you must deal with it tactfully personally rather than washing your dirty linen in public. The more you post about your relationship ups and downs on social media, the more you become a narcissist, egocentric, and selfish.

And when you are busy posting things about your relationship “online”, then you don’t have that time to invest constructively to your relationship. When you start sharing your personal problems online, some people often tend to be nosy. They keep asking you questions after questions and that would eat up your peace of mind and sanity.

Under Constant Surveillance

Social Media has really crept under the sheets of relationships. Many relationships these days are losing their weight due to the heavy use of social media. See, it is completely ok to check your significant other’s profile, gaze at their new DP, or reading the comments again and again. But what’s not pertinent is to keep a track of whose photos your partner has liked. What has he/she commented on a picture, and where has he/she checked in with how many male and female friends, etc.

Social Media updates about “whereabouts” is getting dangerous this way. You are under constant surveillance of your partner. Liking and commenting on someone else’s picture is not a “lack of trust” and should not bring jealousy in you. Your partner is entitled to have a personal space too. Where he/she can enjoy a drink, chit chat, and food with other friends. And that’s absolutely ok and normal!

So Easy To Trick

Be it Snapchat, Whatsapp, Messenger, Instagram, etc. – messages can be erased with a button. So, people have become smarter in hiding things like embarrassing pictures, naughty messages, and revealing voice notes. So, that ways, you can keep secrets while communicating with people on social media. Social Media gives a platform to connect to people and this is the space where people are often bold and carefree a lot more than their personal life. It is thus very easy to find attention on social media platforms. Even when you are not serious, you can flirt with people and erase the messages later – this commonly happens! People do all these things in social media and hide from their partners. Well, this doesn’t mean that you would now start having a hunch on your partner’s credibility. But do check that you are not doing all these things.

Overall, social media is definitely not going to erase now. It would grow bigger in the upcoming years and that’s why you should iron your ways to use it. While you have started to use social media, obviously you don’t have all these aforesaid intentions in your mind, But this is a web where people often slip. Have clear intentions and conscious because social media alone cannot eat up your relationships, but the way you operate it would kill your relationships. Make it a habit of sitting with your real friends, family members, and relatives without your phone. Because what you share with these people is going to enrich your life and not your social media personality!

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