Every relationship asks for something or the other. And everyone, be it a man or a woman has basic expectations out of their romantic relationship. This question waltz in everyone’s brain when they are in a relationship. “What does he want?” is what every woman seeks an answer to.
This question has been asked by women in the past, today, and it will always be asked in the future too. Reason being no one really knows what they want. But these basic cornerstones to form a healthy or a stable foundation for any relationship is what you could know & keep in mind.
There are times when your relationship gets rocky and you don’t know what went wrong. This is when the question arises, you ask your partner multiple times what do they want and they have no answer. Your partner goes all mum because they really don’t know how to make you understand what they want. Talking about Understanding, let’s start listing the 4 things that a man expects from his relationship (P.s. I assumed this is what they want)
The basic requirement of any relationship is “mutual understanding.” Men expect their lady to understand them (even if they DON’T). It’s expected out of you that you understand why your man was late to the date night or why hasn’t he answered your calls. But keeping aside the silly reasons, he really expects from you to understand if he had a long tiring day when he’s occupied with a pile of work or anything that requires his attention. He wants you to ‘GET’ him like no one else. And if your partner lacks this cornerstone, the best exercise is to communicate. The more you communicate and share your life experiences, the more it will help your partner to understand you.
With a better understanding comes companionship. No one likes to be alone. Similarly, men hate being alone. And when they are with someone they expect to spend time with their partner. On one hand, they want their woman to have meaningful conversations and on the other, they also want to have fun dates with them. They love it when their woman loves or even shows interest in what they love to do. Isn’t it exciting when you have similar interests? And then you decide and plan to hang out doing exactly what you both like? But isn’t it important to indulge and know what you partner likes? Men really appreciate when their woman spends time, let’s say, playing games with them (Mind games aren’t appreciated), watching their favourite Football team play, going out for adventures or whatever that your man likes to do. It’s the same when you like him being around while you splurge on shopping or get your nails done (how sexist, eh?) But yeah, this explains the 2nd cornerstone.
One thing that men really expects or wants from his relationship is intimacy. Quite a lot of men are actually vocal about this topic. Few of them have clear intentions about intimacy, that it is one of the important things in a relationship. But there are a few for whom the relationship revolves around this. For the former part, I’d suggest you stick around and try to learn what & how things evolve to have that intimate relationship. But for the latter, you must pack your bags and leave. Intimacy is a biological need and nobody should be blamed for wanting it. With intimacy, comes a bit BUT (yeah that too, but that’s not the point here). Fulfillment in intimacy is what keeps both happy. It can help them get closer but isn’t the only thing that can keep the relationship last longer. The conclusion is, intimacy is important but isn’t enough. Anyway, it does play a vital role in being the 3rd cornerstone.
I know I didn’t start with ‘Respect’ as the first cornerstone, but nevertheless, it’s the most important one. Respect is important for the teenager that just started to experience what a relationship feels like, or for one who had a divorce. Respect is one important cornerstone that builds a relationship stronger, no matter what the relation is. Even a relationship with your pet requires respect (not that I’m comparing your romantic relationship to that). It is for both and not necessarily for men to expect respect out of a relationship. It is required to survive. Men expect that if you allow them to be their selves you’re being respectful to them. If you feel you’re clueless about how to show that you do respect him, here are few ways; don’t judge his thoughts or opinions, don’t make ‘awkward’ gestures when you don’t agree with him, be grateful/thank him for his favors and help.
Practicing these basics can really help your relationship in a healthier way. These are the 4 basic things that I believe men really expect from their relationship. So if you are a man reading this blog, I know you’d agree but if you’re a woman I am with you when it comes to understanding men, just how it’s tough for them to understand “Women”.
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